11/21/2025
In this week’s parsha, Yaakov dresses up as Esav to receive a blessing. He hides behind a disguise to earn love and approval. And his brother Esav trades away his birthright for a bowl of soup. He gives up something sacred because he’s too worn down to hold onto it.
So many of us q***r folks know both of those feelings too well: the pressure to hide parts of ourselves, and the exhaustion that makes us want to give them away just to feel safe.
These stories illustrate how painful it is to shrink or to hand pieces of ourselves away. And how fear can really push us into survival mode. But we do not need to disguise ourselves to be worthy, and we should not have to trade our truth to survive.
We deserve belonging that never asks us to shrink, hide, or trade away any part of who we are. No more masks. No bargains. No apologies.