04/24/2024
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If you are escalated, then your ability to respond with intentional words and actions will not be possible. When your child’s emotions have escalated, it’s your responsibility, as the adult, to regulate your emotions first. When you start to feel that your emotions are overwhelming you or you are about to explode, acknowledge this by saying to yourself “I do not feel in control of my emotions. I need to step away or pause or sit down”. Whatever helps you get centered. Here’s a practice to cultivate but before giving a try it’s best to take little steps by first practicing pausing and taking slow, deep breaths in those moments when you feel tension building up in you. Do this until it becomes a habit and your natural response.
Keep your focus on your slow deep breathing and you’ll notice that space will be created for your emotions to move through instead of getting stuck and potentially becoming explosive. Breathe out those emotions and acknowledge them to yourself. When you do, you will be creating space for your emotions as you allow them to flow through like water flowing in a river. You can say words to yourself like, “This is really, really hard” or “My child really needs me to be their safe harbor” or “I know that this too shall pass”.
This practice will help you learn to self-regulate and gain control over your feelings. The space you create becomes a safe container for your emotions to flow through. You’re not stopping or squashing your emotions, instead the safe container creates a boundary - like the banks of a river does for the water that flows through.
As you acknowledge your feelings, maybe it will help to have a visual (like water flowing in a river). Are your feelings flowing fast and furious? Is the current rough?
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