Feelings Forward Wellness

02/18/2025

Not all avoidance looks like avoidance. Sometimes, it looks like hustling nonstop, binge-watching another season, or perfecting every little detail—anything to keep from sitting with uncomfortable feelings. These sneaky avoidance behaviors might feel productive or harmless, but they often keep us stuck. Healing starts when we learn to pause, feel, and process instead of escape.

10/15/2024

We never just feel angry, there’s usually other emotions underlying causing the anger. But, anger is still a common and natural emotion to feel. What’s not helpful though is channeling that anger towards others or yourself when it’s not warranted. We call this displacing your anger on an suspecting person, usually someone close to you.

Here are some ways you can re-channel your anger in healthy ways. Instead of displacing, using violence, or self-sabotaging, trying writing about your anger. Try channeling it into a really dynamic art piece. Dedicate yourself to activism to make a difference in the cause you’re angry about. Let that energy out through yelling, exercise, or taking it out on your pillow.

Get to know your triggers and warning signs for anger so that you can intervene and process in a healthy way.

10/03/2024

✨ Are you ready to stop letting past trauma get in the way? ✨

At Feelings Forward Wellness, we specialize in holistic trauma treatment for individuals in New York and New Jersey. Whether you’re dealing with complex trauma, PTSD, anxiety, or attachment injuries, we are here to help you move forward.

We offer a range of transformative therapies, including:
✔️ EMDR
✔️ Ketamine-Assisted Therapy
✔️ Prolonged Exposure for PTSD
✔️ Parts Work
✔️ Yoga Therapy

We are in-network with Aetna and will also submit out-of-network superbills for reimbursement.

Take the first step today and book your free consultation! We can’t wait to support your healing.

📧 info@feelingsforwardwellness.com
📞 929-470-1186
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07/31/2024

Did you know that EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy uses belief clusters to help process trauma? Belief clusters are groups of related thoughts and feelings that shape how we see ourselves and the world. Understanding these clusters is crucial because they often contain the negative beliefs that keep us stuck in patterns of distress. By identifying and reprocessing these clusters, EMDR helps to replace them with more positive and adaptive beliefs, leading to profound healing and personal growth. Knowing your belief clusters can unlock the path to a healthier, more resilient you. ⁠
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Some examples:⁠
Safety - "I cannot trust people."⁠
Control - "I need predictability."⁠
Survival - "I'm alone."⁠
Worthfulness - "I'm unlovable."⁠
Guilt - "It's all my fault."⁠
Responsibility - "I'm responsible for everything."

07/17/2024

Feeling overwhelmed by anxiety? Try this three-step approach for relief. Start by acknowledging your anxiety: notice your physical symptoms and thoughts. Share your feelings with someone or acknowledge them to yourself by saying, "I see you, Anxiety." This recognition helps to validate your experience. Next, cope with your anxiety by using soothing techniques like splashing your face with cold water, taking a walk, deep breathing, or listening to upbeat music. These actions can provide immediate relief and help manage your symptoms. Finally, accept your anxiety by understanding that it's a part of you but not all of you. Remind yourself that this feeling is temporary and that you can sit with discomfort without needing to fix it immediately.

06/26/2024

To help you navigate these summer stressors, we’re excited to offer a new free resource: the “Peaceful Place EMDR Exercise.” This powerful tool guides you through creating a mental sanctuary where you can retreat and recharge, providing a much-needed escape from the hustle and bustle of summer life. The Peaceful Place EMDR Exercise, often used in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy, involves visualizing and mentally creating a safe, serene, and calming place within your mind. This imagined place serves as a retreat where you can experience relaxation, security, and emotional comfort.

This freebie includes a guided visualization video and detailed steps in PDF and text format. Go to the “Freebies” section on our website or subscribe to our email list to receive your free guide!

06/10/2024

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Looking for the right EMDR therapist to guide you through healing from trauma? Learn how to find the best fit and make an informed choice.

06/06/2024

LGBTQ+ individuals are disproportionately targeted for hate crimes and violence, with each statistic representing a person whose life has been impacted by fear and pain. Daily experiences of discrimination and microaggressions in workplaces, schools, and public spaces can lead to chronic stress, as each microaggression attempts to chip away at an individual’s sense of self-worth. Many LGBTQ+ individuals face rejection from their families, leading to profound feelings of isolation and even homelessness, particularly among the community’s youth. The pain of being rejected by loved ones can leave deep emotional scars and attachment injuries that are long-lasting. Lastly, discrimination within the healthcare system can prevent LGBTQ+ individuals from receiving the care and support they need and wholeheartedly deserve.

Effective trauma therapy for LGBTQ+ individuals must be inclusive, affirming, and sensitive to their unique experiences. Some of the most supportive are listed above. Providing education about LGBTQ+ issues can also reduce stigma and increase acceptance, fostering a more supportive and understanding environment. Advocating for policies that protect LGBTQ+ rights in workplaces, schools, and healthcare settings can help reduce discrimination and create safer spaces for everyone. Lastly, ensuring that therapists and other healthcare providers are trained in LGBTQ+ cultural competency can improve the quality of care and support for LGBTQ+ individuals.

Check out this extensive resource for more history, information, education, and resources dedicated to the LGBTQ+ community: https://www.feelingsforwardwellness.com/lgbtqresources

05/21/2024

While thinking about the possible reasons something may have happened helps with origin-finding, it distances us from how we feel. This may feel safe because when we feel we understand something, it creates that emotional distance.

Intellectualization looks like “channeling mental energy into a logical assessment or abstract discussion to avoid painful emotions or remain distanced from beliefs that challenge your sense of self.”

With all things in life, we need to lean into how this pain feels for us too. It may be safe to have that distance at first, but diving into the emotional experience of the pain is the only way towards growth. And the more we confront the hard emotions to more safe we can feel when they return.

04/17/2024

Self trust is a concept where we trust our own intuitions, strengths, decisions, and ability to cope with life. If you have been consistently invalidated or have the “not good enough” wound it may be hard to self trust.

Self trust is also self compassion. Trusting yourself includes knowing you are doing your best, that you are in fact good enough, can survive this hardship, and deserve boundaries and respect. Try some of these affirmations and remind yourself that you are the expert on you. And that you know yourself best.

04/05/2024

We’re thrilled to announce that Feelings Forward Wellness is stepping out from behind our screens and offering in-person services once again! Yes, you read that right – we’re back in the real world. Kelly will be dusting off her office wardrobe every Wednesday starting on April 17th, 2024. Come visit us at the Whole Nutrition Center office located at 25 Pine St # 4, Rockaway, NJ 07866. Located right off Route 80, we will be located inside the Pine Street Commons. We can’t wait to meet some of you face-to-face!

03/29/2024

Sometimes you just need a good reminder to stay in the present moment. Not in the past, not far in the future. But right now.

When you find yourself veering too far away right the here and now, try this grounding technique. Think of, name, and pay the utmost attention to 5 things you can see, 4 things you can feel, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste (this one takes all the attention). This is a good one to pull out any moment you might feel far away, anxious, preoccupied, or whatever.