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06/27/2025

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Gisèle Pelicot, whose extraordinary courage captivated France and the world during the harrowing trial of her ex-husband and 50 other men for drugging and ra**ng her, has won her privacy battle against Paris Match magazine -- and promptly donated the entire €40,000 settlement to support s*xual violence prevention organizations! The magazine had published unauthorized photographs of Gisèle's post-trial life, prompting her successful legal action that resulted in two €20,000 payments to associations supporting s*xual violence victims. This resolution highlights the critical distinction between choosing to waive anonymity in court -- a decision Gisèle made to shine light on s*xual violence -- and surrendering one's fundamental right to privacy thereafter.

The settlement marks another chapter in Gisèle's courageous journey to reclaim her autonomy after enduring almost a decade of unconscionable violations orchestrated by her former husband, who was convicted of drugging her and facilitating her r**e by dozens of strangers. Despite the shocking revelation that Paris Match had published personal photos of her new life without consent -- a particularly disturbing action given that her original victimization involved being filmed without knowledge or consent -- Gisèle has once again demonstrated extraordinary resilience. As her lawyer poignantly stated, "She became a public figure unwillingly," yet by refusing to be silenced, Gisèle continues to transform her experience into a powerful force for change.

Kudos to Gisèle for transforming her personal tragedy into a powerful beacon of hope for s*xual violence survivors everywhere!

Gisele's daughter Caroline Darian has released a memoir about her and her mother's experience and how they helped give voice to many women who had been silenced -- "I'll Never Call Him Dad Again" at https://bookshop.org/a/8011/9781464257957 (Bookshop) and https://amzn.to/4jikYpX (Amazon)

For several powerful memoirs by young women who survived and spoke out after s*xual assault, we highly recommend "Know My Name: A Memoir" (https://www.amightygirl.com/know-my-name), "Notes on a Silencing: A Memoir" (https://www.amightygirl.com/notes-on-a-silencing), and "I Have The Right To" (https://www.amightygirl.com/i-have-the-right-to), recommended for older teens and adults

For fictional stories that address r**e and s*xual violence and offer a helpful way to spark conversations with young adult readers around s*xual assault, we recommend "Speak" for ages 14 and up (https://www.amightygirl.com/speak), "Girl Made of Stars" for ages 14 and up (https://www.amightygirl.com/girl-made-of-stars), and "The Way I Used To Be" for ages 15 and up (https://www.amightygirl.com/the-way-i-used-to-be)

To start teaching children -- girls and boys alike -- from a young age about the need to respect others and their personal boundaries, we recommend "Let's Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent, and Respect" for ages 4 to 7 (https://www.amightygirl.com/body-boundaries) and "My Body! What I Say Goes!" for ages 3 to 6 (https://www.amightygirl.com/my-body)

For older kids, check out the excellent "Consent (for Kids!)" for ages 6 to 10 at https://www.amightygirl.com/consent-for-kids

There is also a helpful guide for teens on topics such as consent and coercion, "Real Talk About S*x and Consent: What Every Teen Needs to Know," for ages 13 and up at https://www.amightygirl.com/real-talk-about-s*x-and-consent

And if you know a teen girl struggling after s*xual abuse or trauma, “The S*xual Trauma Workbook for Teen Girls: A Guide to Recovery from S*xual Assault and Abuse” may help at https://www.amightygirl.com/s*xual-trauma-workbook-girls

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01/02/2025

AFTER FIFTY
After fifty, you can no longer handle restrictions...
You can’t stand a tight bra, forced dinners with your sister-in-law who inspects the dust in every corner, high heels on rocky paths, or circumstantial smiles...
At fifty, you no longer want to prove yourself. You are who you are, the things you’ve done, and the things you still want to do. If it’s fine with others, great. If not, it is what it is...
After fifty, it doesn’t matter if you have children or not; you’ll still be a mother, your mother, your father, a lonely aunt, your dog, or a bald cat you rescued from the street...
And if none of those are there, you’ll be your own mother because, over the years, you’ll have learned to care for a body you’ve finally come to love—one that grows more imperfect, but only in the eyes of others...
Who cares if half your wardrobe is the wrong size...
What matters is that your back doesn’t creak too much when you stand up, that you don’t feel lumps when touching your breasts, and that menstruation finally becomes someone else’s problem...
After fifty, you want freedom—free to say no, free to stay in pyjamas all Sunday, free to feel beautiful for yourself and not for others...
Free to walk alone; those who love you will walk with you, those who care about appearances...
You are free to sing loudly in your car, even if people stare at you at traffic lights. You’ll no longer have school records to check or mum group chats to endure...
You’ll have dreams like when you were twenty, and you’ll ask God every day for time to achieve more...
You’ll have said goodbye to the men you loved and to the insecurities that once made you tremble...
And now, just now, after devouring half of your life in big, hurried bites, you’ll discover the desire to slowly savour all the sweetness and salt of the days ahead...
~Jr Arenivas

image | Emma Thompson by Veronique Vial.

08/26/2024

No one told me
it would be like this—
how growing older
is another passage
of discovery
and that aging is one
grand transformation,
and if some things become torn apart
lost along the way,
many other means show up
to bring me closer
to the center of my heart.

No one ever told me
if whatever wonder
waits ahead
is in another realm
and outside of time.
But the amazement, I found,
is that the disconcerting things
within the here and now
that I stumble
and trip my way
through, also
lead me
gracefully
home.

And no one told me
that I would ever see
an earth so strong
and fragile, or
a world so sad
and beautiful.
And I surely
didn't know
I'd have
all this life
yet in me
or such fire
inside my
bones.
~Susan Frybort~ With gratitude for this Soul Deep Poem

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06/24/2024

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02/11/2023

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