08/07/2024
I am so honored to be invited as the keynote speaker for the first annual Mental Health Professionals Retreat, hosted by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT) Central Coast Chapter. The timing of the request was serendipitous, as I've done a lot of "accelerated" learning over the last couple of years that I'm ready to start sharing. In particular, I faced genuine trauma in my own life-- a term I wouldn't use lightly-- and found myself feeling like I just couldn't get ahold of it. I can't begin to tell you how unsettling that is-- to know the therapy methods, to understand the neurological changes and the disruption of previously held beliefs-- and yet to be utterly leveled by it. I thought of service members who I've worked with you said during the first session that they figured they'd give therapy "one last shot" before giving up, and understood finally through my own lived experience how utterly hopeless true posttraumatic stress feels. I felt fundamentally damaged, and my inability to get through it started to shake my faith in the science and evidence-based therapy methods I've dedicated my life to practicing. So what finally happened? Well, for one, things got worse. I thought I would continue continue to work my ass off and achieve new pursuits, only to find that there was no glory at the end of that road. And it was then, when the one thing I could always rely on failed me-- my brain and my drive-- that I realized I've really forgotten how important it is to just be Shannon. ...To be in my body, to reconnect with that sense of just being, to feel a genuine love for myself. Not an arrogant sort of attachment to an identity-- but the very simple, joyful, sweetness of just allowing myself to be here, to comfort that little kid inside of me that's been striving for approval & belonging for so long. The more I took time to just reconnect with my own body in this very moment, the more I felt compassion for myself. That in turn enhanced my compassion for others. And then, I brought that presence and stillness into the therapy room, and the magic really began. I can't wait to share more at the retreat, and I hope to see you there!