Shelby Castile, LMFT

Shelby Castile, LMFT At the root of everything I do is a belief that asking for help can be the greatest act of love, for both yourself, and those you care about.

With two decades of experience, I offer a warm, grounded presence to support adults and couples across California as they navigate grief, anxiety, relationship challenges, and life transitions—all through the flexibility of telehealth. For over 20 years, I have worked with individuals and couples in Orange County, CA, to heal, restore and rejuvenate relationships both with one another, and with themselves. I am honored to hold space for people, and help them live their very best lives. As a graduate of St Mary’s College, I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and have worked in the therapy field, teaching relationship and communication skills to individuals and couples for over two decades, sharing the journey of hundreds of people. With deep roots in mindfulness-based approaches, my therapeutic style is richly eclectic, integrating several research-based modalities. I specialize in all relationship issues including separation, divorce, and infidelity; and assist each individual/couple with tools for better communication and acceptance. Aside from couples therapy, I have extensive experience working with anxiety, depression, grief, panic attacks, chronic stress, and addictions. With integrity, compassion, and understanding at the core of my practice, I work with each client to help build on their strengths and attain the personal growth they are committed to accomplishing. I have participated in numerous speaking engagements in both Los Angeles and Orange Counties on how chronic stress and trauma can manifest in the body and the benefits of mind-body balance. In addition to being a classically trained and skilled psychotherapist, I am a Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT-500). I began practicing yoga over 20 years ago and immediately fell in love with the benefits of the practice. Although not formally trained, my true passion lies in somatic experiencing (SE), which is a naturalistic, neurobiological, body-oriented approach to healing traumas and other stress-related disorders—ultimately restoring the authentic self with self-regulation, relaxation, wholeness, and aliveness. I am currently registered with the Board of Behavioral Sciences and am a clinical member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, affiliated with the Orange County Chapter (OC-CAMFT). In addition to the clinical affiliations I am a part of, I founded The OC Shrinks, which is now a thriving organization with over 3,000 members, dedicated to upholding the highest standards of care in the field of mental health. We aim to build bridges between clinicians, clients and treatment centers in our community, and close the gaps within these populations. You can find out more about what the OC Shrinks offer at www.orangecountyshrinks.com. Whether we meet in my Newport Beach office, over Doxy.Me (an online HIPAA compliant Telehealth portal), or on the phone, I truly look forward to empowering you to lead a life filled with happiness and fulfillment. With a perfect five-star rating, and an impeccable reputation in Orange County, California for offering compassionate and effective therapy and counseling to all of my patients, when we work together, you can rest assured that you are getting the very best care available.

Why Is the Mother-in-Law / Daughter-in-Law Relationship So Difficult?  More families live in multi-generational or near-...
08/17/2025

Why Is the Mother-in-Law / Daughter-in-Law Relationship So Difficult?

More families live in multi-generational or near-by arrangements, which increases contact — and the chances for both warmth and friction. Clarifying roles and expectations is the first lever toward peace.

If your family keeps looping the same argument, it is a sign your system needs new rules — not that anyone is beyond repair. ♡

With over 20 years of serving Orange County families, I’ve seen firsthand how love can get tangled in miscommunication, unspoken expectations, and generational patterns.

My work is about helping couples and extended families take that love and translate it into workable boundaries—so that connection feels safe, respect feels mutual, and conversations can be calm instead of chaotic.

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Tense visits, hurt feelings, and holiday dread? Learn simple scripts, boundaries, and repair steps for a healthy mother/daughter in law relationship — then work with a seasoned Orange County therapist with 20+ years’ experience to apply them to your unique family.

Is your partner a perfectionist — and you're... not? 😅Living with someone who holds the bar sky-high can feel exhausting...
08/07/2025

Is your partner a perfectionist — and you're... not? 😅

Living with someone who holds the bar sky-high can feel exhausting, especially if you’re more go-with-the-flow. But it doesn’t have to mean constant tension.

In my latest blog, I share real talk (and therapist-backed tools) on how to navigate mismatched expectations, reduce resentment, and stay connected when perfectionism enters the room.

👉 Read here: https://www.shelbycastile.com/shelby-castile-blog/partner-perfectionist-relationship-guide

~ Shelby Castile ♡♡


Living with a perfectionist partner can leave you walking on eggshells, second-guessing every choice, and wondering how to keep the peace. Discover root causes, boundary scripts, and empathy-building tips — then work with a therapist backed by 20+ years of couples expertise to restore balance.

A romantic moment at a Coldplay concert turned into a viral betrayal — but the real story is emotional disconnection, so...
07/21/2025

A romantic moment at a Coldplay concert turned into a viral betrayal — but the real story is emotional disconnection, something many couples quietly face.

In this blog, I explore how relationships unravel over time, why affairs often begin long before they’re visible, and how therapy can help couples rebuild connection. ♡♡ Shelby Castile

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A viral Coldplay concert moment revealed a private betrayal — but the deeper story is emotional disconnection. Here’s how couples therapy can help.

