11/02/2024
I’m hearing it more and more with my clients healing their relationship struggles-
“I want to open up more, but it’s hard because…”
-If they knew what I’ve been through, they’d say “That’s too much baggage, I’m outta here!”
-If I’m REALLY my full self, I’ll intimidate them, overwhelm them, or just drive them bonkers with my energy and drive.
-If I’m vulnerable and not “On”…they’ll really see me and notice that there’s really nothing of value there
-If they knew my past, they’d consider me a walking red flag
Seriously…ENOUGH!
Enough excuses, my love.
You have a story, a past, a redemption arc, a growth journey…THAT’S PRECISELY WHAT MAKES YOU INTERESTING AND GIVES YOU DEPTH! There is nothing inherently shameful about you or your past, and nothing to stuff under the rug out of guilt unless you refuse to heal it and continue making the same choices (in which case, it’s going to show up anyway whether you’re open about it or not)
And to go around hiding and holding back what YOU think are your worst aspects only robs the right people of the ability to truly SEE and understand you.
My sweet friend, stop burying the parts of yourself that you’ve been judging. Love them, heal them, acknowledge the skeletons in your closet and let them get a bit of sunshine.
When you can have the same compassion for your demons as you do for the demons of others, then you’ll be truly invincible, and what felt like “vulnerability” will thaw and melt into deep connection.
Need help with this? DM me, I’ll get you on a nickname basis with the skeletons and help you move from defense to connection in time for Valentines Day✨
