07/01/2024
"That which I cannot create, I do not understand"
~ Richard Feynman
There is a quality of mystery in grieving, a quality to which you must relate without ever understanding. Your grieving may be full of questions, emotions of every kind, mental anguish and resentment, even obsession. But it is none the less a process and one day you will wake up and find much of it behind you. The process is hastened by facing, quite experientially, into grief, not trying to run from it. Realize that grief flows from a powerful spiritual/evolutionary force developed over millennia. It may be new in you, but it is not new, by any means, to the human experience. It is as universal and as old as human consciousness itself.
As a powerful force, and impactful energy, grief settles into humans who have experienced loss in countless forms. Based on our unique personalities and the circumstances of our loss, as well as the quality and dynamics of that relationship, we encounter grief like a visiting stranger. As our loved one left our lives, this stranger, grief, moved in in his or her place. Just as we had to get to know the person we loved, build a relationship with them, now we must build a relationship with grief. The more we discount the process and think of it as a nuisance, and only wish for it to leave, the harder it is to learn its lessons.
The very idea of accepting something which can be so painful is at the root of this feature and quality of mystery. You cannot understand it, but you can face it, encounter it and honor it, and stop running from it. I won’t understand what I’m going through (at least completely), nor do I need to. I only need to allow the energies of my own life the freedom to be experienced as they will, and to learn the lessons they bring to teach.
~ Bill
Hope for Healing Grief Support Group
Tuesday, July 2nd at 7:00pm
1026 Granary St.
New Harmony, In.
