Shelby Castile, LMFT

Shelby Castile, LMFT

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Shelby is a Licensed Psychotherapist offering individual and couples therapy in Newport Beach, CA. For over 20 years, I have worked with individuals and couples in Orange County, CA, to heal, restore and rejuvenate relationships both with one another, and with themselves.

At the root of everything I do is a belief that asking for help can be the greatest act of love, for both yourself, and those you care about. I am honored to hold space for people, and help them live their very best lives. As a graduate of St Mary’s College, I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and have worked in the therapy field, teaching relationship and communication skills to individ

Operating as usual

09/05/2022

• when I stop struggling, I float. todays vibe @aolanow 🫧
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Shelby Castile, LMFT 09/03/2022

Shelby Castile, LMFT

Boundaries actually make relationships easier. We set boundaries for our own well being, but they aren’t just good for us, they’re good for everyone involved. 🤸
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Shelby Castile, LMFT Shelby Castile is a marriage and family therapist located in Newport Beach, California. Providing individual, couples and family counseling in Orange County.

08/07/2022

You are braver than you think. 🫶🏼

• First, communicate honestly with your family members and invite them to change with you.

• You may need to cut ties with toxic family members or avoid certain family events.

• Set appropriate boundaries to protect your well-being.

• Reach out to a therapist to find resources to better understand your family’s toxic patterns.

* the last step step is 🔑
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07/26/2022

🔼 My approach to treating trauma in therapy. 🔼

Trauma-focused therapy, trauma-informed care, or trauma therapy is a form of psychotherapy {talk therapy} designed to manage the impact of traumatic events on people's lives. Trauma therapy helps people process traumatic events + the lasting experience of trauma that may follow those events.

Typically, a trauma therapist has additional training in trauma + will use skills and strategies that are designed to help people overcome the effects of traumatic events without re-traumatizing.

A traumatic event is any event in a person's life that they experience as life-threatening, abusive, frightening, or dangerous. A person can also be traumatized from witnessing traumatic events. These events may permanently impact a person's psychological and emotional functioning.
~ @verywellmind ➰

Thank you @get.thee.to.a.therapist for this opportunity. Great topic! 🐝
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M3 Global Research 07/22/2022

M3 Global Research

Join me and other healthcare professionals at M3 Global Research. We are a dedicated team around the world with the ambition to evolve our healthcare provision through Medical Market Research. http://m3gr.io/OHIOCI

I've been an M3 Member since 2019! It feels exciting to be part of a thriving medical community!

REASONS TO JOIN:

- Being an M3-Member creates an opportunity to shape future healthcare developments.
- Studies are digital, easy to access, and you only participate in the ones you are interested in.
- Keep up to date about healthcare developments and global medical trends.

M3 Global Research Join me and other healthcare professionals at M3 Global Research. We are a dedicated team around the world with the ambition to evolve our healthcare provision through Medical Market Research. "It feels exciting to be part of a thriving medical community!"Shelby Castile, M3 Member since 2019.

07/22/2022

I was recently interviewed by www.subkit.com on Orange County Shrinks + about how this strong, supportive community continues to grow. We had fun!

*linked in comments

Orange County Shrinks
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Misconceptions in Therapy — Shelby Castile, LMFT 07/22/2022

Misconceptions in Therapy — Shelby Castile, LMFT

There’s nothing wrong with trying to work through issues together without the help of a professional or reading books or blogs to get educated on the various schools of thought in couples’ therapy. However, when it comes to making strides in your relationship, having an unbiased third party can work wonders. Shelby Castile, LMFT

Misconceptions in Therapy — Shelby Castile, LMFT In my own practice, I see a lot of misconceptions, but especially as they relate to couples’ therapy . Today, I want to dispel a few common misconceptions of couples therapy that I see quite frequently.

Photos from Shelby Castile, LMFT's post 07/21/2022

⠸It’s ok to acknowledge when things are hard. It doesn’t mean we’re negative or giving up. It simply means we’re self-aware.

