09/18/2025
We live in a culture that promises five easy steps that will help you change in 21 days â break a habit, start a streak, fix yourself with enough willpower. But trauma doesnât work that way.
What looks like a âbad habitâ is often a survival strategy â something your body learned to protect you when danger left no other choice.
Shutting down, lashing out, numbing, perfectionismâŚthese werenât flaws. They were your bodyâs way of keeping you safe.
And this is why quick fixes fall flat. You canât punish or discipline a trauma response into disappearing. If willpower were enough, youâd have fixed this already. Healing happens deeper â in your nervous system, as it slowly learns that safety is possible again.
Real change rarely looks dramatic. It shows up in small shifts â a breath that settles you, a night of rest without dread, reaching for connection instead of isolation. These arenât âsmall winsâ that accumulate over time. Theyâre your nervous system practicing safety â and practice rewires.
The climb may be slow, but hereâs what makes it worth it: healing doesnât just take away pain. It creates space for joy, for connection you can actually trust, for feeling at home in your own body. And thatâs something no quick fix could ever give you.
