We provide cutting-edge, innovative services, programs and products to assist couples succeed at their relationship: www.MetroRelationship.com
The Practice:
I founded Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC (Metropolitan MFT), a private psychotherapy practice specializing in working with couples. We assist them succeed at their relationship and cater to individuals wishing to enhance their life and relationships. The practice offers services, programs, products and resources to help our clients make the changes in their life they h
ave been putting off or have not been able to make yet. In our supportive and resourceful format we motivate and assist our clients make the changes they have been seeking. As our expertise is in working with Couples, our resources, services, programming and products focus on Couple Success. Our approach also includes doing personal work so that a meaningful and satisfying relationship is possible. We specialize in pre-marital, individual and couple codependence, infidelity, and anger management work. I have developed innovative concepts, interventions, programs and products in these areas. My Philosophy:
I believe that we can heal and grow in the context of our relationship(s), and that self growth, improvement, development, enhancement ... is a must for our human condition. I believe that any movement we make for our Self, we also make for and enhance our relationship and the world around us. I believe there is synergy in our relationship that has not been tapped, and when this is minded and nurtured it allows the couple to transcend ordinary relating promoting mindfulness, satisfaction, peace, elation and great achievement - including procreating healthy, happy and productive offspring as members of our society. Couples are the building block of families which in turn are the pillars of our society. There is much riding on a healthy, happy, satisfying, productive and synergetic relationship! I consider our relationship as very significant and instrumental in our life. Our significant other is our "Life Partner." A title that shouldn't be taken lightly! I believe that in partnership we can conquer the world. As a team we can do anything we want. This is a unique and ripe partnership where the universe is the limit! This is Mother Nature's way of saying, "I know life can be difficult... you don't have to do it alone - especially if you are ambitious!"
My dream is to see all couples have a conscious, mindful and synergetic relationship where the partners are on the same page, connected, happy and growing individually and as a partnership! Professional Arena:
The practice is also a placement and training site for Marriage and Family Therapists in training and I have created our Internship Program and other services to assist New Professionals in their Journey. These include providing training programs, AAMFT approved supervision, workshops, practice building coaching, space renting, etc. :)
I am the Member-At-Large (MAL) and Chair of the Visibility Initiative Committee (VIC) for the NYAMFT Division Board. Through these positions I'm committed to assisting our profession grow and gain recognition in NY state while supporting our MFTs' Professional Journey. We are here for you! I look forward to assisting persons grow and heal individually and in partnership; and assisting other Mental Health Professionals in their professional development and in assisting their own clients.
08/04/2025
Do you know the surprising purpose of marriage?
It’s not just love, commitment, or building a life together.
From a higher perspective, your relationship is a mechanism for growth. A mirror, a container, a playground for becoming your most whole, integrated self.
Your partner is perfectly placed to reveal the parts of you still waiting to be seen, felt, healed, and owned.
Yes, even the triggering moments. Especially those.
Extraordinary couples don’t avoid discomfort, they use it. They explore old blueprints, outdated expectations, and inherited beliefs so they can co-create something better.
That’s the real upgrade. Not just surviving. Not even just “doing fine.”
❤️Deepening Together.
❤️Aligning together.
❤️Evolving Together.
Have you ever asked yourself what marriage truly means to you?
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07/30/2025
Are you feeling stuck or blah in your relationship?
Ordinary love is built by default.
Extraordinary love is built with intention.
Most couples don’t start disconnected.
They drift there slowly…
One missed moment.
One unresolved pattern at a time.
Not from one big issue.
But from avoiding what’s not working.
Or settling into “just fine.”
Where they’re coasting.
Going through the motions. 🥴
A great love doesn’t happen by chance.
And it’s never passive.
You can create your epic love:
💖 Reset
💖 Reconnect
💖 Rebuild something extraordinary
Summer gives us the perfect setup. ☀️
More light. More energy.
More space to reflect, realign, and shift.
