01/07/2026
Thank you everyone here is an article I just wrote
Five Suggestions From Over Fourty Years of Coaching and Professional Couples Counseling
Here are Five Suggestions to Create the Relationship of Your Dreams Not Your Nightmares Going into 2026.
1. Make your relationship a sanctuary for Nurturing and Wellbeing. Relax your expectations – Rigid expectations are an excuse to build future resentments. Cultivate Mindfulness of PAGL PAGL is an acronym for optimum mental health - Peace. Assurance, Gratitude and Love.
2. Learn to Respond to each other”s deepest emotional needs or Love Language - Nurturing Touch Nurturing Words Quality Time Acts of Service and Thoughtful Gifts and Gestures lto say “I Love You” See Gary Chapman “Five Languages of Love “
3. Build Bridges not Walls. Bridges lead to Growth, Walls lead to isolation. Walls become barriers with criticism, defensiveness judgement. Stone walling Bridges Focus instead on Understanding, Respect Taking Responsibility Making Amends.
Also Develop your communication Skills. Learn how to make clear Observations without judgements. Feeling Statements instead of self confirmatory made up stories, Needs instead of conditional strategies and Make Vulnerable Requests instead of The Blame Game with Arrogant Demands.- if you focus on listening to each other’s feelings and needs you will resolve conflict more quickly and easily.
4. Practice Compassion and Forgiveness Remembering your Partner is a gift from God. Your relationship is a Holy Experience especially designed for your education, growth and healing.
5. Know Why You Came Together -To Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Shadow Parts underlying your conflicts. Learn The Art and Practice of Compassion and Forgiveness - Remembering your Partner is a gift from God especially designed for your healing
So Keep in Mind Your relationship is a Holy Experience especially for you to learn how to maximize your ability to give and receive Love. Honor this education, growth and healing Ykur life and Relationsh will transform in ways you never imagine. Blessings and Love for All Good Things