The Keely Group

01/04/2024

When you’re fighting against first date anxiety, your body doesn’t know the difference between a mountain lion and the person across from you.

Your body goes into this primal mode where you’re like oh my God, I need to go to my trunk and shut all other systems down.

When those moments pop up during your date, don’t hide.

Protect yourself by getting some oxygen.
Yes, literally excuse yourself to go get some fresh air if you need to.

Or you need some hydration, so call that server back to the table and ask for a refill on your water.

These little actions that attend to those basics that help stabilize your core self will serve you and your date.

If it helps you stay locked into the person across from you and helps you stay present in the moment, don’t be shy.

Take a million sips of water if you need to.

To learn other coping strategies for anxiety, connect with one of our therapists.

Click the link and set up a consultation call.
https://www.onlinetherapynyc.com/contact

01/01/2024

We're not going to bombard you with 'Happy New Year' messages.

For many, you don’t have the energy to pop champagne and make resolutions.

You’re more caught up in the continued weariness, unease, and unrooted feelings that aren’t disappearing just because the calendar changes.

Those concerns and struggles are following you into the new year, so it’s okay to start off your new year with NOT feeling okay.

It’s okay to NOT feel rejuvenated.

It’s okay to NOT have some special resolution that will start your 2024 the “right” way.

Sometimes, the most authentic resolution is simply acknowledging those feelings and giving yourself the space to be heard and understood.

If you’re ready to talk through these emotions and address them head on this year, we’re ready to listen.

Visit the link and let’s talk.

https://www.onlinetherapynyc.com/contact

12/28/2023

We know that the idea of starting therapy can be scary for those in the Latinx community.

It’s been so deeply ingrained that handling things on your own is the only way.

And that cultural pressure can make it feel impossible or even shameful to seek out help.

But when you connect with our Latina therapists, you'll find space rooted in shared cultural experiences.

This bond is a clear invitation to be vulnerable, build trust, and ease the anxiety of opening up.

Our Latina therapists understand the challenges of seeking help and respect the courage it takes to start.

You are invited to a space to be fully and unashamedly yourself so you can get the support you need to get to the root of the problems and help you come with a renewed sense of self.

Ready to begin your healing journey? Click the link below and schedule a consult.

The Keely Group offers bilingual Latinx therapy in New York City for Spanish speakers. Connect with a Latinx therapist who understands Latinx cultural expectations and how they may affect your everyday life.

12/27/2023

Unraveling the patterns we inherit from our parents and other formative relationships is a journey worth taking.

It's an opportunity to gain insight and discover connections within ourselves that we never knew existed.

By taking time for introspection, we move beyond 'ignorance is bliss' into a space where we can confront our patterns, learn, and grow.

Because the truth is, without this work, we might continue in a cycle of stress and unawareness, mistaking chaos for bliss.

There’s so much to learn from a lifetime of relationships. If you’re ready to go down that path, click the link below and set up a consultation call.
https://www.onlinetherapynyc.com/contact

12/19/2023

For the anxiously attached people, dating can be a battlefield.

Especially online dating, where people turn ghosting into an art form.

You’re vibing with someone, maybe you go on a date and thought things went great.

Then they disappear out of thin air.

That can be painful and it really plays on that anxious attachment wounding.

Your mind starts playing that dangerous game of questioning whether that was the one that got away, and will the right one ever come.

That rejection causes you to find reasons to blame yourself, wondering what you said or did to make this person fall off the face of the earth.

It's just so overwhelming.

We miss the golden age of dating our grandparents got to experience meeting people in the community, because in this modern world right now, it's really hard to meet people naturally.

Chasing ghosts isn’t worth your time, energy, and emotions.

Put your focus on finding the one who wants to stay and get to know you and grow with you.

Need some help navigating modern dating with confidence. DM us to book a call.

12/18/2023

Navigating networking with social anxiety can be challenging, but it's not impossible.

Here are some therapist-approved tips to help you step out:

Be Prepared: Script your introduction and rehearse answers to common questions. Know your pitch inside out.

Coping Skills: Identify what calms you, like stepping out for fresh air, phoning a friend, or focusing on your breathing.

Cognitive Diffusion: Mentally distance yourself from anxious thoughts by visualizing them floating away or singing them out loud.

Take it Slow: Set small, realistic goals for each event, such as engaging with one person for a specific time. It's about steady improvement.

Support Resources: Look for support groups, connect with friends, or consult with therapists for personalized guidance.

Feeling ready to tackle networking with ease?

DM us at Keely Group to book a consultation and start building your social confidence.

12/06/2023

It’s a sign of anxious attachment.

And that anxiety is causing you to abandon yourself and and become a version of yourself that mirrors your partner.

