Modern MFT

08/20/2025

✨ New Book Club Pick✨

I’m excited to partner with in NY to offer a monthly mental health book club!

This month we’re reading 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘖𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘚𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘖𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳📚— a powerful exploration of love and connection beyond the traditional mold. In today’s modern landscape of relationships, where partnership can look many different ways, this book invites us to rethink what intimacy, support, and fulfillment can truly mean.💛Join us as we dive in together and explore how its insights resonate in our own lives.✨📚

08/14/2025

Be the generation where that changes. Be the generation who addressed the pain and passed on secure, emotionally attuned love.

my why 🩵

Maybe this is work you’re currently engaged in, maybe it’s brand new. Seeing our caregivers as “limited beings” is a journey in itself. When we stop to pause and assess the impact of this, it’s quite sobering to consider. It’s painful to acknowledge when our needs weren’t met. There’s grief in that. We may have A LOT of emotion around this. We may experience rage as adults. It’s difficult to walk a fulfilling path when we weren’t given the right foundation. This is where healing action steps and community comes in. Making healthier choices, improving boundaries—one step at a time—can allow us to slowly bring to life a vibrant vision for how we want to live now. Putting one foot in front of the other and taking steps to heal, steps to connect and steps to release. You are worthy of attunement. You are worthy of love and joy and positive relationships. Trauma has a way of making us believe certain things to be true that aren’t. There is unlearning that needs to happen to stand tall and worthy and it’s work worth doing. YOU’RE work worth doing.

07/02/2025

You focusing on you, doesn’t mean there’s no longer care or love. Priorities shift, and that’s sometimes painful to navigate. Be open to your own evolution💚This isn’t meant in a harsh way, it’s meant in a healing way. I understand that family of origin ties are some of the most complex, and there isn’t always a clear cut or “right” way of navigating disrepair...

With so much trending around estrangement, perhaps we need to focus on our own inner needs for a while. Meeting them, understanding them. Listening to them. This isn’t “cutting off,” this is caring for self. People often fall short, that is the nature of people—imperfect. Leaning toward self-care, curiosity, and personal accountability often paves the way to new forms of connection and belonging. And this is not to say there isn’t pain or grief involved…but it is to say that perhaps healing and growth may look a bit different from what you may have initially anticipated. And that’s okay.

07/01/2025

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/relational-health-and-emotional-wellbeing/202506/effective-communication-in-romantic

Discover how attachment styles and effective communication can transform your relationship. Learn simple, powerful tools to foster deeper connection and emotional safety.

06/10/2025

Check out my latest for Psychology Today all about the core concepts that make systemic therapy meaningful and effective! ✨

Struggling with the same patterns in life or love? Discover how systemic therapy rewires the roots—not just the symptoms—for real, lasting change.

06/10/2025

Change can be scary and necessary at the same time. Being open to your personal evolution is a courageous, transformative way to live.
Evolution means giving yourself permission to grow out of old identities, release habits that no longer serve you, and say yes to experiences that stretch you in the best ways. ✨It’s how we access greater joy, personal truth, and a more grounded sense of self. It’s how we stop reacting and start responding—with intention—to our needs and wants. Yes, the landscape shifts, and while that may feel scary at first, it opens up newness, exploration, desire, fun, and adventure…
🍃When you’re open to evolving, you stop allowing fear to dictate the terms and start seeing the unknown as fertile ground. You welcome feedback, learn from discomfort, and allow your future to look different from your past. This kind of openness invites more freedom, creativity, and connection into your life. What may “have worked” in our twenties, for example, might no longer work in our thirties, forties, etc.
The truth is, fulfillment rarely comes from playing it safe or trying to stay the exact same (just because that’s what always was) It comes from expanding—bit by bit—into the version of you that’s more aligned, awake, and alive. And the good news? That version is already within you. You just have to be willing to meet it. ✨

05/21/2025

Practicing mindfulness has been widely researched and shown to offer a range of psychological, emotional, and physical benefits. Here are some of the most well-documented, research-backed, benefits:

✨Reduced stress
✨Improved emotion regulation
✨Lowered symptoms of anxiety and depression
✨Better sleep
✨Increased compassion and relationship satisfaction
✨Enhanced focus and cognitive flexibility

If you’re looking to start a mindfulness practice or just want to explore it further in a welcoming environment, come join my next practice session!

The purpose of the group is to create a peaceful, low-key space to dive into mindful journal prompts + breath work.

05/20/2025

Times of transition can shake us. Even when we choose change like stepping away from a relationship, choosing to more intentionally work at one, becoming a parent, switching careers, or moving to a new city—it doesn’t always feel easy. In fact, it can feel overwhelming, uncertain, even disorienting. It’s like stepping onto unfamiliar terrain, where the ground beneath us hasn’t quite settled yet. And when change is unexpected-such as a breakup, a job loss, or a shift in family dynamics-it can feel even more unsettling.

When we go through major life changes, we’re given an opportunity— an invitation to reexamine what truly matters to us, to get to know ourselves in a deeper way, and to step into a life that feels even more aligned. Of course, that doesn’t mean the process is smooth or linear. There will be moments of doubt, sadness, or frustration. You might feel a pull between who you were and who you’re becoming. That’s natural. Growth isn’t about having all the answers right away; it’s about giving vourself the space to explore; to stumble.

05/13/2025

A few gentle reminders in case you need it today.💗

05/13/2025

Being present, focused on the other, and genuinely interested can help someone who struggles with being vulnerable to begin to open up. Nurturing intimacy and the space for vulnerability in relationships takes time, responsiveness, and curiosity.


I think of vulnerability as a kind of softening; an allowing.


In the context of an intimate relationship, I think of vulnerability as having two parts: being vulnerable yourself and then also allowing the other to be vulnerable with you. In relationship, you have to create the space.


Calm tones and curiosity leading the way...


Tone is very important because it helps to create safety in an interaction. Think if you wanted your partner to share what was truly going on for them, but you approach them in an angry or harsh tone...would you yourself really want to share something with them if that is how they approached you?


Vulnerability helps to create space for authentic interactions so you can gain a deeper understanding of the other and ultimately become more sensitive to them.


Feeling seen and heard in relationships is a powerful experience that promotes intimacy and connection. And it is a two way street, but you are only responsible for yourself.


When it comes to being vulnerable, how do you make space for yourself? How tolerant are you of your own thoughts and needs? Because if you are having trouble creating an allowing space for yourself, you will most likely struggle to allow yourself to share with someone else, but you will likely also struggle to create the space for the other person to share as well.


Allowing requires that we slow down and get curious about what we are feeling and take a compassionate stance. Feelings don’t just come out of nowhere, they are the result of an experience of some sort. Our reality. And we each have our own subjective reality—and it’s not up for debate.

02/17/2025

When it comes to intimate relationships, here are three questions to help you exercise curiosity with a partner:

What’s a childhood memory that shaped who you are today?

What’s a small thing I do that makes you happy?

What’s one thing I could do to make your day easier?

Looking for more inspiration? Check out my most recent article on Psychology Today!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/relational-health-and-emotional-wellbeing/202502/the-power-of-curiosity-for-improving-your?amp

02/06/2025

Loved the reflective questions featured in this article! If you’re feeling stuck or off track lately, taking some time to think about what’s truly important to you can feel motivating and inspiring! Check it out and see what you think:

Ready to create a life that truly reflects who you are? Discover six key steps to build a vision that aligns with your values, brings you joy, and empowers your future.