Renee Minx

Renee Minx Ready to heal deeply from narcissistic abuse? 🐦‍🔥DM me “coaching” to learn more! Linktr.ee/reneeminx Does that part of you, when alone, feel like impending doom?

Renee Minx // Metta Holistic Therapy

Do you work so hard to pretend everything is okay but deep down there is a fear that you are not good enough? Do you get stuck in your head, feel disconnected from your body and struggle to understand your emotions? You are in the right place. You may not know where these struggles come from or maybe you know they come from your unresolved past. You deserve to feel better. There is no better time than now to heal and be happy. We will tackle the root causes of your present day struggles to heal not only in the short term but also the long term. Therapy means you don’t have to feel alone in your pain anymore. We can brave this process together. Change is possible! I specialize in working with trauma, PTSD, sexual abuse, depression, self-esteem issues and anxiety. I am trained in the research-based interventions of EMDR, IFS, mindfulness, inner child work and somatic experiencing. I believe you found my page for a reason. To get started, reach out via email to set up a free consultation. You are worth investing the time and energy into to have a more fulfilling life. It is possible to move from feeling lost to feeling safe and content. There is hope. Limited spots available so reach out now! I am available for in person therapy sessions in Morgantown, WV and for virtual sessions anywhere in North Carolina or West Virginia. Call (and leave a voicemail), text, or email today to schedule your free 15-minute consultation. During the call you can share a bit about you and your story, ask any questions you may have, and together we can figure out how I can help. I respond in 48 hours, Monday through Thursday, to all calls, texts, and emails, and sometimes sooner! There is hope and you are worth investing the time and energy to live a more fulfilling life. I hope you’ll reach out. Nothing but love,
Renee Minx, MSW, LCAS, LCSW, CSI
Metta Holistic Therapy
reneeminxtherapy@gmail.com
304-449-4490

03/11/2026

As a trauma therapist and narcissistic abuse expert, one of the most painful things I hear survivors say is:
“I should have known.”

But that belief is often hindsight bias, not truth.

Hindsight bias is when your brain looks back at a situation with the information you have now and assumes you should have known it back then. But when you first entered that relationship, you didn’t have the full picture.

You saw some red flags, sure.
But you probably also saw yellow flags… green flags… even white flags.

Maybe they were charming. Attentive. Vulnerable. Maybe they told you about their trauma, their past, or their fears. Maybe they love-bombed you, made big promises, and created a sense of deep connection early on.

By the time the manipulation and confusion started, you were already emotionally invested.

So if you catch yourself thinking things like:

• “Why didn’t I leave sooner?”
• “I should’ve known better.”
• “This is my fault for ignoring the signs.”
• “What’s wrong with me that I stayed?”

Pause.

That voice isn’t truth. It’s your brain trying to create control after chaos.

You didn’t make decisions with the knowledge you have today. You made decisions with the limited information you had at the time.

And the responsibility for abuse doesn’t belong to the person who trusted.
It belongs to the person who chose to manipulate, deceive, and harm.

If you’re ready to stop blaming yourself and actually heal from narcissistic abuse, I help survivors do exactly that inside my coaching program.

Comment COACHING or DM me coaching if you want to learn more.

03/09/2026

As a trauma therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse, this moment really stood out to me.

One of the most powerful things you can say to someone who keeps you confused, questioning yourself, or chasing clarity is simply:

“I’m choosing me.”

When someone repeatedly talks in circles, avoids direct answers, changes their story, or leaves you feeling more confused after every conversation… that’s not healthy communication.

Many survivors of narcissistic abuse feel like they have to become investigators in their own relationship - trying to piece together what’s true, what isn’t, and whether the person in front of them actually means what they say.

You start working overtime just to feel secure.

But healthy love doesn’t require you to be a detective, therapist, and emotional translator all at once.

Standing up for yourself doesn’t always look like yelling or fighting.

Sometimes it looks like calmly realizing:

“I don’t need to convince you to choose me. If you don’t, I’m choosing myself.”

And that is where healing really begins.

If you’re trying to break a trauma bond or heal from narcissistic abuse, this is exactly the work we do inside my 3-month Survivors & Thrivers intensive.

DM me COACHING or comment HEAL if you want to learn more.

Disclaimer: This clip is used for commentary/education. I’m not diagnosing anyone in the video - just discussing relationship dynamics that are commonly reported by survivors of narcissistic abuse.

03/09/2026

In narcissistic abuse, this is a very common pattern. A narcissist will slowly push your nervous system to the edge - criticism, gaslighting, dismissing your feelings, twisting your words, or provoking you in subtle ways over and over again.

You try to stay calm.
You try to explain yourself.
You try to keep the peace.

But your body is absorbing stress the entire time.

