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07/02/2025

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05/26/2025

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05/26/2025

Reminder: good things do not fix bad things.
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If every time I say, "I hurt," you tell me that other people have it worse or that I just need to look on the bright side, it's not going to make my grief go away. It's just going to make me stop talking about it.⁣
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"Look at all the good you have around you."⁣
"At least you had them as long as you did." ⁣⁣
"Be grateful for your happy memories."

Gratitude does not work like that.⁣
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This idea that appreciating what you've got is the antidote for the pain of what you're missing ⬅️ that is a central fallacy.

Gratitude and grief don't cancel each other out. They exist side by side..
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I can be thankful that the air quality is such that I can breathe without having to think about it. I can be thankful that the sun is exactly enough million, trillion miles away that I am warm but not incinerated. That doesn't mean that my any of my pain goes away.⁣

One of the challenges here is that we think that if you're sad, you can't also be happy. Different emotions don't cancel each other out.⁣
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We are complex beings. You can have a big deep sadness and be having the best day ever, at the same time. The coolness of being human is that we don't have to choose just one thing at any time.⁣

Don't encourage someone to have gratitude for the good things that still exist. Good things and horrible things occupy the same space. Instead, mirror their reality back to them.⁣⁣
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One of the really cool things about this is that we can practice it in our everyday lives, which helps us build the skills we need to support each other when life goes sideways.
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The next time you hear someone make a statement of pain, I want you to notice your impulse to jump in and make it better for them. Notice that impulse and then DON'T do that. Instead, mirror their reality back to them. When they say, "This entirely sucks," say, "Yes, it does."

It's amazing how much that helps.⁣ It is an unfathomable relief to have a friend who will let you feel exactly how you feel.⁣
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For more on how to truly give the support you intend, visit https://refugeingrief.com/ or check out my first book, It's OK that You're Not OK, available wherever you buy books.

04/04/2025

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03/31/2025

Every single word of this. One of the BEST short explanations of grief, acceptance, change. ✨️💫

02/28/2025

I am a firm believer in acknowledging and honoring our pain and grief. Society as a whole, has historically sent the message that we are to bury our pain deep inside ourselves. As a result, many of us have not spoken of many of our individual or collective tragedies. I strongly believe the only way to begin any kind of healing is to acknowledge our collective and individual pain and all the waves of grief and emotion that accompany it.

08/22/2024

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My entire life, my sensitivity and compassion were seen as weaknesses. If I had a nickel for every time I heard, "you're too sensitive" I wouldn't need to worry about having basic needs met ever again, I swear.

I always considered others, and I still do. I was always under the impression most people would do the right thing when it came down to it. I was devastated to learn that is absolutely not the case, after observing how so many acted the past few years. It was a harsh reality check to see how selfish a majority of the country actually is.I know there are many complex reasons why they behaved the way they did, but I can't let my compassion for them dismiss the fact that their actions did and continue to do a lot of harm to others.

This is why it is so important that I celebrate myself and those who also recognize their sensitivity and compassion as superpowers. We have to preserve these qualities, but we also need to protect them. Boundaries and accountability need to accompany these qualities of compassion and sensitivity. We can understand why people are the way they are and act the way they do, but that doesn't mean we have to tolerate it. We need to hold them accountable for their actions. Some things are not OK, and we need to call those out. I believe it is essential for humanity's existence on this planet that we do.

So to all of you who care deeply, I give you a standing ovation and five stars for how amazing you are! Without sensitivity and compassion, humanity would cease to exist. Keep caring, but also keep holding those who don't accountable.

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08/19/2024

08/08/2024

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I am a firm believer in acknowledging and honoring our pain and grief. Society as a whole, has historically sent the message that we are to bury our pain deep inside ourselves. As a result, many of us have not spoken of many of our individual or collective tragedies. I strongly believe the only way to begin any kind of healing is to acknowledge our collective and individual pain and all the waves of grief and emotion that accompany it.

07/15/2024

Still my favorite quote on how to help the grieving

I admire the bluntness of Kubler-Ross. She was quoted by a reporter who had missed one of her presentations on grief. The reporter had asked her to summarize what to do for the dying and grieving. Elizabeth said, "shut up."

Often after a loss, people just don't know what to do to support those grieving. Often times many people give unwanted advice, or try and come up with solutions or become a fixer. No one needs this. Everyone grieves differently, but trust me when I tell you if advice is wanted, you will be directly asked. It is never your place to step in and tell someone how they should grieve.

There has been so much loss, these past few years, especially. I strongly feel the best support we can give each other is the gift of listening. Truly listening. This is how we support one another.

07/08/2024

Try to refrain from unsolicited advice or opinions unless directly asked. There needs to be more active listening and compassion happening

It is being heard and understood that helps us the most.

02/14/2024

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