It Is Well Counseling

It Is Well Counseling Walking with couples and individuals towards healing, hope and healthier relationships with compassionate care and over a decade of experience.

Welcome and thank you for considering It Is Well Counseling Services, I am glad that you are here! My name is Kashina Harris and I have spent the beginning part of my career as an elementary school teacher in a classroom full of first grade students. It was in that classroom that my desire to help the students and families with more than academics became so evident. This passion led me to receive my Master’s in School Counseling from Lindenwood University in 2017 and a Masters in Counseling from Lindenwood University in 2018. In my first five years of counseling, I worked with highly trained counselors and clinicians with over 30 year of experience. I am blessed to have worked in multiple clinical settings and gained extensive knowledge in many areas of psychotherapy. It Is Well Counseling was established in 2021. It was created to partner with clients and offer trans-formative experiences by providing an environment that is safe and authentic. When listing my areas of expertise I find myself wanting to give, what some might say is a cheesy response, but I can’t deny that I love working with people. Every individual has a story that is unique to them and it has helped shape who they are. There have been many times in my own life that I have had to tell myself “it is well, with my soul” when I was in the middle of life's struggles because I knew there was power in my struggles. Ephesians 2:10 says "For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." The very world we live in is broken, but we don't have to live in the brokenness, we weren’t created for that.

"Healing is holy, but it is rarely instant. In marriage, healing often unfolds slowly—through honesty, patience, prayer,...
02/01/2026

"Healing is holy, but it is rarely instant. In marriage, healing often unfolds slowly—through honesty, patience, prayer, and repeated choices to stay engaged even when it’s uncomfortable.

God can heal in a moment, but He often invites us into a process. A process that shapes our character, deepens humility, and teaches us how to love more gently. Slowness does not mean failure. It often means something sacred is forming beneath the surface.

If your marriage is in a season of healing, honor the process. God is still at work—even here."

Name one small sign of healing you’ve noticed, even if things aren’t fully resolved.

Every season teaches us something—about ourselves, our needs, our patterns, and the way we show up when things feel hard...
02/01/2026

Every season teaches us something—about ourselves, our needs, our patterns, and the way we show up when things feel hard or tender. Growth isn’t always loud or obvious. Sometimes it shows up as awareness, humility, or a softer response than last time.

Reflection doesn’t mean judging the month as good or bad. It means listening for what it offered.

Fridays often carry a quiet truth: whatever we’ve been carrying all week doesn’t magically disappear when the weekend ar...
01/30/2026

Fridays often carry a quiet truth: whatever we’ve been carrying all week doesn’t magically disappear when the weekend arrives. Stress, fatigue, resentment, and unspoken needs have a way of tagging along.

In marriage, connection isn’t built only in big moments—it’s shaped by how we show up in the small, ordinary ones. How we speak when we’re tired. How we listen when we’d rather disengage. How we repair instead of retreat.

Small intentional shifts today can change the tone of everything that follows.

Before the weekend begins, pause and ask:
What do I want to bring into my marriage these next two days—rest, presence, or more distance?

"Chocolate Day is a reminder that small, thoughtful gestures carry meaning in marriage. Chocolate won’t fix conflict—but...
01/27/2026

"Chocolate Day is a reminder that small, thoughtful gestures carry meaning in marriage. Chocolate won’t fix conflict—but it can communicate care, attention, and delight.

In counseling, we often talk about how connection is built through everyday moments. A small gift, a shared treat, or a simple pause together says: I thought of you. Those moments create warmth and safety, which make deeper conversations possible.

Don’t underestimate the power of small sweetness. In marriage, it’s often the little things that keep love feeling alive."

Share something sweet today—chocolate or otherwise—and name why you thought of your spouse.

"Unspoken expectations create distance because no person is powerful enough to meet the deepest desires of our heart—tha...
01/26/2026

"Unspoken expectations create distance because no person is powerful enough to meet the deepest desires of our heart—that place belongs to God alone. When we expect our spouse to fill what only God can, disappointment and resentment quietly grow.

At the same time, vulnerability matters. Sharing your heart doesn’t guarantee your desires will be met, but it does place you in a posture where connection can grow organically. When we name our needs with humility and trust God with the outcome, we create space for understanding, intimacy, and grace.

Clarity is not criticism. It’s an invitation—to be known, not demanded from."

Share one desire using this frame: ‘This is something I’m holding before God, and it would mean a lot to share it with you…’

Prayer softens our hearts, steadies our emotions, and reminds us who we are before we speak. It helps us enter difficult...
01/25/2026

Prayer softens our hearts, steadies our emotions, and reminds us who we are before we speak. It helps us enter difficult conversations with humility instead of defensiveness, curiosity instead of control.

