05/20/2025
Disorganized attachment starts in chaos.
â¨When love and fear lived in the same room.â¨
When the people who were supposed to protect you also left you guessing, bracing, or hurting.
So your nervous system adapted:
âYou learned to read the room, shape-shift, stay small, stay readyâ¨âYou reached out and pulled backâ¨âYou learned closeness might come with a cost
Thatâs not a flaw. Itâs a blueprint. A survival strategy.
đ Awareness is the first step forward. â¨
Realizing: Oh. This push-pull pattern? This anxiety, this shutdown? It started somewhere.â¨That awareness can be powerfulâŚbut itâs just the beginning.
đ ď¸ The work is in what comes next.
â¨Noticing the old pattern in real time. Staying with the part of you that wants to run. Letting safe connection feel safe, one small moment at a time.
Healing disorganized attachment isnât about fixing yourself. Itâs about giving your system a new experience:â¨âSafety thatâs steadyâ¨âConnection that doesnât collapse youâ¨âLove that doesnât require losing yourself
One small repair at a time.â¨Thatâs the blueprint weâre remapping,
and rewriting,
and rewiring.
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