01/03/2025
The first few months of the new year, countless clients share with me frustrations about foiled new year's resolutions. Here are a few reasons they can be hard to keep and ways you can fix them to make them stick. This applies to goals you set at any time of the year!
• Your goals were too vague.
*•*A good example here is "I will eat healthier"...you start out with the best intentions, but without specifics, it becomes very easy to bend the rules. You go from a morning smoothie, salads, lean plant-based protein and healthy fats to justifying pizza as a health food because of the tomato sauce real quick! Instead, be specific. "I will eat 3 or more servings of vegetables daily." • Your goals goals didn't account for curveballs life can throw at you.
*•*A good example is something like, "I will run for thirty minutes every day." Why is that unreasonable?
Because life gets in the way! You get the flu, you twist your ankle, you go on vacation, you have to meet a work deadline--all of these things can make your goal hard to achieve regularly. Once you haven't been able to maintain your goal for a few days or weeks, you are more likely to give up. Instead, leave yourself some wiggle room to account for lifes ups and downs: "I will exercise 3 times weekly for 30 minutes or more."
• Your goals were unreasonable.
*•*A good example of aiming too high is when you go from 0 to 100. If you don't exercise at all, making a goal to exercise for an hour 5 days a week is bound to fail because it is too much of a jump, leaving you feeling like you're falling and eventually giving up. Instead, recognize your limitations and work up to your goals.
Remember, you can always revamp them a few months in if you want to push yourself more.
•You had too many goals to put effort into all of them.
*•*Having 10 resolutions or goals is often too much to keep track of. If you want to have success with your goals, start with 1 to 3 you are really passionate about working on and focus on those.
• Your thinking was too black and white.
*•* If you don't meet your goal one day, don't just throw in the towel. Every day is a new opportunity!