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LCSW in NYC, NJ, DC, & MD passionate about supporting teens and adults with relational & complex trauma, ptsd, anxiety, burn out, codependency, people pleasing, and alcohol use.

09/06/2025

Soooo important to practice self compassion no matter what.⁣
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Here are a few mantras to claim - which resonates most?⁣
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Or share your own below please! ✔️

09/05/2025

✨ Control is often praised as competence… but so much of it is just fear in disguise. When we don’t feel safe, we cling tighter. Letting go isn’t weakness or bad, it means you’re learning to trust

09/02/2025

September brings lots of transitions and changes!⁣
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Swipe for 3 tips to help you get through ⁣
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And if you want more - my September newsletter is all about transitional anxiety with tips and some journal prompts!⁣
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Plus access my free nervous system workbook which is a good thing to check in with during changes - your nervous system! ⁣
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Link in bio to access ✨
Lmk in the comments if you’re going through any transitions this month!

09/01/2025

September intentions 🍂 what are yours? Share in the comments below 👇🏻

08/28/2025

Secure vs anxious attachment and then swipe for secure vs avoidant attachment style!⁣
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Anxious attachment is about fearing abandonment, rejection, and constantly seeking closeness. Those with anxious styles struggle with trust, believing things will be okay, and that they are enough for their partner. Reassurance seeking is constant and it typically doesn’t actually ever feel like enough.⁣
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Avoidant attachment is rooted in a fear of losing autonomy and independence. It’s not that closeness isn’t desired, because that’s just a human need, but it does feel threatening and overwhelming. Avoidance feel overwhelmed and shut down by emotions and their partners needs. Vulnerability and closeness feels like a threat. They often pull back when it gets too close. ⁣
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Secure attachment style is rooted in a healthy sense of self, comfort with vulnerability and closeness, trust in their partner, directness with needs and emotions, and a deep knowing that they deserve love and will find it. Conflict feels repairable and disagreements are f threats. Secured balance their own autonomy and closeness - interdependence. ⁣
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Please know if you’re with someone anxious or avoidant or are yourself - you CAN move to secure! Just takes work, willingness, and the right therapist. ⁣
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Like and share if you learned something!

08/27/2025

Perfectionism says “you can’t make mistakes” - even when you logically know perfection doesn’t exist.⁣
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✨ That tension is exhausting.⁣
✨ That inner critic steals your rest.⁣
✨ That pressure keeps you from feeling “enough.”⁣
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Mistakes don’t make you unworthy though - they make you human.⁣
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What would shift if you allowed yourself to be good enough instead of perfect?⁣
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08/25/2025

So many of us were taught that the less we need, the more lovable we are.
But needing support, care, and closeness doesn’t make you “too much.”
It makes you human!!!

✨ Your needs don’t make you harder to love.
✨ The right people will meet you in them.
✨ You don’t have to shrink yourself to deserve connection.

08/22/2025

Connection doesn’t just “happen.” ⁣
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It’s built through small, intentional actions that create safety, trust, and closeness over time.⁣
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It’s about being vulnerable, honest, and learning how to be with conflict and repair after! ⁣
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Here are 8 ways to strengthen your relationships:⁣
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💗 True vulnerability⁣
💗 Mutual empathy⁣
💗 Active listening⁣
💗 Accountability & consistency⁣
💗 Shared joy & hobbies⁣
💗 Curiosity & humor⁣
💗 Repair after conflict⁣
💗 Appreciation⁣
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Which one do you want to practice more of this week?

08/21/2025

Why do we keep chasing people who can’t meet us halfway?⁣
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When you’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, it’s not because you’re “too much.”⁣
It’s often because inconsistency and distance feel familiar to your nervous system.⁣
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- The hot and cold.⁣
- The push and pull.⁣
- The feeling that if you just try harder, maybe things will change.⁣
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But unfortunately: you can’t love someone into emotional availability. They have to want it and decide for themselves they’re ready to work on it. ⁣
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It can be done though, I do went to say it’s not impossible!⁣
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You deserve a relationship where your needs aren’t minimized but met. Consistently.⁣
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To learn more read the full blog⁣
Link in bio⁣
Or www.ak-psychotherapy.com/blog⁣

08/18/2025

Boundaries don’t always have to be a huge long convo. Just feels bigger in your head and nervous system! Here are some smaller scale ways and tips.

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