In today’s podcast episode, I walk you through the 5 Elements of our Successful Relationship Strategy™ and how to use them to create a relationship that grows stronger over time. ✨
Here’s a taste of what we explore:
1. Context & Mindset 🌱
The story you’re telling about your relationship
• Are you stuck in blame, old roles, or assumptions?
• Do you define love that fits who you've become?
💡 Choose beliefs for meaningful commitment.
2. Communication & Alignment 🗣
How you speak, listen, and problem solve
• Is your tone building safety or creating blocks?
• Do you easily get on the same page?
💡 Uplevel your communication for real connection.
3. Clarity & Dynamics 🔄
The patterns and power struggles running the show
• Do you keep looping through the same arguments?
• Can you name what’s underneath the tension?
💡 Understand the patterns to change the dynamics.
4. Connection & Intimacy 💞
The emotional and physical heartbeat of your love
• Are you feeding your connection with presence?
• Is your intimacy safe, alive, and nourishing?
💡 Nurture your connection to enrich your love.
5. Collaboration & Partnership 🤝
How you build and manage your dreams and life
• Are responsibilities shared and clearly defined?
• Do you feel like a true team with a shared vision?
💡 Explore your life vision and set up systems for it.
If your relationship has been feeling stuck, tense, or flat…
This framework is your reset.
And if it’s good but you know it could be more…
This is your upgrade plan.
Summer is the season to recalibrate. 🌿
There’s space to reflect, reset your rhythm, and recommit.
Before the pace of fall kicks in.
Choose what’s possible.
And invest in creating your epic love. 💫
Which of the 5 elements are you focusing on this season?
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In a world that rushes past pain, we forget that everyone is fighting their own battles.
Most of us are carrying weight that would bring others to their knees.
But we're so busy pushing through our own pain, that we've forgotten how to recognize it in others.
⚠️ Your teammate who's "dropping the ball"
↳ Their baby might be in the hospital
⚠️ That client who "won't commit"
↳ They might be facing bankruptcy in silence
⚠️ Your partner who's "being distant"
↳ They might be drowning in their anxiety
We've created a world that normalizes dehumanizing patterns:
• Rushing past pain to hit deadlines
• Measuring worth through output
• Trading connection for convenience
• Disguising numbness as resilience
• Sacrificing humanity for hustle
The old way burns everyone:
🧨 Taking everything personally
🧨 Pushing through obvious signs of struggle
🧨 Demanding explanations for every boundary
🧨 Withholding grace when someone's drowning
🧨 Making stories about other people's capacity
Here's what conscious relating looks like instead:
1. Notice Your Patterns 🔍
• Why do you take things personally?
• Where do you demand perfection?
• What triggers your need to control?
• How often do you assume the worst?
• When do you rush to judgment?
2. Choose Compassion 💖
• Slow down before you act
• Ask with care instead of assuming
• Make space for hard moments
• Let your presence feel like safety
• Lead with grace instead of fixing
3. Return to Humanity 💫
• Honor the unseen battles
• Make it safe to struggle
• Normalize setting boundaries
• Trust more than you verify
• Protect people's dignity
The hardest battles are the ones no one sees.
❤️🩹 That "attitude problem" might be depression.
❤️🩹 The "lack of commitment" maybe exhaustion.
❤️🩹 Their "poor performance" might be pure survival.
Your conscious kindness isn't just nice.
It's revolutionary.
It gives permission to be human again.
Sometimes, that's the difference between breaking and breakthrough.
Choose understanding over judgment.
Your kindness might be saving someone's day. ✨
What patterns do you need to let go to show up with compassion more?
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07/06/2025
Living on autopilot drains our life force.
Choose conscious connection instead. 💫
I know that when:
I don't do my self-love practice in the morning
or rush throughout my day,
that I'm not the Emma I want to be...
We might rush through breakfast.
Reply with half attention.
Zone out in meetings.
Be always available, rarely present... 😩
When the real cost isn't just productivity and creativity,
but connection and joy.
Our relationships suffer from lacking our attention.
