My Divorce Recovery

07/24/2020

During this time of prolonged stress, it’s crucial for parents to work together to decrease conflict and make decisions for the well-being of their children. The following tips may help.

by Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D.

03/19/2020

For divorced parents who are in high conflict, parenting through crisis can be unusually challenging.

These are unprecedented and extraordinary times, to say the least! The landscape is fluid and changing minute by minute and day to day. Parents are worrying about their own health in addition to th…

03/04/2020

Already in the midst of a conflict with your ex?

The first article in this series discussed how to avoid getting drawn into conflict. If you can’t avoid it, this article outlines 5 steps for getting out of the conflict.

02/19/2020

It’s easy to get provoked and lost in the details... ,

It’s easy to get drawn into conflict, especially over email. It goes back and forth with the end result being another argument. You’re not alone, especially among those divorcing. It’s easy to be p…

01/30/2020

Healthy dialogue is the antidote to conflicts over money that can torpedo a marriage. https://bit.ly/36FbSOq

11/25/2019

Don’t romanticize the past or fret about the future.

Last year as the holidays approached, I came across a blog entitled “Coping With Divorce When the Kids Are With the Other Parent During the Holidays” by psychologist Sharie Stines. In my own life e…

11/07/2019

Society assumes that adult children are less impacted by divorce; but this is far from the truth. https://bit.ly/32o3O2d

07/08/2019

We learn from what we live.

Some time ago, I read an article in the Washington Post entitled, “My Parents Divorced Yet Continued to Live Together.” The author, Mekita Rivas, whose divorced parents lived together for 10 years …

07/01/2019

We’re living longer and feeling more empowered about ourselves and our relationships.

The term “gray divorce” refers to people who divorce later in life, generally after long marriages. In the article, “Divorce After 50: What I Wish I Had Known Beforehand” (originally published on M…

05/06/2019

The choice of a post-divorce name is self-affirming and part of the recovery process.

A beautiful poem by Israeli poet Zelda called “Each of Us Has a Name” begins: Each of us has a name given by God and given by our parents Each of us has a name given by our stature and our smile an…

04/18/2019

When done in a deliberate and sensitive way, introducing your new partner to your kids can be a proud milestone.

When a marriage ends, all parties grieve differently. The healing process for the divorcing couple often looks and feels very different from the children’s process. The myriad changes followi…