Mentally Fit With Ellin

Mentally Fit With Ellin Mental Health + Mindset
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04/23/2026

There are two kinds of high standards and most people have never been taught the difference. 🎯

One is rooted in self-respect. It feels like clarity. You know what you want, you can name it, and when something doesn’t fit, you move on clean.

The other is rooted in self-protection. It’s not really about quality — it’s about control.

👉If you screen everything hard enough, nothing gets close enough to hurt you. It feels like discernment. But it’s actually distance with a really good justification.

The tell? Genuine standards feel grounding. Protective standards feel like vigilance.

Ask yourself: When something doesn’t meet your bar, do you feel clear? Or relieved?
That answer will tell you everything.

Save this if it landed. Share it with someone who calls their fear discernment. ✨

04/22/2026

Israeli music. . A room full of Jewish young professionals who chose movement over happy hour.

We ride in partnership with — supporting Jewish and israeli youth and adult amputees rebuilding their lives and building resilience from the inside out.

This is what Jewish community looks like in New York City.

A huge thank you to our incredible host committee for being involved and making this happen!

Next ride coming soon. Link in bio to join us! 💙✡️🤍

04/19/2026

What I’m seeing right now as a Jewish therapist 💙

If this resonates and you’re looking for a Jewish therapist who gets it, I’m here. You can reach out through the link in my bio. ✨

04/16/2026

High standards can be a form of control, not confidence.

A lot of high-achieving people look clear, driven, and disciplined. From the outside, it looks like strong boundaries and knowing exactly what you want.

But in my work, I often see something else underneath.

Sometimes those standards aren’t values-driven. They’re fear-driven.

There’s a difference.

Values-driven standards come from alignment. They reflect what you actually want, what matters to you, and how you want to show up.

Fear-driven standards are about protection. They help you avoid disappointment, rejection, lack of control, or vulnerability.

On the surface, they can look the same. But they feel very different.

When standards are rooted in fear, they often become rigid. Nothing feels good enough. There’s always something to fix, improve, or control.

And if nothing is ever good enough, you don’t have to fully let people in.

That can feel safe. But it can also keep you disconnected.

This is something I see often with people who are doing a lot, holding a lot, and used to performing at a high level.

It’s not about lowering your standards.
It’s about understanding where they’re coming from.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. This is a conversation I have often in my work. 🫶🗣️

04/13/2026

A lot of people try to create safety through control, performance, and staying busy.

I see this often in high-achieving clients.

From the outside, it can look like discipline or having it all together. But underneath, it’s often about trying to avoid discomfort and feel okay.

Real safety doesn’t come from controlling everything around you. It comes from learning how to be with yourself.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. 🫶

Things that keep me mentally fit and grounded as someone balancing a lot while building a business.They’re choices and n...
04/12/2026

Things that keep me mentally fit and grounded as someone balancing a lot while building a business.

They’re choices and non-negotiables I come back to that help me stay clear, steady, and connected to myself.

Mental fitness looks like emotional awareness, setting boundaries, staying consistent, and learning how to actually listen to myself.

This is the work I practice, and the work I guide others through. It’s something I care deeply about.

Curious which one resonates with you.

04/06/2026

The wellness habits I see ambitious women following that are doing more harm than good.

From the outside, it can look like discipline. But underneath it often feels like pressure, control, and being disconnected from your body.

I know that because I’ve been there. 🫤

Trying to do everything “right.”
Thinking being more strict, more disciplined, more in control would make me feel better.

But it didn’t.

What actually shifted things for me was learning how to honor my nervous system. Eating enough. Resting. Paying attention to how I feel instead of constantly trying to override it. Not being so strict with a perfect routine. Trusting my mind and body and what it’s telling me.

Health started to feel a lot more like being in tune with myself… and a lot less like something I had to control. It became a relationship.

That’s why I care so much about this work. I get to support women who are high-functioning in so many areas of their life, but feel stuck here, and help them build a relationship with their mind and body that actually supports them.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. 💗

03/31/2026

The most confident version of me didn’t happen overnight.

It was built in small moments, especially in the morning, when no one is watching.

Keeping promises to myself.
Doing what I said I would do.
Showing up, even when I didn’t feel like it.

That’s where the confidence came from. Not from how things looked on the outside, but from the relationship I built with myself over time.

I see this same shift in my clients. When they start taking ownership of their time and how they begin their day, they feel more grounded, more intentional, and more in control of how they show up. Their confidence becomes less dependent on external validation and more rooted in the trust they’re building with themselves.

I share more about this in my latest , where I talk about the power of owning your mornings and how it shapes your confidence. You can read it through the link in my bio. ✨✍️

03/30/2026

Strength training builds more than muscle. It builds discipline, confidence, and a mindset you carry into everything else.

Also wearing one of my favorite workout outfits & shoes here — linked in my bio through my 🖤

03/29/2026

What I’ve learned working with high-achieving people…

From the outside, a lot of them look like they have it together.
But internally, it often feels very different.

It’s not usually a lack of discipline.
It’s the pressure they put on themselves, the way they think, and how they measure their progress.

A lot of people are operating in all-or-nothing thinking, constantly chasing outcomes, and expecting themselves to feel better without actually building the skills to support themselves along the way.

The shift isn’t always doing more.
It’s learning how to relate to yourself differently while you’re in the process.

I write more about this — and how to actually build that kind of mental strength — in my Substack. Link in bio.

03/25/2026

Growing up, using my voice didn’t feel natural.

Dyslexia made school harder. Speaking up felt uncomfortable. There were a lot of moments where I felt behind and unsure of myself.

I never would have imagined I’d be leading conversations, speaking in rooms, and building community.

Now I find myself in all different spaces — gyms, companies, startups, organizations — sitting with people, asking better questions, and creating conversations that actually feel real.

I think about that younger version of me a lot.

What I’ve come to understand is that the parts of you that once felt like a disadvantage don’t just disappear. They shape how you move through the world. Learning how to work with them, instead of against them, changes everything.

For me, dyslexia became something I learned to understand, speak about, and even lean into. It pushed me to communicate differently, connect more deeply, and show up in a way that feels like me.

A lot of the people I work with are navigating similar things in their own way — high-achieving, thoughtful, capable, but trying to find their place in environments that don’t always feel built for them.

If you’ve ever felt that, I get it. I’m always open to those conversations. 🤍✨

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