My Divorce Recovery

07/24/2020

During this time of prolonged stress, it’s crucial for parents to work together to decrease conflict and make decisions for the well-being of their children. The following tips may help.

by Jeffrey Zimmerman, Ph.D.

03/19/2020

For divorced parents who are in high conflict, parenting through crisis can be unusually challenging. https://bit.ly/3b7uSHV

These are unprecedented and extraordinary times, to say the least! The landscape is fluid and changing minute by minute and day to day. Parents are worrying about their own health in addition to th…

03/04/2020

Already in the midst of a conflict with your ex? https://bit.ly/3avrE0i

The first article in this series discussed how to avoid getting drawn into conflict. If you can’t avoid it, this article outlines 5 steps for getting out of the conflict.

02/19/2020

It’s easy to get provoked and lost in the details... , https://bit.ly/2V6L5II

It’s easy to get drawn into conflict, especially over email. It goes back and forth with the end result being another argument. You’re not alone, especially among those divorcing. It’s easy to be p…

01/30/2020

Healthy dialogue is the antidote to conflicts over money that can torpedo a marriage. https://bit.ly/36FbSOq

11/25/2019

Don’t romanticize the past or fret about the future.
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Last year as the holidays approached, I came across a blog entitled “Coping With Divorce When the Kids Are With the Other Parent During the Holidays” by psychologist Sharie Stines. In my own life e…

11/07/2019

Society assumes that adult children are less impacted by divorce; but this is far from the truth. https://bit.ly/32o3O2d

07/08/2019

We learn from what we live.

Some time ago, I read an article in the Washington Post entitled, “My Parents Divorced Yet Continued to Live Together.” The author, Mekita Rivas, whose divorced parents lived together for 10 years …

07/01/2019

We’re living longer and feeling more empowered about ourselves and our relationships.

The term “gray divorce” refers to people who divorce later in life, generally after long marriages. In the article, “Divorce After 50: What I Wish I Had Known Beforehand” (originally published on M…

05/06/2019

The choice of a post-divorce name is self-affirming and part of the recovery process.

A beautiful poem by Israeli poet Zelda called “Each of Us Has a Name” begins: Each of us has a name given by God and given by our parents Each of us has a name given by our stature and our smile an…

04/18/2019

When done in a deliberate and sensitive way, introducing your new partner to your kids can be a proud milestone.

When a marriage ends, all parties grieve differently. The healing process for the divorcing couple often looks and feels very different from the children’s process. The myriad changes followi…

04/04/2019

The ending of a marriage or love relationship can leave you starved for affection. Try to be a guest at your own banquet before looking for someone to feed you.

In a previous blog, I shared the poem Love After Love by Derek Walcott — a beautiful poem about learning to love the stranger that was yourself prior to the ending of your marriage or love relation…

03/25/2019

“Take time to know her, it’s not an overnight thing.”

In his beautiful ballad, Percy Sledge sang to us, “Take time to know her, it’s not an overnight thing.” Getting to know someone takes a long time. For many divorced people, there is a strong pull t…

02/27/2019

Mindful movement can help you integrate mind, emotion, and body.

The stress of divorce is felt through our emotions–and experienced in our bodies. It’s natural to feel tight and tense in response to common feelings of divorce, including fear, anger, and sa…

02/07/2019

Journaling can provide freedom from an internal tape that continually plays a damaging story. Lauren Behrman, PhD

It is not uncommon for our thoughts to get stuck in the mud — spinning like a wheel over and over again in our minds. These thoughts often replay the what and the why of the divorce. Over time, the…

01/29/2019

Learn more about International Child-Centered Divorce Month.

Member Article posted by Child-Centered Divorce on DivorceTownUSA.

01/14/2019

Considered the death of a marriage, divorce ranks among the most powerful stressors in adult life.

Divorce is difficult to recover from, yet critically important for your own physical and emotional health and that of your children for you to make a full recovery. Considered akin to the death of …