Center for Intimacy Recovery

07/11/2021

07/06/2021

Please join us this Thursday night for a free webinar looking at the root causes and treatments for s*xual addiction.
We’ll look at the following and how they can all have an impact in creating the need for a secret s*xual life:
Fear of intimacy
Entitlement
Gender roles
Emotional illiteracy
Untreated trauma
Relational immaturity
People Pleasing
Compulsion.

Link to register in bio.

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07/05/2021

07/03/2021

Join us on Thursday, July 8th, for a webinar addressing the underlying causes of s*xual addiction and how to treat it. If you or someone you know is struggling with destructive s*xual behaviors this webinar will give you a roadmap for understanding and addressing the issue.
Registration link in bio and on our website.
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09/01/2020

Guilt doesn’t feel good but it serves a purpose to propel us towards change. At the same time, if we stay stuck in it, we stay stuck in the past and can’t be in the present.

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08/27/2020

Women like s*x, not all men are narcissists,
and other truths about women and intimacy.

Much of what is discussed about s*x and intimacy is focused on men or from the perspective of a man.

Join us for a one hour discussion hosted by Gary Katz, Lindsay Ericksen, and Desiree Nazarian of the Center for Intimacy Recovery, where we will look at common misconceptions and issues specific to women as well as specific treatment approaches designed to help women with intimacy and s*x.

Topics to be discussed include but are not limited to:
· Do women really need to carry most of the weight in relationships?
· How do I know if I am compromising or settling?
· Do I have a “bad picker” that keeps choosing the wrong partner?
· How do the double standards of society impact how women act in relationships?
· What are red flags & green flags
· Do I really love “too much?”
· Are women primarily interested in relationships and men primarily interested in s*x?
· Am I really “too sensitive?”
· Are there common forms of self-sabotage that are more common with women?

When: Monday, August 31st @ 8:00 PM EST / 5:00 PM PST
Where: Virtual Live Video (via Zoom)
DM to register.


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08/25/2020

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08/23/2020

Many people have “grandma’s secrets,” small secrets like the kind an all knowing, wise, grandmother might have.
But for some, who secret keeping has led to feelings of isolation or addiction or betrayal of others, secrets are deadly. They keep one apart from the rest of the world and different and in shame. They keep one in a dark place, hidden from the light, where they can fester and grow.
Still, secrecy is often a learned behavior. Sometimes modeled. Sometimes held tight because it doesn’t feel safe to share with others. Without honesty and transparency growth is inhibited and won’t happen. Without honesty and transparency a couple can’t grow in their intimacy and heal the wounds of betrayal.


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08/19/2020

Instead of “the parts of my body I love and the parts of my body I hate.”
What a positive, gentle, self-loving way to look at oneself.
I heard this from someone the other day and was so moved by the way he looked at his body. There is so much body shame in the world in both men and women.

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08/14/2020

You. Yeah YOU.
Your ex may be crazy but You picked them.
We can easily get caught up in our stories of how others have wronged us or how they are “narcissists” or “how they.....”. It may even be true. As long as we are stuck in our stories of righteous anger and how we’ve been wronged, we will end up in the same situation again and again and again.
We need to own that we have been putting up with and accepting behaviors that we saw long before the final result. The red flags were there long ago.
Why did we ignore them? What caused us to put up with mere crumbs of love or unacceptable behaviors?
In order to not end up in the same situation, we need to figure out the answers to these questions instead of focusing on the wrongs of the others.



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08/07/2020

Anger.
Airs of superiority.
Isolation.
Avoidance.
Addiction.
Whatever the ways we push others away often began as ways to adapt and protect our hearts from getting hurt because earlier experiences of closeness or love were so painful.



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08/05/2020

As long as we are running with our story about how we have been wronged, we aren’t going to be open to other viewpoints, approaches or healing.


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08/04/2020

Close relationships are where we feel connection and where we feel seen and being seen is what we all seek.

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08/04/2020

You never know what may cross your path on your journey.


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08/02/2020

Ever give a friend the best advice and then not follow it??
We can learn a lot about ourselves alone or in solitude but we can learn even more about ourselves from our relationships, especially close ones.
One reason for this is because a different part of our brain gets activated from closeness and we respond to the different feelings and experiences from our “emotional memory” not from our purely logical parts.
We all have a PHD’s worth of learning about things for@ our childhoods whether taught as a formal lesson or observed by what was modeled for us. It is this information which is deeply embedded in our nervous system which comes out as we get close to people.

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08/02/2020