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Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy

Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy is a Manhattan based private practice for individuals and couples.
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06/03/2026

“I want to know if you can disappoint another to stay true to yourself.” I struggled with that for decades. Of course the goals isn’t to walk around life disappointing other people — we’ll remain relational in our work together — but there are times where you will come face to face with a choice.
I wonder where in your life you are not remaining true to you? I wonder in what ways you are disappointing yourself? Or breaking your own heart?
So much of the work around this is building up our tolerance, our ability to be with the consequence of disappointing another. To tolerate unwanted outcomes in order to hold our head up high. Not easy work, but vital work. 🧡

06/01/2026

It never heals the wound, it just masks it. 🧡

05/31/2026

It’s easy to want to explain away your story. For many, they get caught rationalizing it, adding all the layers of context, and so forth. And look, context is great, but not at the expense of acknowledging the impact something has on you.
It doesn’t need to be the worst thing in the world to have had an impact. You don’t need to have suffered a horrific event to acknowledge your pain.
When you side step acknowledgement by down playing it or explaining it away, you move away from accessing your healing.
If you think this is you, might you reflect on what you wish could have been different? Might you reflect on what you desired more of or less of?
Love without conditions.
Peace in the home without being the comic relief.
More time with a hardworking parent.
Adults who were more calm.
Space to be emotional.
A place to be vulnerable without being teased.
No family secrets.

A gentle exploration for you.
From my convo on the podcast 🧡

05/28/2026

Whew. “The definition of hell is on your last day on earth the person you became meets the person you could have become.” I mean….
When I first heard those words it truly stopped me in my tracks. I held my breath. If you’ll allow it, it will affect you.
To become who you can become requires us to address the things that hold us back from that person. It requires us to look and feel and acknowledge that which keeps us from living and loving and being in the world in the way that we most desire. In ways that are anchored and aligned.
If the thought of meeting yourself on your final day and shrugging and saying “I could have but I didn’t” is fine by you, then there’s nothing to see here. But if it stirs something within you, if THAT is not palatable or tolerable to you, then there’s an invitation. Become who you can become 🧡

05/26/2026

When it ca happen, it’s beautiful. What an incredible gift it is when the person who contributed to the pain is able to to see you, acknowledge it, and genuinely apologize. It’s a special thing to have happen, but it’s not often how it goes. And…it’s not required for your own peace and healing.
Releasing the need for that person to get it, to do what you desire them to do, is a hugely supportive in your healing journey. Far easier said than done, but important to note. Your healing isn’t in the hands of another. It’s in yours. Their lack of participation or capacity can’t be the thing that holds you hostage. This usually means that you come into contact with grief — with some form of acceptance. And it opens up the possibility for those in your life who want to witness you, who can witness you, to become a part of the healing team. How hard has this been for you? Share with me below.⁠
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05/25/2026

To be let in to someone’s internal world is a gift. It is one of the greatest honors you will ever have offered to you in this lifetime. Take the job seriously, friends. Tag someone below whose inner world has been an honor to be let into.

05/22/2026

As frustrating as it might be, self sabotage is actually working to protect you (or others) from something. Here are 4 reasons you might sabotage a good relationship.

05/21/2026

Survival has a sneaky way of turning itself into a skillset/asset we come to celebrate. “I wouldn’t be X without (fill in painful part of story here).” And it’s true. Our wounds and pain and story do shape us into who we are today. Of course they do. And look, I don’t need you to simply get rid of the tool that has been sharpened (some can be wonderful and useful in certain ways), but I’d like to invite you to tend to the wound that created the tool. Acknowledge it. Spend some time with your sadness. Make contact with your inner child. Allow yourself to grieve.
You won’t lose your “gift” because you acknowledge your pain. You might use your gift differently, navigate it differently, or simply be more aware of the ways it supports the life you want to live or not, but it doesn’t simply disappear.
Want to learn what your primary origin wound is? Comment QUIZ and I’ll dm you a link to take my free What’s Your Origin Wound quiz. There are free resources that follow as well 🧡

05/17/2026

Whew. Relationships are complex. Where you are in your relationship journey also influences this. But I think that if I could whittle it down, what would stand true regardless of whether you’re dating or decades in is this: be there because you want to be there — because you choose to be. If fears and insecurities are what hold you in something, those fears and insecurities need your attention. Partnership doesn’t ever thrive because someone fearfully or insecurely stays put.

05/09/2026

One of the most loving offerings we give in relationship is to remember the whole human instead of the sliver we’re interacting with in any particular moment. This is a gift. To remember your partner this way, and to have them remember you this way too. Moments in time are narrow. And if we only relate to them based on what’s happening in that moment in time, we miss out on very important information that offers so much.
One of the great gifts we give is to know each other’s stories, each other’s histories — origin wounds one carries, the family system they grew up in, the pain they still carry. Not as a get out of jail free card, but because this context allows us to see the whole instead of the tiny part in this moment. And when we can remember the whole, we give this moment in time a much larger opportunity for success.
We gift this back and forth to one another. And we (and they) also become responsible for one’s whole as well — this is a must. Without it, we stay reactive, self-protective, and on totally separate teams as we navigate the hard.

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