@ablackfemaletherapist 💅🏾 says it best…
“Doing hard things takes intention, practice, perspective, consistency, self-compassion, time and so much more.”

Be gentle with yourself. Be gentle with others. 🫂

07/08/2022

⠸Taking responsibility can be empowering. When you take responsibility for your life, you put yourself in the driver’s seat. When you take responsibility for having hurt someone, you accept what you did so that you can learn from your mistakes + move on. Responsibility = Acceptance 🫶🏾🫶🏽🫶🏼

Shelby Castile

05/14/2022
05/14/2022

☉ Understanding how to create emotional safety is key to fostering meaningful connections + healthy relationships. When both people in a relationship feel secure, it provides a safe environment where a deeper + more loving connection can form. ⚘ askshelbs💁🏼‍♀️
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05/01/2022

⠸Realizing there is no race means finding contentment in the here + now. True satisfaction can only be found inside ourselves.
When we can be alone with ourselves, be at peace, and feel a deeper connection, this is what we have really been racing to find.
Running toward the next accomplishment will never be able to provide this. It will only take us further away from what we’re hoping to feel. 💁🏼‍♀️
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Photos from Shelby Castile, LMFT's post 04/21/2022

⠸What it sounds like when someone suggests you just make a vision board, illustrated by @natalyalobanova 🎨 @newyorkermag 🫥
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Photos from Shelby Castile, LMFT's post 04/20/2022

🫶🏽 PSA: Being harsh + critical towards ourselves makes it hard to achieve long term goals or make change happen. 💁🏼‍♀️

We misinterpret that this struggle indicates that there is something *wrong with us* — really, it’s that we are treating ourselves in a way that is incredibly counterproductive to long term achievement + sustainable motivation.

Studies show that self-criticism is connected to rumination, stress, procrastination, perfectionism, fear of looking foolish or failure, a need to protect our self-image, and the struggle to ask for help. None of these behaviors help us to achieve what matters to us! At their very utmost potential, they can give us a short burst of painful-to-draw fuel that very quickly burns out; more commonly, this approach just hurts us.

Instead, try self-compassion on as you pursue your goals. It will not only help you to go further, but to do it in a far healthier and happier way. Studies have found that self-compassion is linked to better emotional regulation, self-awareness, resilience, self-efficacy (the belief you CAN do it), increased motivation after mistakes / setbacks, + the ability to maintain perspective. It’s also very good for your mental health, supporting you at every step of the journey so it’s enjoyable and meaningful, rather than draining and misery-inducing.

This is a brilliant post by @newhappyco + I find myself reiterating this concept to my clients daily. 🫶🏽
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04/13/2022

⠸Depressed? Just choose joy.
Grieving? Just be grateful you had them so long.
Anxious? Just chill, it will all be okay!
Confused? Don’t worry, it’ll all work out!
Scared? Hey, it could always be worse!
Crying? Just smile!
Feeling alone? Others have it worse! @sitwithwhit 👑

Emotional invalidation can be hurtful, but learning to recognize it might help prevent its effects.

Validation is the acceptance of a person’s thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Invalidation, then, is just the opposite — when a person’s thoughts, feelings, emotions, and behaviors are rejected, judged, or ignored.

It is the act of dismissing or rejecting someone’s thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. It says to someone: “Your feelings don’t matter OR Your feelings are wrong.”

Some people use it intentionally as a tool to manipulate you by making you question your feelings. They might say something like: “I’m sure it wasn’t really that bad.”

Others might do it unintentionally by trying to cheer you up in a stressful situation. This might sound like: “Everything happens for a reason” or “It could be worse.” Though this type of emotional invalidation is done by accident with well-meaning intentions, it doesn’t make it hurt any less.

Emotional invalidation doesn’t just have to be verbal, either. It can also involve nonverbal actions such as rolling your eyes, laughing at/ ignoring the person, or playing on your phone while someone is talking.

No matter how it happens, emotional invalidation can create confusion and distrust.
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