Crawford Connections, LLC

08/29/2025

Although I don't provide couples therapy, I often will meet with Individuals struggling in their relationships. This is a great book that really focuses on the partnership vs a hierarchy. I find this book really insightful and clients do as well. Thank you for actually doing the research.

The Marriage You Want Is Coming! - Bare Marriage https://share.google/h1J3yW4M4TZkHd42h

06/25/2025

Thank you to all my afternoon clients today who endured
80 degree temps and no AC in my office. I have participated in hot yoga before but not hot therapy! Maybe it will be a new modality😂 I hope not!

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05/27/2025

Adoption is a lifelong journey, not just a snapshot of time.

Let’s talk about adoption trauma.
Because someone asked a really good, honest question:
“Is it possible that some adoption trauma is learned later in life—taught rather than felt? And does all trauma have to stem from adoption, or is that being overemphasized?”

Here’s my response:
Trauma isn’t about the event. It’s about the impact—the wound it leaves behind.
Two kids can go through the exact same experience and walk away carrying totally different stories in their bodies, in their bones, in their sense of self.

So no—adoption didn’t cause the trauma.
But the separation did.
The loss did.
The unanswered questions did.
The disconnection, the confusion, the feeling of not belonging—those are the things that root deep and bloom quietly over time.

And yes, it’s possible for someone to live a happy childhood and still later on discover that their body remembers things their mind never named.
That’s not faux trauma. That’s the brain protecting a child until they’re old enough to process what happened.

And sometimes, when someone finally hears words like “relational trauma,” or “ambiguous loss,” or “disenfranchised grief,” it doesn’t plant new pain.
It names pain that’s already been there, all along.

So is there a cultural shift toward validating people’s experiences of pain and loss?
Yes—and thank God for that.
Because for generations, adoptees were told to “be grateful.”
To smile through the ache.
To ignore the empty spaces in their stories.

Now they’re finally being given permission to feel what was always there.
Not because someone taught them to be a victim—
But because they were never allowed to be human.

Adoption can be redemptive.
It can be safe and loving and beautiful.
But it only becomes holy when we stop demanding that children erase their grief for our comfort.

If a child grows up and later says,
“I had a good life, but I still carry pain,”
that’s not manipulation.
That’s honesty.
That’s brave.

And we should listen.
Because trauma doesn’t always scream.
Sometimes, it just whispers,
“Something’s missing.”

05/07/2025

I am in awe of getting to be a part of a growing team here. Check us out at www.centerforsacredspaces.com and see how we can best support you!

05/07/2025

How are you connecting with your kids today?

We’re often quick to correct, but real change starts when a child feels seen, heard, and safe. Behaviour shifts when there's connection. Lead with empathy, not just discipline.
"Connection changes behaviour more than correction ever will."

More information in my book
Guidance from The Therapist Parent
Available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com and Amazon

03/02/2025

I ❤️ that sacred spaces is a place where all ages feel welcomed to just be. www.centerforsacredspaces.com

02/25/2025

There is so much more to behaviour than most people think. Children don’t try to upset us, there is usually something behind it. They are communicating their need through behaviour. If we look behind the behaviour we can see a child who is doing the best they can

More information in my book

Guidance from The Therapist Parent

Available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com and Amazon

02/05/2025

I have an office available for rent. Please reach out if interested. Ideally, I am looking for a like-minded individual working in the health and wellness arena.

12/31/2024

Feeling blessed that so many have allowed me to walk alongside them on their journey

12/21/2024

11/25/2024

To find out our triggers we need to start being aware of our reactions. We really need to sit back and work out if our reaction really was justified. Chances are if you felt your heart rate spike quickly in response to your child, then you were triggered. When you are calm and able to think about what might have been your underlying reason for being angry. Was it anger? or was it hurt, sadness or fear? Be real with yourself, remember we can't change what we don't acknowledge. When we really look at our thoughts and feelings behind these situations we might be surprised at how unrealistic they are, but that's because they were an automatic response and we weren't able to think through them at the time.

Common thoughts behind our triggers could be:

You don't respect me

this is not convenient

I don't know what to do

I can't cope

I feel unappreciated

I expect you to do more than you can

I can't do what I want to do

More information in my book

Guidance from The Therapist Parent
Available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com and on Amazon