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09/27/2023

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard in session that the reason why we’re not speaking up is a “fear of confrontation.”

Well, how about instead of viewing it as a “confrontation” you view it as “approaching” “communicating” “advocating” “asserting” or a different word that’s less activating —- and more accurate.

How we frame things can make all the difference.

Sometimes creating small language shifts can help us be brave and move forward- and enable us to have the harder conversations that inevitably come up in relationships.

Personally, I like the word "approach" better than “confront" -especially for people who might shy away from assertive communication and tend to engage in more people pleasing behaviors.

Of course, sometimes the word "confront" does work better- but I think it does feel heavier and more defensive - and can cause some people not to have the conversation because they are scared away by the idea of "confronting" someone. It calls up a more defensive sort of reaction, whereas "approach" feels more assertive and authentic- and still very strong.

How does "I'm going to approach them" feel different than "I'm going to confront them" for you?

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