Eventually the glass overflows. You raise your voice. You cry. You shut down. You react.

And suddenly the focus shifts to your reaction instead of the hundreds of moments that led up to it.

This is called reactive abuse.

They provoke → you react → they point to your reaction as “proof” that you’re the problem.

I’ve worked with survivors of narcissistic abuse for over 10 years, and one of the biggest healing steps is helping people understand what actually happened to their nervous system in these dynamics.

You’re not “too sensitive.”
You were pushed past your limits.

If you’re serious about healing from narcissistic abuse and breaking these patterns, my 3-month intensive was designed for exactly this.

Comment COACHING or DM me coaching and we can see if it’s the right fit for you.

03/07/2026

One thing I see over and over in narcissistic relationships is this strange pattern: right before you’re about to see friends, family, or do something without them… suddenly there’s a fight.

It might look like:
• picking apart something small you said
• accusing you of not caring about them
• suddenly needing to “talk about something serious”
• acting cold or punishing you right before you leave
• creating so much tension that you feel anxious the whole time you’re out

So instead of enjoying your night, your mind is stuck on them.

You’re texting them.
Replaying the fight.
Feeling guilty.
Rushing home.

And slowly, without even realizing it, you start going out less.

This is one of the subtle ways control and isolation happens in narcissistic dynamics. It’s not always obvious manipulation but the outcome is the same:
*Your world gets smaller and their influence gets bigger.*

As a trauma therapist and narcissistic abuse specialist with 10+ years in this field, I see how deeply these patterns affect people’s nervous systems, identity, and sense of reality.

I’ve also lived it myself. And healing is absolutely possible.

My 3-month intensive program is designed specifically for folks who are serious about healing from narcissistic abuse and rewiring the trauma that comes with it.

I truly believe in this work because I’ve seen it change lives.

If you’re ready to break these patterns and reclaim your life, DM me “COACHING” or comment COACHING and I’ll send you the info for a free consultation.

03/03/2026

In narcissistic abuse, one of the most destabilizing tactics is the smear campaign - when they rewrite the story and cast you as the villain to protect their ego and maintain control.

The audio in this video hits because at some point you realize… they need you to be the villain.

It helps them avoid accountability.

Research on narcissistic traits shows a pattern of externalizing blame, distorting narratives, and recruiting others for validation when their image feels threatened.

And here’s the hard truth: the more you try to defend yourself, clarify, or “prove” who you are… the more fuel you hand them.

They thrive on reaction.
They escalate when challenged.
They double down when exposed.

Healing means grieving the fantasy that you’ll be understood by everyone.

It means tolerating being misunderstood.

It means letting go of controlling the narrative and choosing your peace instead.

You don’t win by out-arguing a narcissist.
You win by disengaging.

If you’re healing from narcissistic abuse and trying to rebuild your identity after being painted as the villain, I have a few spots open in my intensive coaching program. DM me “coaching” and let’s heal together.

02/28/2026

Dissociation after narcissistic abuse doesn’t always look dramatic.

Sometimes it’s quiet. Subtle. Invisible.

It’s depersonalization (feeling detached from yourself) and derealization (feeling detached from reality).

Here’s what it can feel like:
1. Like you’re watching yourself live your life instead of being in it
2. Like your body doesn’t fully belong to you
3. Numbness where emotions used to be
4. The world looking foggy, dreamlike, or unreal
5. Conversations feeling far away or distorted
6. Not recognizing yourself in the mirror
7. Time feeling sped up or slowed down
8. Memory gaps or “blurry” days
9. Feeling robotic, on autopilot
10. A quiet fear of “Am I losing my mind?”

You’re not.

Dissociation is a survival response. When your nervous system was overwhelmed - gaslit, criticized, destabilized - it protected you by disconnecting.

The problem is, what once kept you safe can keep you stuck.

Healing isn’t about forcing yourself to “snap out of it.”
It’s about gently teaching your body that it’s safe to come back online.

This is the work I do.

If you’re healing from narcissistic abuse and still feel disconnected from yourself, DM me “coaching” and I’ll send you details about my structured trauma healing program.

You don’t have to navigate this alone.

02/25/2026

Here’s how narcissists typically respond to boundaries:

1. They flip it. Suddenly you’re the “selfish” one.

2. They escalate. What was calm becomes dramatic.

3. They attack your character instead of addressing the behavior.

4. They gaslight. “That never happened.”

5. They minimize. “You’re overreacting.”

6. They guilt-trip. “After everything I’ve done for you?”

7. They play victim. Now you’ve “hurt” them.

8. They threaten withdrawal - silent treatment, stonewalling, pulling away.

9. They smear you to others to control the narrative.

10. They love-bomb or charm you later to reset the cycle.

Notice the pattern:
The conversation stops being about what they did.
It becomes about who you are.

