Ruth A Wright, MFT, LPC

03/12/2026

Lets look at the victim role. Do you set yourself up to be a victim, someone that people can take advantage?

1. Is it easier for you to stay silent instead of asking for what you want?

2. Are you too committed to pleasing others?

3. Are you desperate to be loved?

4. Do you keep quiet in your anger?

5. Are you able to say NO, and set limits and boundaries?

6. Do you end up feeling lost in relationships?

7. Are you afraid to disagree?

8. Do you apologize so often it has become a habit?

9. Do you feel insecure, especially in relationships?

10. Do you minimize your problems in relationships and avoid addressing them?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be struggling in the victim role. Feel free to reach out for an appointment to talk about how to step away from being a victim. Video and inperson sessions are available.

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03/12/2026

Lets look at the victim role. Do you set yourself up to be a victim?

1. Is it easier for you to stay silent instead of asking for what you want?

2. Are you too committed to pleasing others?

3. How desperate are you to be loved?

4. Do you keep quiet in your anger?

5. Are you able to say NO, and set limits and boundaries?

6. Do you end up feeling lost in relationships?

7. Are you afraid to disagree?

8. Do you apologize so often it's become a habit?

9. Do you feel insecure, especially in relationships?

10. Do you minimize your problems in relationships and avoid addressing them?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be struggling in the vicitm role. Feel free to reach out for an appointment to talk about how to step away from being a victim.

Send a message to learn more

03/09/2026

The Karpman Drama Triangle. Devised by Stephen Karpman to illustrate how people shift between the roles of victim, rescuer, and perpetrator or persecutor.

The Victim: this person may feel helpless and oppressed, they may be a true victim, such as someone who is an abusive relationship, someone who has been in a car accident, someone who has been injured in a fall, or any other way person may be injured.

The Rescuer: this person comes to save the day, often we find them in helper roles, 1st responders, doctors, nurses, and even therapists.

The Perpetrator/ Persecutor: they like being in charge, they don't like taking responsibility, they can be very critical.

These roles will shift. We can play each one of these roles multiple times a day. The best way to observe these roles is to watch any comedy or drama TV show. These rolls make for great laughs and for great suspense.

Later in the week we will examine how these can be abusive.

04/07/2025

Everyone needs to watch this video.

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12/30/2023

The Cockroach Theory
The cockroach theory for self-development
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady.
She started screaming out of fear.
With a face stricken with panic and a trembling voice, she began to jump, both her hands desperately attempting to rid herself of the cockroach. Her reaction spread like wildfire, causing everyone in her group to also become panicky.
After a valiant effort, the lady succeeded in pushing the cockroach away, but to everyone's dismay, it landed on another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the second lady in the group to carry on the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.
A beautiful way to understand
LIFE.
The HAPPY person is not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life.
He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right!
credits to: Divya Bhrambhatt

10/10/2023

This is true of grief, hurts, and trauma. I referenced this yesterday with a client to help them see how they have grown around their trauma.

05/03/2023

01/26/2023

“By putting it into words, I can make it whole: this
wholeness means it has lost the power to hurt me.”
Virginia Woolf

This is so important for individuals with trauma that do not want to voice what happened.

08/11/2022

Unclench your jaw
Relax your shoulders
Take a deep breath