Our joy fades in the blur of grind and busy.
Joy and love grow in the small, attuned moments. 💖
Here's the C.H.O.I.C.E. Framework to help us find our way back to presence in ALL our relationships:
Compassionate Boundaries 🛡️
→ Phones away during meals with others or solo
→ Sacred space for deep connection
→ "I'll be fully present for you at..."
Healthy Rhythms 🌊
→ Morning moments of pure being
→ Gentle transitions between spaces
→ Three gratitudes at day's end
Ownership of Time ⏰
→ Only aligned commitments
→ Space for what truly matters
→ Intentional connection time
Invested Presence 🎯
→ "Who needs my presence today?"
→ Eyes up, screens down, heart open
→ One real conversation daily
Clear Communication 🗣️
→ "I notice... I feel... I need"
→ Buy in and collaboration talks
→ Appreciation flows freely
Energy Management ⚡
→ Spaciousness before depletion
→ Restorative rituals
→ Aligned yeses and empowered no’s
I see it in my clients every day:
The parent who finally enjoys breakfast with their kids
The partner who's present instead of performative
The leader whose team feels truly heard
Although these might seem like small tweaks,
they are radically empowering.
They're tiny moments of choosing differently,
of coming home to what matters most.
Your next conscious choice changes everything. 💫
What’s one small tweak you can choose today to be more present?
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07/05/2025
What you call safety is really self-imprisonment.
Freedom starts with seeing the prison bars.
I love to question patterns, trends, and norms. 🤓
And find that we usually follow blindly.
Keeping ourselves stuck...
This isn’t just about external bo***ge. 🔗
It’s the invisible handcuffs we’ve learned to live with:
• Swallowing our truth to be the “good one”
• Staying in relationships that shrink us
• Hiding behind perfectionism or people-pleasing
• Tolerating pain that feels familiar
These aren’t flaws. 🤕
They’re survival patterns.
They once kept us safe.
Now they keep us stuck.
You’ll feel it when you:
→ Say yes when your body says no 🚫
→ Choose comfort over growth 🛋️
→ Carry emotions that aren’t yours 🎒
→ Dim your light to keep others happy 🔦
→ Avoid real closeness out of fear 🫣
The work isn’t to fight these patterns.
It’s to understand and address them.
They are the key to your evolution. 💫
With lots of love and compassion, start here:
1️⃣ Listen to your body
2️⃣ Notice when you abandon yourself
3️⃣ Question the “shoulds” guiding your day
4️⃣ Choose what’s real over what looks good
5️⃣ Set a boundary you’ve been avoiding
Your handcuffs might feel like protection.
But they’re keeping you within prison walls painted to look like home.
I say we take a moment this weekend to contemplate freedom, and address the quiet bo***ge still lingers. ☀️
Which patterns have you outgrown but still carry into how you lead, love, or live?
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07/04/2025
You keep repeating the same fight
Freedom is responding differently
Today I felt inspired to share a different
kind of freedom vibe… 🇺🇸
Not the kind we chase
but the kind we choose
The Space Between
(for Independence Day)
When anger sparks a quick rise
We feel to strike fast ⚡
But with the breath we choose to pause
To let the moment pass
Between the spark
and the storm 🌪️
there is a space
Not for silence
but choosing a new way
To pause
before the old script runs
before your tone sharpens 🗡️
before their mood steers yours
In that space
lies your power 🗝️
To breathe
instead of brace
To soften
instead of strike
To stay with yourself
instead of spinning out
or shutting down
True freedom lives in small moments
In pauses that we take
before we chase or run away
In choices that we make
is where love evolves 💖
Not in who’s right
but in who’s willing
to choose a new way
You can choose you
You can choose connection
You can choose grace 🕊️
Love
without losing yourself
For freedom isn’t breaking free
from those we choose to love
It’s crafting who we dare to be
in moments we rise above ✨
This Independence Day we embrace
a different kind of freedom
The quiet power in each turn
toward who we choose to be 🌟
~ Inspired by Viktor Frankl’s wisdom on human freedom and the power of conscious choice in relationships
What does freedom mean to you?