That’s how accountability gets avoided.

If you grew up walking on eggshells or have a romantic trauma bond, this dynamic hooks you fast.

You feel the urge to explain, soften, fix it… because your nervous system equates disconnection with danger.

So you abandon your boundary to restore peace.

While healthy people may not love your limit - they don’t destroy your identity over it.

Healing from narcissistic abuse is learning to hold your boundary even when someone escalates. It’s regulating your body through the guilt, the projection, the character attacks - and not collapsing.

I’m a licensed trauma therapist and a survivor of narcissistic abuse. If you’re ready to break this cycle for real, comment or DM me “coaching.” 💛

02/25/2026

We often lose ourselves in narcissistic abuse.

Not because you’re weak.
Because you had to survive.

Here are 10 signs you may have lost parts of your identity:

1. You second-guess even small decisions.

2. You ask for reassurance constantly.

3. You over-explain yourself to avoid being “misunderstood.”

4. You feel guilty for having needs.

5. You don’t know what you actually like anymore.

6. Your confidence feels performative, not embodied.

7. You shrink in rooms you used to shine in.

8. You apologize for your personality.

9. You feel anxious when you’re authentic.

10. You don’t trust your own memory or perception.

This isn’t because you’re broken.

It’s because someone slowly taught you that being fully you was unsafe.

And over time, you adapted.

But here’s the truth:
The real you isn’t gone. She’s just been in hiding.

If you’re ready to rebuild your identity from the nervous system up - not just “think positive” but actually rewire the trauma…

I have a few spots open in my intensive healing program for women recovering from narcissistic abuse.

I’m a licensed trauma therapist and narcissistic abuse survivor, and this work is deep, structured, and transformative.

You don’t have to keep living disconnected from yourself.

DM me “coaching” and let’s talk.

09/30/2025

6 🚩 you feel unsafe in relationship ‼️

Your body is one of your greatest truth-tellers.

When you’re in a relationship that feels unsafe or manipulative, your nervous system will often know before your mind does.

Survivors of narcissistic abuse especially learn to read the signals inside themselves - the adrenaline, the hypervigilance, the constant second-guessing.

It’s true that anxious attachment can show up even with a healthy partner. But here’s the difference: a secure, safe partner won’t intensify your system into those extreme highs and crashing lows. With consistency and care, your attachment wounds can gently heal. With a narcissistic partner, your wounds are constantly reopened.

Not every person who triggers discomfort is a narcissist - but if you notice your body in a cycle of stress, fear, or “walking on eggshells,” take it seriously. These aren’t just quirks of attachment style; they are protective signals telling you to pause, slow down, and listen.

You can’t control how another person behaves…but you can take back your power by listening to what your body is telling you. That awareness is the first step in reclaiming your sense of safety and self-trust.

Stay tuned for the
a space for our stories, our strength, and our healing.

🐦‍🔥 Want to work together? DM me “coaching” if you’re a woman healing from CPTSD & narcissistic abuse and you’re ready for 1:1 support.
💛 If we haven’t met yet… Hey! I’m Renee Minx. I have my Master’s in Social Work, over 10 years in the field, and I’ve helped transform the lives of 1,000+ survivors. I’m also a survivor myself, and I’m here to guide you in turning trauma into triumph.

09/04/2025

We want safety, not secret haters 💯

A good friend isn’t just there for your breakdowns - they’re also there for your breakthroughs.

Of course, true friendship is nuanced: the people who sit with you in your darkest moments are priceless. But sometimes, people only show up when you’re down. They like feeling needed, powerful, or superior in that dynamic.

Pay attention to the ones who celebrate your wins just as much as they comfort your losses.

That’s the sign of someone who can hold your full humanity - not just the parts that make them feel safe.

✨ Because safety in relationships isn’t just about who catches you when you fall. It’s also about who claps when you rise. 🐦‍🔥

💛 If we haven’t met yet… hi, I’m Renee Minx - a licensed trauma therapist and trauma-informed manifestation coach. I help survivors of narcissistic abuse and attachment trauma turn pain into power.

🎙 Stay tuned for my new podcast Survivors & Thrivers - a space for our stories, our strength, and our healing.

🌱 Follow for free resources on healing trauma, breaking abuse cycles, and taking your power back.

09/02/2025

From a licensed therapist & survivor 🐦‍🔥

Poetry has always been so healing from me even when I was a little girl living in an abusive household.

I wrote the best poetry from the deepest pain.

It helps to redirect that energy somewhere creative.

I’m so grateful for poetry and some of the amazing poets that have meant so much to me over the years…



Comment below if any of the lines resonated with you and how.

Stay tuned for my podcast coming soon! The ultimate trauma healing podcast.

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