This looks like…

Always deferring to your partner in terms of what they want to do or where they want to go.

It gets to a point where you are so easygoing and flexible that you convince yourself and them that you are so fun all because you put on the facade of you loving to do everything they like to do.

But you miss bringing your whole self, your authentic self, to the table.

You’ve allowed a mirror version of the other person to shape your identity.

Finding the strength and courage to be fully you while dating may not feel easy, but it’s not impossible.

It’s time to get down to the root of your dating anxiety so your partner can get to know the real you.
Are you abandoning your needs, desires, and your identity when dating?

It’s time to do yourself and your partner a favor.

Break the mirror image dating style and bring your best self, your real self, to the table.

Learn the signs of anxious attachment so you can be better aware of when you are not being your authentic self by meeting with one of our therapists.

Book your consultation today!

https://www.onlinetherapynyc.com/contact

12/05/2023

What’s the most gratifying moment for patients and clinicians?

It’s the moment when both patient and clinician feel the relationship click and trust is formed.

This feeling comes in many ways, from a patient calling you “dude” to a patient verbalizing when something isn’t working and they need more from their therapist.

When you can get through those moments together, you can feel the trust truly forming.

Send us a DM to start building trust with your next therapist.

11/30/2023

Let's talk about job-hunting anxiety in New York City and how to avoid it! 🥴

To find a job in the ultra-competitive city that never sleeps, you have to understand what you’re up against.

And let’s just say it’s complex.

Here are some of the most common sources of anxiety in the NYC job market:

➡️ Pressure to stand out and succeed

➡️ Imposter syndrome causes a real fear of rejection

➡️ Worried your salary won’t meet NYC’s super high cost of living

BUT where there’s a challenge, there’s a solution.

And there are plenty of strategies and coping mechanisms to help you overcome the job-hunting anxiety.

✅ Cultivate a Support Network

Establish a reliable support network of friends, family, or mental health professionals like our therapists here at the Keel Group to provide a crucial foundation for managing job-hunting anxiety.

✅ Practice Mindfulness

Incorporating meditation, yoga, and deep breathing exercises can help promote emotional resilience and foster a sense of calm.

✅ Get To Know Yourself

Throughout the hiring process, observe yourself and see where the anxiety is manifesting so you can feel more grounded when it comes up again.

✅ Stay Organized

Set a routine and list of reachable goals to help alleviate the anxiety. Make a checklist of the things you want to get done and set up a spreadsheet to track the jobs you are applying to.

✅ Research Research Research

Look into each company you apply to. Make sure to ask yourself: “are they a good fit for me?” before you ask, “am I a good fit for them?”

Detailed knowledge about the companies you apply to will be invaluable when participating in interviews and boost your confidence when approaching recruiters.

✅ Last but not least is therapy.

Therapy can be the game-changer in transforming anxiety into confidence, helping you navigate each step of the job search with clarity and resilience.

We understand the unique pressures you face in NYC and offer strategies that go beyond the job board.

Send us a DM to book your first consult, and let’s walk the path to your next job together.

11/23/2023

Navigating holiday gatherings as a single or someone in the dating pool can be a minefield of prying questions and unwelcome advice.

But remember, setting personal boundaries is not only healthy, it's essential.

Even though we’re not your therapist (yet), we want to give you permission this holiday season to protect your peace.

It's okay to steer conversations away from your dating life.
It's okay to say you'd rather not discuss personal matters.

Establishing boundaries means taking up the space you need in a relationship, without overstepping or being stepped on.

Sure, generosity and compassion are wonderful, but balance is key.

You don't need to meet every expectation or answer every question.

And before get concerned that your family is going to think you’re pushing them away.

It’s not pushing away. It’s called setting limits. And you're inviting the people who love you to respect and understand you better.

You can’t be everything to everyone.

Letting that be your mantra this holiday season will serve you well and keep things memorable for all the right reasons.

11/21/2023

Ready or not, the holidays bring every facet of life into sharp focus.

That goes for the good and the things you’d rather not think about but remain a very real part of your life.

Everyone wants it to be a time of cheer and celebration, but what if that’s not your experience?

Just because this season rolls around again doesn’t mean the rest of your life can be put on pause.

For many, there’s a lingering dread with the current climate in the US.

There are overwhelming feelings of anxiety.

The financial strains and responsibilities are always present.

There’s the strain of giving gifts and not hurting someone’s feelings because you “forgot” to add them to your list.

Before you feel forced to cover up your heavy feelings with a mask of good cheer this holiday season, let’s acknowledge that it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions during this time.

And it’s okay to redefine what the holidays mean to you, absent of what anyone else in your atmosphere thinks.