09/24/2025
I talk about libido with my patients... it can be a cautious topic to approach because everyone has a mix of feelings about it and there is commonly some experience of shame mixed in. This is why I like to talk openly about it and am sharing here. You're not alone...
For me, I used to think that libido was something that some people just had and some people didn't. I was in the "not much" category.
As a naturopathic doctor and Qi Gong instructor, I’ve treated hundreds of women with hormone imbalance. Some respond beautifully to therapy. Others—despite “perfect” labs—remain completely numb.
That was my story, too. I tried everything: supplements, hormone replacement, lifestyle changes....
Until I started addressing what was buried underneath.
The real libido blockers...
In Chinese medicine, sexual vitality = life force energy. And the biggest blocks I see?
👉 Anger we’re told not to feel
👉 Grief we never fully process
👉 Fear of being too much, wanting too much
👉 Shame. Shame. Shame. Personal, ancestral, generational.
When these emotions and energies stagnate, libido stagnates with them.
Hormones are messengers. But if the “energetic pathways” are kinked, the message can’t get through.
It’s like pouring water into a hose with a knot—nothing flows.
That’s why some patients thrive on hormone therapy while others, with identical labs, feel nothing.
For me, it wasn’t until I faced years of suppressed anger—rage I didn’t even realize I was carrying—that my body woke up.
Behind the anger was grief. Behind that, shame.
And once that energy started safely moving through and out of my body?
👉 My libido / life force came back stronger than ever
👉 My cycles regulated.
👉 My energy and creativity soared
👉 My life changed
Low libido isn’t always a chemistry equation. Often, it’s an energetic traffic jam caused by unprocessed emotions.
Because sometimes it's not hormones. It’s permission to feel. This is true for women and men.
Because of my own journey, I became certified as a Womb Awakening practitioner through the Institute of Feminine Arts. In my retreats, I teach and guide women how to move through the emotional layers that block their life force and creative energy. We use Qi Gong, we talk, we breathe, we dance, we laugh, and we draw from ancient practices and wisdom that celebrate our life force energy.
If this calls to you, reach out. I have 2 spots left for my November retreat!
