It Is Well Counseling

It Is Well Counseling Walking with couples and individuals towards healing, hope and healthier relationships with compassionate care and over a decade of experience.

Welcome and thank you for considering It Is Well Counseling Services, I am glad that you are here! My name is Kashina Harris and I have spent the beginning part of my career as an elementary school teacher in a classroom full of first grade students. It was in that classroom that my desire to help the students and families with more than academics became so evident. This passion led me to receive my Master’s in School Counseling from Lindenwood University in 2017 and a Masters in Counseling from Lindenwood University in 2018. In my first five years of counseling, I worked with highly trained counselors and clinicians with over 30 year of experience. I am blessed to have worked in multiple clinical settings and gained extensive knowledge in many areas of psychotherapy. It Is Well Counseling was established in 2021. It was created to partner with clients and offer trans-formative experiences by providing an environment that is safe and authentic. When listing my areas of expertise I find myself wanting to give, what some might say is a cheesy response, but I can’t deny that I love working with people. Every individual has a story that is unique to them and it has helped shape who they are. There have been many times in my own life that I have had to tell myself “it is well, with my soul” when I was in the middle of life's struggles because I knew there was power in my struggles. Ephesians 2:10 says "For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." The very world we live in is broken, but we don't have to live in the brokenness, we weren’t created for that.

03/06/2026

There’s a reason Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” still resonates today.
“Oh no, not I, I will survive”—sometimes survival is the anthem of a hard season.

Some seasons aren’t about thriving.
They’re about surviving.

If you got out of bed.
If you showed up.
If you kept going when everything in you wanted to quit—that counts.

Surviving is not weakness. It’s resilience in motion.

In nature, fire can serve an important purpose. When carefully managed, the burning of wood clears away dead growth, ret...
03/03/2026

In nature, fire can serve an important purpose. When carefully managed, the burning of wood clears away dead growth, returns nutrients to the soil, and creates space for new life to emerge. Forests often grow stronger after a controlled burn because what was choking growth is gently removed. Seeds that could not open before finally have the light and room they need to take root.

But when fire is careless or out of control, the outcome changes. Instead of renewal, it brings devastation — stripping the land of protection, damaging healthy roots, and leaving behind exhaustion rather than restoration.

Our emotional lives can look similar.

There are seasons when change feels uncomfortable or even painful. Letting go of old habits, unhealthy relationships, or patterns of thinking can feel like something inside us is burning away. When that process is intentional and supported, it can lead to healing, clarity, and growth. We become lighter. Healthier. More grounded.

But when change happens without care — through avoidance, harsh self-criticism, or impulsive decisions — it can leave deeper wounds instead of healing.

Transformation is not about destroying who you are. It is about thoughtfully releasing what no longer serves you so something stronger can grow in its place.

Healing asks us to slow down, tend the fire wisely, and allow renewal to happen with intention.

March invites us into fresh starts. Healing often begins quietly — with one honest moment of self-reflection or one brav...
03/02/2026

March invites us into fresh starts. Healing often begins quietly — with one honest moment of self-reflection or one brave decision to do something differently. Emotional renewal doesn’t require perfection; it requires willingness. One of my favorite artists, Anne Wilson, sings about leaving the rain in the rearview — and that picture feels especially meaningful today. Sometimes healing looks like choosing not to keep staring at what’s behind you. Consider what you are ready to release and what you want to welcome instead. Leave what no longer serves you in the rear-view and focus on the road unfolding in front of you — where growth, healing, and new possibilities are waiting.

02/23/2026

So many people carry quiet shame about the chapters of their lives they wish had turned out differently — the relationships that hurt, the choices they regret, the moments they stayed too long or left too soon, and the seasons where simply getting through the day felt like the greatest victory. They replay conversations they wish they could redo. They question decisions made when they were exhausted, afraid, or doing the best they could with limited support. Often, they measure their hardest seasons against who they believe they “should have been,” instead of recognizing who they were trying to survive.

Shame has a way of convincing people that those chapters define their worth. It whispers that struggle equals failure or that pain means something is wrong with them. But many of those moments were not signs of weakness — they were evidence of endurance. They were attempts to love, to protect, to hope, or simply to keep going when life felt overwhelming.

But healing often begins when we stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What did I walk through?”

Your past may explain parts of you.
It may have shaped how you protect yourself.
It may have taught you how to endure.

But it does not get to decide who you become.

For some, faith reminds us that grace meets us right in the middle of imperfect stories. For others, healing comes through learning compassion for the version of themselves that did the best they could with what they had.

Growth doesn’t erase your story. It gives it meaning.

If you are learning how to move forward without carrying shame from where you’ve been, know this — you don’t have to do it alone.

02/23/2026

So many people carry quiet shame about the chapters of their lives they wish had turned out differently — the relationships that hurt, the choices they regret, the moments they stayed too long or left too soon, and the seasons where simply getting through the day felt like the greatest victory. They replay conversations they wish they could redo. They question decisions made when they were exhausted, afraid, or doing the best they could with limited support. Often, they measure their hardest seasons against who they believe they “should have been,” instead of recognizing who they were trying to survive.

