Doc. Kevin Boul

08/08/2024

Are you afraid of loneliness?🧠

The ability to get by without people, to be alone in an apartment, in a hotel, in another city, in another country, and in general to endure periods of loneliness in life.🤗

06/29/2024

💌 Tip of the day

No matter how hard you try, you won't be good to everyone...
So just be yourself!

06/26/2024

INTERNAL CONFLICTS - self-sabotage, internal splitting, resistance - these are well-known psychological problems. They can influence the success of life, cause fears, doubts, lack of confidence and other problems. Therefore, it is very important to recognize them in yourself, work through them and eliminate them in order to continue moving towards your goals and achieve the success you deserve.

Internal splitting is the division of thoughts, feelings and behavior into several “personalities” that compete with each other. In a situation where a person needs to make a choice between two equivalent options and each of them has both positive and negative sides, he may encounter an internal split in the psyche.For example, one part of you says that you need to take care of yourself, the other says that you should help everyone. And you feel like you can't find the right path to move forward.

For example, a person at the crossroads of life decides whether to quit his current job and start doing what he loves or stay at a job where he already has experience and good earnings. He may not understand what he really wants because his mind and emotions are pulling him in different directions. In this case, there is an internal division of the psyche, which can lead to anxiety, depression and hypersensitivity.

Self-sabotage is a state where we interfere with ourselves. We continue our usual actions if we believe that they will help us achieve success. Or when we think we are not smart enough or loved enough. To work through these problems, you need to make a list of your life attitudes and make sure that they are true. You may need to change these attitudes to others that will support your growth and development.

Resistance is a state where we do not want to move forward, even if we know that it is necessary. This happens when we are afraid of change or afraid of failure.

For example, a person needs to start playing sports to maintain health, but he feels internal resistance and cannot bring himself to start exercising. Or he needs to change something in his life, stop smoking, eat healthy food, but he cannot bring himself to do it. In such a situation, it may be due to habits, fear of change or lack of motivation.

In general, internal resistance of the psyche is a conflict between what we should do and our internal experiences that prevent us from doing it. Ultimately, it is important to see all these problems in yourself, work through them and eliminate them in order to achieve success and not slow yourself down.©️

06/26/2024

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR ENERGY AND TIME
In life we ​​have relationships with people. Many bring joy and emotional enrichment, but there are also those that drain our strength.

Today we will discuss how important it is to break free from toxic relationships and protect your energy and time.

✅Toxic relationships manifest themselves in different forms. These are friendships, family relationships, romantic or professional interactions. Their common feature is that they take more than they benefit and have a negative impact on emotional, mental and physical life.

✅ Letting go of people who are unable to give you love and support is the first step to freeing yourself from a toxic relationship. This can be difficult, especially if you feel obligated to help them. For example, friendship with a person who constantly requires help, but is never ready to give in equal measure. In such relationships you only waste energy and time.

✅It is important to learn not to have endless difficult conversations with people who do not want to change. For example, a colleague who always criticizes you and is not ready for constructive criticism himself, trying to convince him only leads to a waste of your energy. Focus better on those who are ready to interact constructively.

✅It is also important to stop appearing in the lives of those who do not show interest in your presence. If you constantly feel like you need to convince someone that you are important, it could be a sign of a toxic relationship. Don't waste your time on people who don't value you the way you deserve.

✅ If you have a friend who is always complaining and complaining but shows no interest in your problems, this can drain your energy. Let go of these relationships and find friends who support you.
If your partner does not show you care and attention, and you constantly try to please him, this can lead to a depletion of your resources. Consider whether this relationship is worth pursuing.

Your time and energy are your most valuable resources. Protect them by freeing yourself from toxic relationships and channeling them into connections with those who truly value and respect you.

When you make this choice, your life will change 100% and you will be surrounded by positive and kind people who will exchange positive energy and love with you.©️

06/23/2024

The subconscious decides a lot

You are prisoners of generally accepted stereotypes, by which you live. The world is ruled by illusions based on alien doctrines.

The subconscious rules, relying on information accumulated since childhood. We are not even aware of these hidden beliefs.

You can repeat your desires, but if you have a hidden contradiction, then they will remain only dreams.

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06/13/2024

Clutter in my head

When your head is a mess, it seems that everything is not going according to plan. We get confused in our thoughts, forget important details and lose clarity.

Don’t rush to fall into despair; a mess in your head is a temporary condition that can be overcome.

Find a moment of calm, take a deep breath, and begin to clear out the clutter little by little, starting with small, insignificant things.

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06/10/2024

Stress

Stress is the real killer that lurks in the shadows, ready to attack our well-being. Don't ignore it, don't let it ready to attack our well-being. Don't ignore him, don't let him dominate you!

✨A little stress can serve as a push to action, but too much of it is like a gr***de exploding in your soul, destroying everything around you.

✍️Each of us is a unique hero who chooses his own path in the fight against stress: be it an active approach, relaxation, support from friends or communication with oneself.

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06/10/2024

Fight for your principles

Your borders are your fortress, your territory that needs to be protected. No one should violate your personal territory.

Be clear about what is unacceptable to you.
You've probably encountered situations where jokes or conversations hurt you. These are your taboo topics, and they should be clear to others.

Be persistent in protecting your boundaries.
If someone tries to violate them, stop him immediately. Don't be shy to say you don't like it.

06/02/2024

Be silent in a quarrel.

🤩When a partner is silent during a conflict, it may seem like he doesn’t care. But, most likely, he is just the kind of person who withdraws into himself, analyzes his feelings and thoughts, and only then speaks.

🩷Don't be offended by this silence. Instead, be patient, let him think things through, and offer to continue the conversation when he's ready.

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05/31/2024

This relationship will lead nowhere... 6 signs that this is not “your” person.

🌟You feel lonely.
🌟You can't share anything with your partner. You think that they won’t understand/judge/make fun of you.
🌟You don't get support.
🌟Your dreams and goals contradict each other.
🌟You try not to be particularly present at home, you avoid your partner.
🌟There is no trust between you.

How many signs have you found in your relationships? I hope it's 0!😔

05/30/2024

That's right - how is that?

❤️We all understand that there are certain established, so to speak, norms that dictate how we live, build relationships, etc.

But why doesn’t adapting to them mean good?

“Right” is the way you agreed among yourself, and not the way your friends, acquaintances advise, or society dictates.

❤️For example, it is now fashionable to say that no one owes anyone anything in a relationship. Well we disagree. And what? Does this mean we are building our relationships incorrectly?

If you are comfortable, you both are happy with everything, then this is “right”.

05/29/2024

“You always don’t like everything”

🩷I think many have heard this phrase. More often than not, this is an exaggeration rather than a statement of fact. And you might think that there is something wrong with you - start to withdraw, not talk about things that you don’t like...

But here, most likely, the problem is in the person himself. This phrase can be interpreted as:
“You can’t agree with me on something, and I don’t have the maturity to accept it, so I’ll make myself out to be the victim.”

🥺Therefore, it is worth explaining to your partner that you have the right to be dissatisfied and you don’t need to exaggerate everything like that.

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