Madi Davis, LCSW

Madi Davis, LCSW I will find a way to work a Taylor Swift reference into most sessions unless you tell me not to. 🙃

11/04/2025
10/04/2025

Period. Don’t do it/stop doing it. There is nothing more important than safety in a relationship. Doing these things is an attempt at control. Control isn’t safe. It doesn’t create safety for the other person and it only gives you the illusion of safety for yourself. It’s not real. An attempt at control points an arrow at something that needs your attention and healing. Let it be an invitation to look at yourself instead of engaging with others this way. What else would you add to this list?

Not a rhetorical question if you’re wondering. For those that don’t know, it’s a lyric from one of the songs on Taylor S...
10/04/2025

Not a rhetorical question if you’re wondering.

For those that don’t know, it’s a lyric from one of the songs on Taylor Swift’s new album The Life of a Showgirl. ✨

09/22/2025

Before you label yourself as lazy, try asking:

🌼 What do I *actually* need right now - physically, emotionally, mentally?
🌼 Where am I stretching myself too thin or saying yes when I mean no?
🌼 What would true, nourishing rest look like - not a quick fix, but real replenishment?
🌼 How might I care for myself differently if I wasn’t carrying fear of being judged, misunderstood, or seen as lazy or “not enough”?

❤️

09/20/2025

When we’re overwhelmed, stressed, or spiralling, the part of the brain responsible for problem-solving and perspective-taking (the prefrontal cortex) temporarily goes offline.

Which means no matter how hard we try, thinking our way out of the moment rarely works.

What does help is tending to the body first: slowing your breath, moving, grounding, or simply allowing yourself to pause. Regulation before reflection.

Clarity comes after the storm has passed. Decisions feel easier once your nervous system has settled.

So if you find yourself in a spiral, remember: you don’t need to map out the rest of your life in that moment. Your only job is to soothe your system. The rest can wait. ❤️

08/02/2025

Every relationship is a negotiation between what we’re willing to give while asking for what we need. It’s a dance. A dynamic balance that is built on mutual honesty, communication and safety. This is the opposite of one sided control.

And we actually do have a lot of power in our relationships, we just don’t use it - for a variety of reasons. What I mean by “power” is our power to CHOOSE. Choose to tell them what you need. Choose to respond to how they respond to that.

You’re not at their “mercy”, and they don’t have to mind-read you constantly either. You’re two adults choosing to be together. One of you constantly pressuring the other to change, to act a certain way puts a tremendous amount of strain on the relationship, pulling you two apart.

Work on being as honest and conscious as you can. Check in frequently. Spend quality time together. Not only doing stuff together, but talking about your emotions and needs. It takes effort and setting time aside, and it’s so worth it!

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08/02/2025

You can inspire others, but you can’t change them. What person in your life have you been trying to change, trying to inspire to change, holding out hope for, etc? Who is it? Is it a partner, a parent, a sibling, or a friend? Just tune in here and name who it’s been for you. Most of the time we want another to change because we do believe it will benefit them, but let’s tune into ourselves here for the purpose of this post and exploration.

“If they change, what I get is…” Be with that. What gets offered to you if that other person integrates change? What relief do you feel? What validation or affirmation might you receive? What about the dynamic do you believe shifts, and why is that so important to you?

Reflect in this space. Yes, we want people to change because it often benefits them, but we also want people to change because it tends to benefit us as well. Maybe it’s relief for us, maybe it’s a witnessing of us that we’ve craved for so long, or maybe it’s having our pain finally understood. Deep breath here. Notice what it is for you, and notice how if you’re being asked to release trying to get another to change, you might also be releasing and letting go of the hope that you’ll get the relief in the way you thought, get witnessed in the way you’ve craved, and be understood in the way you hope for.
Ahh…grief.

If I release needing to control you I must begin (or continue) to grieve. There is loss that shows up when we release. Might you make a bit of room to feel into that loss?

07/17/2025

Kind words are wonderful. Looking in the mirror and repeating something positive about yourself is fine, it’s just not enough.

If you want to believe something different about yourself, you have to address the thing that keeps you from believing it and trusting it. Want to believe you’re worthy and enough? Just telling yourself that isn’t going to cut it. What put the unworthiness there in the first place? Want to believe you can trust others? Forcing yourself to trust isn’t going to do it. What ruptured trust for you, and can you begin to start showing and noticing in your body what trust feels like?

Resolving pain from the past takes both origin wound work and nervous system work. There’s value to understanding what put the doubt, pain, insecurity there in the first place , bearing witness to it and allowing grief to arise. It’s powerfully healing. But then it’s about showing yourself that it’s safe to believe something different, something new. We need disconfirming experiences (new data points) that show us that the old operating system isn’t it anymore. Over and over again.

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07/09/2025

It’s not about how hard we try to change someone. It’s about what they choose for themselves as adults. When we love someone, we naturally want what’s best for them. But we need to recognize that “the best” is based on our own perspective, which may not align with what they want, need, or are capable of.

Love can quickly become manipulation, control, or even (self) destruction when we lose sight of the other person’s freedom to choose - even if we believe their choices are wrong, unhealthy, or harmful.

Just as we can support those willing to change, we must also respect the choice not to. It’s their life, and our love doesn’t grant us power over their freedom to choose.

So, what can we do? We can talk - clearly, openly, repeatedly. We can offer help when asked - within reason and clear boundaries. We can continue to love, have compassion, and be there for them. We can also step away if it becomes too much. But trying to force change, ignoring their autonomy, and neglecting our own needs in the process?

That’s not love. It’s unprocessed childhood trauma showing up as a need to control. At that point, it’s no longer about them but about us: Why do we need them to change? Why do we want something for them that they don’t want? What are we trying to fix in ourselves by fixing them?

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