A Zen Stoic, New York, NY (2025)

12/09/2025

When you stop reacting and start observing,
patterns begin to reveal themselves.

Emotional reactivity clouds perception,
and often it’s the mind’s way of defending its illusions.

When something triggers you,
your unchecked emotions rush to fill in the blanks,
spinning stories faster than reality can unfold.
But when you stay still long enough
to observe instead of presuming,
a deeper rhythm emerges.

People’s behaviors, your own habits, life’s cycles,
they all start to make sense.
What once felt personal now looks predictable.

You begin to understand the cause behind the mess
that used to throw you into chaos,
and with that awareness, you gain clarity,
a kind of freedom to respond with
intent instead of impulse.

Observation isn’t passivity.
It’s one of the most powerful kinds of meditative states.
One of the highest forms of reflection.

When you stop reacting,
you stop being controlled by every shift in the wind.
And that’s when you start to work
on things that make a difference.

It’s a process, but you start diving into
the root of your situation.
—
Learn to master awareness and recognize
patterns in the book
📓 8 𝙏𝙤𝙭𝙞𝙘 𝙋𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙨 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙆𝙚𝙚𝙥 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙞𝙣 𝙋𝙖𝙞𝙣𝙛𝙪𝙡 𝙇𝙤𝙤𝙥𝙨. ⬇️

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12/08/2025

What else would you add to the list?

12/07/2025

When the winds of change blow,
some people build walls,
trying to keep the old world intact,
fighting the inevitable shift of things.

Others build windmills.
They take the same force that scares many people
and turn it into movement, creation, and opportunity.

Often change doesn’t ask for permission.
It arrives, sometimes like a breeze,
sometimes like a storm.

You can resist it and break,
or learn its rhythm and rise with it.

12/05/2025

Structure that comes from logic and principle
doesn’t cage us. It anchors us.

Structure born from dysfunctional mechanisms
that seek to hide rather than grow,
is the one that is rigid and limits us.

On the other hand, a healthy structure is like
the gardener that keeps the garden in order,
sustains it with nutrients,
and protect it from bad weeds.

Without it, the mind drifts, chasing every
emotional spark, without reflecting,
mistaking every motion for meaning,
and every exhaustion for progress.

Structure gives direction to energy.
It channels our focus, keeps us grounded
when chaos tempts us to scatter.
Discipline is not the enemy of freedom,
it’s the framework that sustains it.

Because freedom without order collapses into confusion.
And structure without spirit turns into prison.

Balance the two, and you’ll find flow,
where effort becomes “effortless”,
and your will moves with intent, not impulse.

—
👉 Discover more on how structure fuels inner freedom in
the book 📙“𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙎𝙚𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙩𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧.” ⬇️

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12/04/2025

It's important to cultivate humility
for accepting constructive critics,
crits which have a logic,
and are based on arguments.

However, the thing is that many
people criticize just by projection opinions.
Therefore, not all criticism is wisdom,
and not every voice deserves space in your mind.

So much of our energy leaks
not through failed attempts,
but through the endless need to
be understood, approved, or validated.

When you carry everyone’s expectations,
you forget how to move freely in your own rhythm.

Let others misunderstand you.
Let them project.
Their perception of you says
more about their lens than your truth.

Peace begins when you stop auditioning for acceptance
and start trusting your own judgment again,
despite its limitations and flaws.

The lighter you travel,
the farther you go.

12/03/2025

Somebody out there is taking a chance on all the things you’re still overthinking.

While you analyze every angle, they’re already in motion,
fumbling, failing, learning, adapting.

They may not be smarter, more talented, or more prepared than you.
But they’ve accepted something most people never do:
uncertainty is part of the path.

Overthinking can be like a comfort "drug" for the intelligent.
It gives the illusion of control,
a way to feel productive without facing risk.
But clarity doesn’t always come from just imagining scenarios
while not trying anything,
it comes from doing, adjusting,
living the experiment.

Those who move first often look reckless, and perhaps some are.
But the thing is, they’re building courage while others build excuses.

They know that not all plans survive first contact with reality.
So instead of polishing perfection,
they test, fail fast, and grow stronger.

Action doesn’t require 100% certainty. It creates it.

One important thing I have to add:
This isn’t about comparison or
envy towards others, it’s about clarity.
About realizing how often we let
hesitation disguise itself as wisdom,
and planning become a way to postpone action.

You can spend months refining the blueprint, the strategy, the “perfect moment.”
But while you polish, someone else is already testing, failing, and learning.

This isn’t about being reckless.
It’s about learning to trust the process more than the illusion of control...

To stop letting your thoughts
talk you out of the experiences
that would actually teach you
what you’re trying to figure out.

It's no suprise if someone out there,
with fewer resources and less preparation, is already doing what you keep thinking about.