Shame has a way of convincing people that those chapters define their worth. It whispers that struggle equals failure or that pain means something is wrong with them. But many of those moments were not signs of weakness — they were evidence of endurance. They were attempts to love, to protect, to hope, or simply to keep going when life felt overwhelming.

But healing often begins when we stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What did I walk through?”

Your past may explain parts of you.
It may have shaped how you protect yourself.
It may have taught you how to endure.

But it does not get to decide who you become.

For some, faith reminds us that grace meets us right in the middle of imperfect stories. For others, healing comes through learning compassion for the version of themselves that did the best they could with what they had.

Growth doesn’t erase your story. It gives it meaning.

If you are learning how to move forward without carrying shame from where you’ve been, know this — you don’t have to do it alone.

Many people worry something is wrong with them when they feel emotionally numb or disconnected. The truth is, shutting d...
02/21/2026

Many people worry something is wrong with them when they feel emotionally numb or disconnected. The truth is, shutting down emotionally is often a form of protection. When your heart or nervous system has experienced too much stress, loss, conflict, or disappointment, it learns to slow things down so you can survive.

Emotional distance isn’t weakness. It’s often wisdom your body learned during a hard season.

But surviving and living are not the same thing.

Healing isn’t about forcing yourself to “feel everything” all at once. It’s about gently learning safety again — in your thoughts, your relationships, and your own body.

Sometimes reopening looks like:
• noticing what you feel without judging it
• allowing small moments of joy without fear
• setting boundaries that protect your peace
• learning that connection can be safe again

Some of the hardest seasons of your life may also hold the deepest evidence of your strength. The chapters you wish you ...
02/20/2026

Some of the hardest seasons of your life may also hold the deepest evidence of your strength. The chapters you wish you could skip… the ones filled with grief, disappointment, or uncertainty… are often the very places where growth quietly began.

Healing doesn’t mean pretending the hard things never happened. It means learning how to carry them differently — with compassion instead of shame.

Your story is not defined by what hurt you.
It is shaped by how you kept going.
By the courage it took to get up again.
By the moments you chose hope when giving up felt easier.

Sometimes what you survived becomes the very thing that helps someone else feel less alone.

If you are in a season of rebuilding, rediscovering yourself, or trying to make sense of what you’ve walked through, you deserve support along the way. Therapy can be a place where your story is heard, honored, and gently rewritten through healing.

You don’t have to carry it alone.

02/18/2026

So many people believe healing requires them to erase memories, minimize pain, or pretend certain chapters never happened. The truth is — healing is not about rewriting your story. It’s about changing how your story lives inside your mind, body, and heart.

Healing looks like being able to remember without reliving the pain.
It looks like trusting your instincts again after they were ignored or dismissed.
It looks like allowing yourself to feel joy without waiting for something bad to follow.
It looks like learning that safety can exist in your relationships, your boundaries, and within yourself.

Sometimes healing is slow. Sometimes it feels messy. Sometimes it feels like taking two steps forward and one step back. That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human.

As Galentine’s celebrations fill the week with friendship and connection, it’s a beautiful reminder of something importa...
02/14/2026

As Galentine’s celebrations fill the week with friendship and connection, it’s a beautiful reminder of something important:

Healthy relationships start with personal responsibility.

It’s easy to point out what others could do better. It’s harder—and more powerful—to ask ourselves:
• How am I showing up?
• Am I communicating clearly?
• Am I owning my triggers and reactions?
• Am I apologizing when I need to?

Growth doesn’t mean blaming yourself for everything. It means taking responsibility for your part.

Whether in friendships, dating, or marriage—strong relationships are built when each person does their own work.

Celebrate your friendships. Celebrate connection.
And celebrate the courage it takes to grow.

February 11Self-care is not selfish—it’s biblical.So often we push through exhaustion, overextend ourselves, and call it...
02/13/2026

February 11

Self-care is not selfish—it’s biblical.

So often we push through exhaustion, overextend ourselves, and call it strength. But Scripture reminds us that rest and guarding our hearts are part of how we live well.

📖 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” – Matthew 11:28
Rest is an invitation from God.

📖 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23
Guarding your heart includes tending to your emotional and mental health.

Even Jesus stepped away from the crowds to pray and be alone (Luke 5:16).
If He needed space to recharge, we can give ourselves permission to do the same.

Sometimes self-care looks like:
• Setting boundaries
• Turning down the noise
• Asking for help
• Choosing counseling

Taking care of yourself allows you to love others from a healthy place.

Psalm 18:2 says, “The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my deliverer.”A fortress isn’t built to keep love out—it’s built...
02/11/2026

Psalm 18:2 says, “The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my deliverer.”
A fortress isn’t built to keep love out—it’s built to create safety within.

In the same way, healthy boundaries aren’t about shutting people out. They’re about creating emotional safety so love can thrive. When we feel secure—grounded in God as our refuge—we don’t have to react out of fear, overextend ourselves, or shrink to keep the peace.

God models protection without isolation. Strength without harshness.
And we’re allowed to do the same.

Healthy boundaries protect relationships.
They create space for honesty, respect, and real connection.

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