In my practice, I see so many incredible parents and partners who are exhausting themselves trying to be perfect for the...
07/10/2025

In my practice, I see so many incredible parents and partners who are exhausting themselves trying to be perfect for the people they love most. When we choose connection over correction, we give our families the gift of being seen and accepted as they are. 🤍

→ My latest blog explores the shift from Instagram-worthy moments to real, messy, authentic connection.

"Your authenticity—not your perfection—is what your loved ones need most." ~ Shelby Castile ♡♡

When you begin showing up more authentically in your family relationships, something beautiful happens. Your vulnerability gives others permission to be vulnerable too. Your acceptance of imperfection creates space for everyone to relax and be themselves. Your willingness to prioritize connection ov

📌 Too Busy to Feel? Let’s talk about it.If you've ever said, “I'm fine,” while running from one task to the next—you’re ...
06/01/2025

📌 Too Busy to Feel? Let’s talk about it.

If you've ever said, “I'm fine,” while running from one task to the next—you’re not alone. Many of us stay busy as a way to avoid slowing down and feeling what’s really going on underneath.

In my latest blog, I explore how chronic busyness can disconnect us from our emotions and why learning to pause might be the key to actually feeling better—not just functioning. enjoy!

~ Shelby Castile, LMFT ♡♡

Always on the go but unsure how you really feel? Chronic busyness can be a form of emotional avoidance. Learn how slowing down, tuning in, and working with a therapist can help you reconnect with yourself. Licensed Newport Beach therapist Shelby Castile, LMFT, shares insights on breaking free from a

🌿 New Offering: Walk & Talk Therapy 🌿Sometimes, the best insights come while moving forward — literally.Now offering Wal...
05/26/2025

🌿 New Offering: Walk & Talk Therapy 🌿

Sometimes, the best insights come while moving forward — literally.

Now offering Walk and Talk Therapy for those craving something beyond the screen or office walls. Let’s take your healing outdoors — where movement supports mindfulness, and nature helps ease the nervous system.

🦶🏼 Move your body
🧠 Clear your mind
💬 Talk it out with a Licensed Therapist

Sessions available in 30, 50, or 75 minutes.

📍 Orange County, CA
📧 https://www.shelbycastile.com/contact
📱 Text 949.436.7347 to book

Let’s walk through it — together.

At first glance, the pursuit of perfection might seem harmless, even admirable. But it can quietly set an unspoken stand...
05/18/2025

At first glance, the pursuit of perfection might seem harmless, even admirable. But it can quietly set an unspoken standard that whispers, “You’re never quite good enough as you are.” For many young adults — especially young women — this mindset can create a lifelong pattern of self-doubt and the fear of never being fully accepted, even by themselves. ♡♡

So, how do you break free from the perfectionist trap?

My latest blog explores a few small but powerful shifts ⬇️ PLUS a personal note I hope resonates. ✍🏼

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Shelby Castile

If you’re a young adult struggling with perfectionism, you’re not alone. That pressure to be flawless, to have everything figured out, to always be “on” – it’s a heavy load to carry. And while striving for excellence can be a beautiful thing, perfectionism can slowly drain the joy and me...

As a couples therapist, I see the same patterns over and over again — partners arguing about the thing, when the thing i...
05/01/2025

As a couples therapist, I see the same patterns over and over again — partners arguing about the thing, when the thing isn’t the problem.

In my latest blog, I explain the deeper emotional drivers of conflict and what actually helps couples repair.

If you and your partner keep having the same arguments, you're not alone—and you're not broken. Read the full blog to learn how to shift the conversation and start reconnecting. ♡◦♡

🔗 https://www.shelbycastile.com/shelby-castile-blog/2025/5/1/the-real-reason-couples-argue-and-its-not-what-you-think

As technology evolves, more clients are turning to AI-powered tools for support—but can they truly replace the depth and...
04/18/2025

As technology evolves, more clients are turning to AI-powered tools for support—but can they truly replace the depth and nuance of working with a licensed therapist? While AI may offer convenience and general guidance, it lacks the clinical judgment, ethical accountability, and human connection that make therapy so transformative.👽🛸

Curious to hear more? Can AI be a helpful supplement, or are we risking something essential by leaning too heavily on it?

Read my thoughts👇 Let’s open the conversation 👾

~ Shelby Castile, LMFT

As technology continues to evolve, it's important to remember that healing happens in relationship—not just in conversation. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or simply ready to explore therapy with someone who sees the whole you, I’m here to help. I’ll always advocate for human-to-human t...

Racing thoughts can feel incredibly isolating—but they’re more common than we think. Talking about them, normalizing the...
04/06/2025

Racing thoughts can feel incredibly isolating—but they’re more common than we think. Talking about them, normalizing them, and having tools to manage them is a powerful form of self-compassion.

If you struggle with racing thoughts, I want you to know: you’re not broken. You’re not failing. You’re human. And there are ways to find calm—even if just one breath at a time.

If you’re a fellow high-achiever, perfectionist, or someone who simply feels a lot, I see you. I am you. And it’s okay to ask for support. Shelby Castile, LMFT ♡♡
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https://www.shelbycastile.com/shelby-castile-blog/2025/4/6/strategies-to-regulate-an-overactive-mind-

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