Liz Keifer Coaching

02/09/2024

The Power of Not Yet

08/21/2023

03/12/2023

I love my blanket fort 😎 and I am grateful for the ones who love it too

01/20/2022

Self trust is a key ingredient for feeling worthy. 💕🥰

Start suuuuuuuper doable, small, easy (resistance = too much, too soon).

Every time you keep your promise, thank and appreciate yourself (it feels awkward the first few times).

When you inevitably have a setback, or get sidetracked, or just forget: apologise to yourself and restart (also awkward).

Every time you keep a promise you are building integrity with yourself.

You can trust you.

You’ve got you ❤️

09/22/2021

Part of me feels like a clown: My love for all of the parts of me!

It’s funny because it took me a while to realize that I intuited “parts work” through my acting work years ago.

What do I mean by parts?

Let’s say you have a party to go to, and you have a part of you that wants to stay home and watch Netflix but also a part of you that wants to dress up and actually see people. These are parts, and they have opinions and needs, kind of like family members.

You are not your parts, you have parts, and they each have their own agenda and hint: it’s always to keep you safe.

You are your Self. Self is what’s underneath all the mental chatter.
Self doesn’t grow. It’s already complete. Parts can get big and small depending on the circumstance.

Parts are like tiny seeds; they step forward and grow when called upon. Ask any mother who is protecting her child, and you can see the “mama bear” part emerge with ferocity. That part is doing its job!

I was able to stay relatively sane and healthy going to the places I needed to go to as an actor because I understood that certain characters were just parts of me that had permission to step forward and take over to tell the story. I thought of it as giving them the chance to show off! This was especially delicious for a girl raised to be “good” and not rock the boat.
I had a ritual of coming back to my Self when I took off my costume; it became a signal that it was time to let go of “the part” and get back to my real-life business.

Honestly, I had been training to be an actor my whole life because I got really comfortable at presenting only certain parts of me to others in order to keep myself safe from conflict, or the fear of being judged.
The part of me that was determined to manage how others perceived me grabbed the microphone most of the time!

I got into hot water especially during my twenties when I became the identity of the parts I presented and lost track of my deeper Self.
After the good fortune of some supportive coaches and teachers, I realized these overdeveloped “parts” of me took over as a form of protection; I then began a whole different relationship towards them; one of compassion, curiosity, and downright respect for their ingenuity and sophistication.
My "parts" became resources I could rely on instead of hijackers who shut me down.

Once again, everything I needed to learn about my true self I learned through acting.

This is why actors take on parts! Because ALL parts are welcome!
xo - Liz

06/22/2021

A humorous look at self-doubt on rollerblades 😎

While I was inappropriately trying out my daughter's rollerblades in her apartment, I couldn't stop laughing at myself for constantly being pulled back just as I was about to reach my goal of reaching her hands. It was automatic; the floor had its own idea of physics and pulled me back to the start each time.
I laughed and exclaimed, "This is like self-doubt on rollerblades!"

Has this ever happened to you? ( not the rollerblading in an apartment, although that was great fun!)

As soon as you start moving or even thinking about moving towards what you want, another part of you gets triggered and activates self-doubt, which tells you it's not safe to take action.

It doesn't care how much you want to go where you want to go; its only job is to make sure you are safe by pulling you back or not letting you take action at all. Herein lies the conflict.

We are often told that this is self-sabotage, and we focus on changing the behaviors of procrastination, paralysis, or any number of P words that cause us to not take action.

I prefer to reframe self-doubt as my inner protector. Self-doubt shows up to protect us from what it perceives to be a psychological risk. It's been with us a long time and does a damn good job. It's perfectly understandable and, quite frankly, highly sophisticated and creative!

This is one of the many mind-blowing concepts I have learned while training at the Self Belief Coaching Academy.
It's been a game-changer in how I show up not only for my clients but in my life.

And anytime I can laugh at myself with nonjudgmental joy, it is a good day.😎

04/16/2021

Becoming the ocean- the beautiful gets more beautiful

04/12/2021

Don't get me wrong; I love when I'm hired as a professional actor to tell and serve a good story; that's my passion. I understand my intention and purpose; I'm all in.

But...what happens when you find yourself acting in a role that other people need you to be, in your own life to build or maintain a relationship? You can feel lost and confused.

It's confusing because it feels safe to please others and give them what they need; If I agree and support others as their loyal sidekick, I won't be rejected or ignored.

But, in the process of turning in your greatest supporting actor for others' performance, you end up rejecting and ignoring your inner you. Somewhere along the line, you learned that external validations are more important and needed than the deep self-belief that comes from within.

People-pleasing is a brilliant strategy for surviving, but it doesn't have to be your only resource.

What if you were the director of your own life instead of an actor for hire?

I believe you can be the lead role in your own life and work well with others.

Be the lead - Take the lead - Become the lead
xoxoxo
Liz

03/30/2021

I'm excited to say that I've got four 1:1 spots available for my self-belief coaching program - All about transcending self-doubt & expanding self-belief! 😎
What's your self-doubt story?
Contact me for more details:) lizkeifer.com

02/26/2021

Ch Ch Ch Changes - What is your relationship to change? 😯😎😉

12/03/2020

Taking a deep dive into uncovering the protective beliefs and strategies often in the driver's seat. Imagine one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake when it comes to big goals in life! Great recipe for feeling stuck!

My biggest takeaway is that I don't have to banish the belief from my kingdom. I merely need to recognize when and where it shows up. Amazing what a little recognition and self-compassion can do. So grateful for the mentors in my life and I look forward to sharing new Self-belief tools and strategies with my amazing clients! 😊

10/28/2020

I'm excited to share my FREE class! In this Empowerment Scale video, I share with you several clips from my body of acting work through the years, including one from GL with my favorite leading man, JVD! I will lead you through an exercise I have created to learn about what it feels like to feel empowered for you! Interested?
Click on the "yes please" link on my website lizkeifer.com.
From there, you will receive the link to the video, and away we go!
lizkeifer.com

06/03/2020

Worthy of your time to listen. And I AM LISTENING

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v4amCfVbA_c

Trevor shares his thoughts on the killing of George Floyd, the protests in Minneapolis, the dominos of racial injustice and police brutality, and how the con...

03/31/2020

Thank you, Jim Masters, for being an insightful and generous radio show host! I had so much fun in this interview!
https://www.blogtalkradio.com/closeupradio/2020/03/24/close-up-radio-spotlights-liz-keifer-coaching

New York, NY - Liz Keifer is a life coach, podcaster, and former actress from the daytime drama 'Guiding Light' She helps people stand in their power and rise above self-doubt. She learned all about rising up and resiliency from her many years as a professional actor. Many of you might know her from...

03/12/2020

Our latest episode is up and we wanted to address what is happening right now - maybe help with some ways to manage overwhelm and worry.
We are all in this together - let’s help each other in any way that we can ❤️

In this special episode Liz and Kalista discuss getting overwhelmed with everything- from the Coronavirus to cleaning out a room and explain how to move out of the paralysis of worry.]]>