04/13/2026
For the mothers that feel like there’s no other choice but to make it comfortable for everyone.
This doesn’t apply to you if you absolutely know your mother is more than welcome after your birth, especially when they’re intentional about their visits and come with a heart ready to serve. It’s profoundly sweet and necessary to have a mother figure in the home after birth. That is sacred for you 🩷
But if you have a gut feeling that your mother or quite frankly, anyone at all, might make your earliest weeks postpartum a bit more tense, uncomfortable, influenced, or controlled by someone else… you do NOT need to let them over.
Did you know that’s okay??
It can be one of the most liberating things you could do for your own heart in such a tender time.
To create space so you can be completely present with your own new baby, trust your own instincts alongside having a trained or aware postpartum wise woman alongside you. You have permission to be in your home like a mother princess for weeks on end.
I don’t recommend spending the 6 weeks alone entirely, in fact quite the opposite. Ideally there is human connection every single day, but allow it to come from the ones you truly trust. A dear friend, community of other mothers who get it, an experienced postpartum doula, elders and healers who you also trust.
I know it’s hard and I know it’s nuanced.
But just remember that you absolutely CAN say no and it doesn’t make you “bad” or “disrespectful”.
You aren’t trying to hurt anyone. You’re just putting yourself and your baby first.
Love you 🩷🩷