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07/02/2025
You lose time waiting for January to reinvent yourself
July is the edge of transformation ✨
It’s the quiet turning point where your future self starts tapping you on the shoulder.
Asking you to pause.
To get honest.
To reset the strategy you've been living by.
Calling you to a mid-year reset.
Because life is not about doing more.
It’s about showing up differently.
In how you work.
In how you love.
In how you meet your own life. 🎯
Your Mid-Year Power Moves:
1. Audit your energy 🔋
→ Where are you engaged vs. just doing?
→ Who and what actually fuel you?
→ Cancel one obligation that drains your spark
2. Upgrade your patterns 🔄
→ Notice where you default to proving or pleasing
→ Swap distraction for purpose and presence
→ Choose connection over control and performance
3. Realign your rhythm 🎵
→ Where are you forcing what no longer fits?
→ Where has growth been replaced by comfort?
→ Shift one routine to reflect who you’re becoming
This is your moment to choose intentionally.
Presence over pressure.
Meaning over motion.
A strategy that builds a life.
Not just a resume that shines or brand that performs.
Let July be your reset.
For a new self.
A deeper relationship.
And a life you actually love. 💖
What’s one upgrade you’re making for Part II of the year, at work or in love?
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06/27/2025
When your anxiety is making you control everything…
When we fear things won’t get done, we overdo it... We micromanage, over-orchestrate, and exhaust ourselves trying to control every detail.
It shows up in relationships as constant nagging, crowding our partner, and becoming critical.
Awareness is the first step to see the fear driving the behavior. Recognize when control is masking a deeper need for feeling worthy and valued…
Deprogramming this pattern means healing and an opportunity to create something new…
If this hits home, don’t miss this episode
🎧Tune in to the episode to learn how to deprogram your patterns and create a new reality for a mid-year reset: https://metrorelationship.com/podcast-38/
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I founded Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC (Metropolitan MFT, MetroMFT), in 2000. It’s a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with couples. We assist couples succeed at their relationship: 1) Easily get on the same page, 2) Improve their communication, 3) Change repeating patterns and resolve recurring disagreements, 4) Increase their connection, intimacy and fun, and 5) Create a strong partnership.
The practice offers services, programs, products and resources to help our clients make the changes in their life they have been putting off or have not been able to make yet. In our supportive and resourceful format we motivate and assist our clients make the changes they have been seeking.
As our expertise is in working with Couples, our resources, services, programming and products focus on Couple Success. Our approach also includes doing personal work so that a meaningful and satisfying relationship is possible. We specialize in pre-marital, individual and couple codependence, infidelity, and anger management work. I have developed innovative concepts, interventions, programs and products in these areas.
I believe that we can heal and grow in the context of our relationship(s), and that self growth, improvement, development, enhancement ... is a must for our human condition. I believe that any movement we make for our Self, we also make for and enhance our relationship and the world around us.
I believe there is synergy in our relationship that has not been tapped, and when this is minded and nurtured it allows the couple to transcend ordinary relating promoting mindfulness, satisfaction, peace, elation and great achievement - including procreating healthy, happy and productive offspring as members of our society. Couples are the building block of families which in turn are the pillars of our society. There is much riding on a healthy, happy, satisfying, productive and synergetic relationship!
I consider our relationship as very significant and instrumental in our life. Our significant other is our "Life Partner." A title that shouldn't be taken lightly! I believe that in partnership we can conquer the world. As a team we can do anything we want. This is a unique and ripe partnership where the universe is the limit! This is Mother Nature's way of saying, "I know life can be difficult... you don't have to do it alone - especially if you are ambitious!"
My dream is to see all couples have a conscious, mindful and synergetic relationship where the partners are on the same page, connected, happy and growing individually and as a partnership!
We are here for you!
I look forward to assisting persons grow and heal individually and in partnership!