Faith doesn’t excuse avoidance. It invites responsibility. When we pray first, we’re more able to listen well, speak honestly, and stay grounded even when the conversation feels tender or uncomfortable."

Pray or pause for one minute before a hard conversation and ask: How do You want me to show up in this moment?

Validation isn’t agreement.And this misunderstanding quietly erodes a lot of connection.When your spouse says, “I just n...
01/25/2026

Validation isn’t agreement.
And this misunderstanding quietly erodes a lot of connection.

When your spouse says, “I just need you to hear me,” what they’re often asking for isn’t approval—it’s presence.

Validation sounds like:
“I can see why that felt painful.”
“That makes sense given what you were carrying.”
“I want to understand how you experienced this.”

It does not mean:
“I think you’re right.”
“I agree with your conclusion.”
“I’m taking the blame.”

So many couples skip curiosity and jump straight to defense because they believe understanding equals surrender.

But connection grows when we choose to be curious instead of correct.
When we soften enough to ask, “Help me understand your world,” even if we still see things differently.

You don’t have to agree to stay connected.
You just have to stay present.
✔️
Where in your relationship do you confuse being heard with being agreed with?

"The key to connection is curiosity—being curious about your own behavior and the behavior of others, rather than judgme...
01/23/2026

"The key to connection is curiosity—being curious about your own behavior and the behavior of others, rather than judgmental. So often we judge ourselves by how we show up in life: how patient we are, how loving we feel, how quickly we react. But judgment shuts connection down.

Curiosity softens us. It asks, What’s happening here? What do I need? What might my spouse be needing right now? When we stay curious instead of critical, we create space for understanding, compassion, and real connection."

When you feel triggered today, pause and ask: What am I feeling—and why?

💛 Did you know a 60-second hug can actually change your body? 💛Research shows that sustained, safe physical touch—like a...
01/21/2026

💛 Did you know a 60-second hug can actually change your body? 💛

Research shows that sustained, safe physical touch—like a hug—can:

🤍 Lower stress hormones (cortisol)
🤍 Increase oxytocin, the hormone linked to bonding, trust, and emotional safety
🤍 Calm the nervous system, helping lower heart rate and blood pressure
🤍 Improve mood by increasing feel-good chemicals like serotonin and dopamine
🤍 Strengthen emotional connection and feelings of security
🤍 Support immune health by reducing the impact of chronic stress

In a world that often feels rushed and disconnected, a simple hug can help our bodies shift from survival mode into connection and calm.

On National Hug Day, take a moment to pause, lean in, and share a hug with someone safe and meaningful. Sometimes healing starts with something this simple.

✨ If connection feels hard right now, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
Counseling can help couples and individuals rebuild safety, closeness, and trust. Hug a loved one and set up an appointment with It Is Well Counseling.

Cycles don’t break because we ignore them.They break because we have the courage to heal.Many of the patterns we carry i...
01/20/2026

Cycles don’t break because we ignore them.
They break because we have the courage to heal.

Many of the patterns we carry into adulthood were learned in survival, not chosen with intention. What was inherited doesn’t have to define what comes next. Through healing, awareness, and support, cycles can be broken—and what once felt like a burden can become a future blessing.

If you’re doing the work of healing—especially when it feels slow or unseen—know this matters. Your growth doesn’t just impact you; it reaches forward into relationships, families, and generations to come.

And if you find yourself needing support along the way, you don’t have to walk this journey alone.
It Is Well Counseling is here to help.
📞 417-300-5380

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a constant attitude.” — Martin Luther King Jr.You can choose to forgive you...
01/19/2026

“Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a constant attitude.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

You can choose to forgive your spouse and still feel hurt.
You can release resentment and still need time to rebuild trust.
You can extend grace and still need boundaries.

Forgiveness does not mean pretending the pain didn’t happen.
It doesn’t mean rushing past hard conversations or minimizing wounds.
And it doesn’t mean you’re “doing it wrong” if the feelings linger.

Healing takes time, safety, consistency, and often support.
Forgiveness opens the door—but healing walks through it slowly.

If your marriage is in a season where forgiveness has been offered but connection hasn’t fully returned yet, you’re not failing. You’re human—and growth is still happening.

Be patient with the process. 💛

“The tongue has the power of life and death.” — Proverbs 18:21
01/18/2026

“The tongue has the power of life and death.” — Proverbs 18:21

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