And maybe, the real risk
is staying still while your
potential keeps moving ahead.

🔥 Learn how to break the cycle of hesitation and unlock your natural drive in the book 📙 “𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙎𝙚𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙩𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙥𝙤𝙬𝙚𝙧.” ⬇️

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12/02/2025

It’s not selfish to take case of your peace, it’s self-respect.

12/01/2025

Sometimes we find ourselves in a place where we are
pressured to adjust faster than we can process.

This is the same idea as the rat race symbolic.

And we can find ourselves in this loop in many aspects,
liek work, relationships, routines, and more.
This loop demands reaction more than reflection.
And in the rush, we start mistaking movement for progress.

We convince ourselves we’re evolving because things are changing.
But without integration, change is rarely meaningful.
True growth requires rhythm, not endless motion,
but movement followed by stillness,
a space to breathe, to digest,
to understand what that change means.

Adjustment without reflection fragments you.
You adapt, but never align.
You move, but rarely arrive.

And when this pattern becomes constant ,
when someone, something, or your environment
keeps you in a state of continuous reaction,
forcing you to adjust endlessly without space to rest or reflect,
you’re not growing anymore.
You’re stuck in a loop disguised as progress.

That’s what toxic dynamics do:
they keep you busy enough to feel alive,
but too exhausted to truly regenerate,
and live up to your potential.

Realignment begins when you reclaim your rhythm.
When you stop letting the world rush you past your own lessons,
and start processing the experiences that are trying to teach you.

—
👉 In the book 📓“How to Stop Being Toxic: 8 Toxic Patterns That Keep You Stuck in Painful Loops,”
you’ll learn how to recognize these subtle cycles,
understand why we stay trapped in them,
and how to break free,
not by running faster,
but by finally slowing down where it matters.

⬇️Available on Amazon⬇️

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11/30/2025

The greatest prisons aren’t made of walls.
They are built within,
brick by brick, belief by belief,
through every fear we never questioned,
every belief we internalized blindly,
every layer of "identity" we mistook for who we are.

People spend years decorating the cage,
calling it security, calling it success,
forgetting that the bars are
made of their own conditioning.

Yes, the world adds weight,
culture, expectations, systems, even trauma...
but what truly binds us is how deeply we internalize them.
We inherit illusions and call them truth.
We confuse the voice of survival for the voice of the soul.

Nisargadatta Maharaj said:
“𝙁𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙤𝙢 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙘𝙦𝙪𝙞𝙧𝙚.
𝙄𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚.”
And yet, to realize that,
we must first unlearn everything
that keeps us clinging to the illusion of “me.”

True liberation begins when the seeker
sees the seeker as the obstacle.
When we don't limit ourselves to just
TRYING to fix our "persona",
our outer mask, or our facade,
and start seeing through the 𝙎𝙀𝙇𝙁.

When we gaze at the fears, desires, masks, and stories,
what remains is not an improved version of our facade,
but a quieter awareness behind it all.

That is where the real kind of freedom lives,
not in becoming more,
but in being less of what we are not.

Because liberation starts by
dissolving the walls within us.

11/27/2025

Which one resonates with you most?

11/26/2025

We don’t see the world exactly as it is.
We see it through the lens of our conditioning,
through memories, wounds, fears, prejudices,
and perhaps some hopes we’ve never questioned.

And that's ok, as long as we are aware of that.
It takes intellectual humility to accept that,
a virtue which unfortunately, not all cultivate.

And just like that,
we don’t see people as they are either.
More often than not, wee see
the versions our mind creates...
the projections we cast,
the stories we fill in when (perhaps) reality feels too uncertain.

Sometimes we idealize,
other times we demonize,
but rarely do we pause long enough to see,
and reflect clearly.

True perception begins when we realize
how much of what we call “truth”
is actually reflection, our inner world mirrored outward.

To know others more clearly,
we must first clear the fog (or filters) within.
At least filter them as much as we can.

Only then can we meet people more objectively,
not as projections of what we imagine them to be.

And by doing this we set our expectations right,
which means: less disappointments, less hate coated with cynicism,
less prejudice, more understanding, more peace, more clarity, more genuine connections.

11/25/2025

There are cases where one's garden isn’t withering
because they lack talent.
It’s dying because they keep uprooting their progress
to prove to others that they’re growing.

So much time and energy spend in proving...

Every time a flower blooms,
they rush to show it off,
and in doing so, they stop it from ever maturing.

Above all, growth needs stillness.
Not insecure thirst for approval.
Not neediness.
Just care, patience, and quiet consistency.

Believe me when I say, at the end of thedya,
we don’t need to convince anyone that we're becoming.
Let our garden speak for you.
It will...
in time,
in silence,
and in full bloom.

—
📌 Save this for days when impatience tries to steal your peace.

🔁 Share it with someone who’s quietly growing in their own way.

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