Aligned EMDR & Counseling Amy Lowery, LMFT

08/06/2025

For everyone who’s ever been called lazy…

Not motivated enough.
Not trying hard enough.
Too sensitive. Too distracted.

You heard the words - maybe from a teacher, a parent, a partner, a boss.
Eventually, you started saying them to yourself.

But here’s the truth:
You were never lazy.
You were navigating executive dysfunction without a map - without support - without language for what your brain actually needed.

For late-diagnosed autistic, ADHD, and AuDHD women, this is not a personal failing.

Save this if you’re still unlearning the “lazy” lie.

📩 DM me if this hits - this is the work I do every day with women like you.
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08/01/2025

Autistic and AuDHD adults are often told to “just be present.”
But presence isn’t a mindset. It’s a nervous system state.

Years of masking, sensory overload, and performance-based self-worth take a toll. If you’ve felt like a spectator in your own life - you’re not alone.
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07/28/2025

For many neurodivergent women, binary thinking is a way to create clarity, safety, and order. It’s not always about negativity- it’s about reducing cognitive load.

In therapy, we don’t try to erase this thinking. We get curious about why it shows up, how it protects you, and what it might be trying to say. And then- gently- we build capacity for nuance, ambiguity, and “good enough” thinking that actually feels safe.
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07/25/2025

For some autistic women, eating disorders aren’t about the mirror -
They’re about regulating a nervous system that’s constantly overwhelmed.

Food becomes a tool for sensory management, emotional numbing, or creating structure in a chaotic world.

There’s a deeper story behind your relationship with food. And that story deserves compassion.
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07/18/2025

Ever find yourself replaying that conversation from three days ago… while trying to fall asleep… again?

If you’re neurodivergent (ADHD, autistic, or AuDHD), your brain might default to overthinking as a way to solve problems, seek safety, or make sense of social stuff that felt confusing or intense.

This isn’t you being dramatic or negative - it’s your brain working overtime in ways that are deeply wired.

In this post, I break down what rumination really is, what causes it in neurodivergent women, and what can actually help when your thoughts won’t quit looping.

🤍Let me know if this resonates
🤍Save this for the next time you’re stuck in the spin cycle
🤍You’re not broken - your brain is just very, very thorough
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07/05/2025

For many neurodivergent women, life can feel like a constant balancing act between needing routine to feel grounded, struggling with sensory overload in chaotic spaces, and feeling intense emotions that others might brush off.

You may find yourself resisting even the smallest demands (PDA), feeling deeply hurt by perceived rejection (RSD), and often fighting for equality and respect in spaces where you’re not always seen or heard.

The slides above are some lesser-talked about common traits and ways neurodivergent women have experienced themselves in a neurotypical world.

It’s easy to internalize the belief that there’s something wrong with you that you’re ‘too much,’ ‘too sensitive,’ or ‘too different.’ But here’s the truth: None of these traits make you less than. They make you unique, strong, and deeply connected to your own needs. 🦋
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04/02/2025

One of the resources in therapy sessions that I use with clients is called “safe space.”
This is a real or imagined place you can visualize in your mind that’s associated with calmness, peace, and serenity ☀️
When you pick a place that fulfills those feelings for you, visualize it a few times a day in your mind while calm.
You’ll start to associate your safe place with feeling calm and your nervous system will regulate to that level over time.
If it’s hard to feel calm, imagine a loved pet or child in a bubble and really feel the emotion of love when thinking about them. Then bring your safe space into the bubble with the feeling you have for the pet or child. You’ll start to associate the feeling with the place 🩷
Do it a few times a day and you’ll start to condition your nervous system to calm itself when thinking of your safe space.

09/21/2024

-Therapy
-Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real
-Complex PTSD by Pete Walker
Resources couples can use to start working on themselves and their own personal growth together 🩷

09/05/2024

Healthier endings for our favorite problematic children’s books 😜

Alternate endings to beloved but problematic children's literature.

05/30/2024

Your nervous system is what determines how you feel! I talk a lot about my clients’ nervous systems each week 💖 thank you

05/17/2024

One of the books I recommend the most to clients is Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, shown here. Many people understand attachment but there are many who haven’t heard of it and don’t understand how attachment works in relationships.

A couple of the biggest misunderstandings I talk about with clients is that attachment can change based on the person you’re with, as well as that person’s attachment mixed with your own~

As well as the fact that your partner or spouse becomes your primary attachment figure after your primary caregiver(s) in your childhood. That’s why relational wounding can be so traumatic- your attachment figure has become unsafe to you.

Learning more about attachment and how it works can transform a relationship!

04/15/2024

Got our new sign today! 👏👏👏