Connectfulness

02/24/2026

Containers.

You'd think with all the garbage we overflow we'd have enough containers, but it seems we don't know where to put our grief.

And grief needs to be contained so it can be felt, known, metabolized. Grief holds what matters, it orients us.

As much as we avoid it, we're lost without it.

Grief walks us home.

Grief orients us to one another and reacquaints us with ourselves.

Grief is the way we move onwards.

02/20/2026

In today's Geography of Grief gathering we leaned into song as a container to support our turning towards grief, in all the ways it shows up. All the ways. The grief, the rage, the tenderness, the fear, the ache. The discomfort. A container to help us practice being with it, withnessing all that emerges. For it's all love. Love for what matters. Love for what's been lost. Love for what must be protected.

Stay tuned for future gatherings.

02/15/2026

This episode of Prentis Hemphill's Becoming the People podcast with Tarana Burke hits deep and true. Have a listen.

Activist, advocate, author, and co-founder of the me too movement, Tarana Burke joins Prentis for this episode. Tarana is sharing the portals that me too has opened and made possible in our culture, her framework on the solvability of sexual viole...

02/13/2026

The world is alot. So much grief and injustice. So much to witness and metabolize. And the overwhelm of it, and still needing to keep going.

It's easy to shut down, to go numb, to lose track of what we feel. Sometimes we can't tell if we're protecting ourselves or abandoning something important.

This space is an invitation to come back to yourself. Not to figure things out. To be in relationship with what's emerging from within. To be present with your emerging noticings.

Being with and meeting discomfort is part of that. Especially discomfort that asks us to look inward. To notice what we've taken for granted. To question what we've been taught to trust. To feel into what sits okay and what doesn't.

A reckoning that deeply matters. That's rooted in healing, inside the messes. That reorients us to the gravity of this moment.

A gravity that needs to be felt and witnessed and experienced. When we let ourselves feel it, it shows us where we are.

And maybe, guides us where we go next…

This is an invitation to gather.
Without agenda or performance.

Just us sweet humans, gathering together in community, in real time, bringing what we're carrying.

Grief. Anger. Tenderness. Uncertainty. A desire to feel less alone.

Our next Geography of Grief gathering is on Thursday, February 19th from 12:30-1:30p eastern, online & free. Please preregister to join us.

The world is alot. So much grief and injustice. So much to witness and metabolize. And the overwhelm of it, and still needing to keep going. It's easy to shut down, to go numb, to lose track of what we feel. Sometimes we can't tell if we're protecting ourselves or abandoning something important. Thi...

02/12/2026

02/10/2026

The world is alot. So much grief and injustice. So much to witness and metabolize. And the overwhelm of it, and still needing to keep going.

It's easy to shut down, to go numb, to lose track of what we feel. Sometimes we can't tell if we're protecting ourselves or abandoning something important.

This space is an invitation to come back to yourself. Not to figure things out. To be in relationship with what's emerging from within. To be present with your emerging noticings.

Being with and meeting discomfort is part of that. Especially discomfort that asks us to look inward. To notice what we've taken for granted. To question what we've been taught to trust. To feel into what sits okay and what doesn't.

A reckoning that deeply matters. That's rooted in healing, inside the messes. That reorients us to the gravity of this moment.

A gravity that needs to be felt and witnessed and experienced. When we let ourselves feel it, it shows us where we are.

And maybe, guides us where we go next…

This is an invitation to gather.
Without agenda or performance.

Just us sweet humans, gathering together in community, in real time, bringing what we're carrying.

Grief. Anger. Tenderness. Uncertainty. A desire to feel less alone.

Our next Geography of Grief gathering is on Thursday, February 19th from 12:30-1:30p eastern, online & free. Please preregister to join us.

02/10/2026

Now forming a phase 1, certification track, deliberate practice group for those who are STAIR Method Level 3 trained. We have room for a few more participants to join us. 12-sessions, Mondays from 6-8p eastern. Reach out if interested.

01/29/2026

01/29/2026

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

01/20/2026

Most people don’t realize that life doesn’t repeat because of fate — it repeats because of loops.

This image shows two very different cycles we can fall into, often without noticing.

At the center of both is INTENTION.
Not the intention we say we have — but the intention we act from when things get uncomfortable.

🔁 The Victim Loop

This is the loop of unconscious living.

Something happens. A situation triggers discomfort.

Instead of facing it, we:

Ignore what hurts

Deny our role

Blame circumstances or people

Rationalize our behavior

Resist change

Hide from truth

And then… the same situation shows up again.
Different face. Same lesson.

The Victim Loop feels safe because it protects the ego.
But safety comes at a cost: stagnation.

Nothing grows here. Nothing heals here.
Only stories do.

🔁 The Accountability Loop

This is the loop of conscious growth.

The same situation arises — but this time, we choose differently.

We:

Recognize what’s really happening

Own our response, not the story

Forgive ourselves and others

Self-examine without self-attack

Learn the lesson

Take action, even when it’s uncomfortable

This loop doesn’t feel easy.
But it feels free.

Because every pass through it makes you wiser, lighter, and stronger.

⚖️ The Truth Few Talk About

Both loops begin with the same situation.
The difference is choice.

You don’t escape the Victim Loop by blaming less people.
You escape it by telling yourself the truth.

And you don’t enter the Accountability Loop by being perfect.
You enter it by being honest.

🌱 A Gentle Reminder

Accountability is not punishment.
It’s self-respect.

Forgiveness is not weakness.
It’s clarity.

Growth doesn’t happen when life gets easier —
It happens when you get braver.

Ask yourself today:
Which loop am I feeding — and which one is feeding me?

Because the moment you change your loop,
your entire life trajectory shifts.

01/12/2026

Relationally Rooted is a workshop series for anyone ready to deepen their relational presence through embodied, practice-based learning. Through small repeated practices, you’ll attune to your nervous system, strengthen boundaries. These practices build relational resilience and reconnect you with your felt sense.

As a past participant shared: “Something shifted in me with this workshop in how I relate to myself under stress, grief, sadness, activation, fear and/or loneliness. It offered me tools to feel emotionally safer within, as I develop an intimate and tender relationship with my inner self and an attunement to my body.”

Our next series meets online and begins February 5, 2026 and will meet every three weeks for six sessions on Thursdays from 6-8p Eastern.

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