All Things New Counseling Services, LLC

10/27/2025

There has been a LOT going on behind the scenes over the past 19 months with All Things New Counseling. We’ve been “hush” because all the ups and downs over all these months have been a LOT! You may notice some updates happening with the All Things New Logo, and this comes with a move to a new location in Nixa. We’ve been building a new healing haven from the ground up while you weren’t looking! The healing at All Things New will be featuring our in-person services that about 2,000 ish clients have known us for over the past 17 years—but with a BIG upgrade! (Don’t worry if you’re a telehealth client. We will continue to offer our excellent telehealth services to anyone in the state of Missouri as well.) Our in-person services will feature our departure from strip-mall existence, and will offer some fabulous outdoor space to enjoy- whether just enjoying the view through the windows or enjoying your session on our new outdoor patio or putting your toes in the grass. Yes, it’s fall and winter is around the corner, but spring will come again and then our outdoor spaces will continue to grow and blossom like a breath of fresh air! There’s a lot of finishing touches still going on—we have your comfort in mind as we create a delightfully peaceful setting for your therapeutic experience—but we plan to begin seeing clients in our new facility at 110 N Fort Street in Nixa 11/3/2025 (That’s next Monday! Eeeeeeeek!) Stay tuned for pictures and updates as we settle into our new haven! ...and don’t forget to schedule your appointment with Kristin and Dewey, because we can’t wait to see you there!

10/27/2025

There has been a LOT going on behind the scenes over the past 19 months with All Things New Counseling. We've been "hush" because all the ups and downs over all these months have been a LOT! You may notice some updates happening with the All Things New Logo, and this comes with a move to a new location in Nixa. We've been building a new healing haven from the ground up while you weren't looking! The healing at All Things New will be featuring our in-person services that about 2,000 ish clients have known us for over the past 17 years--but with a BIG upgrade! (Don't worry if you're a telehealth client. We will continue to offer our excellent telehealth services to anyone in the state of Missouri as well.) Our in-person services will feature our departure from strip-mall existence, and will offer some fabulous outdoor space to enjoy- whether just enjoying the view through the windows or enjoying your session on our new outdoor patio or putting your toes in the grass. Yes, it's fall and winter is around the corner, but spring will come again and then our outdoor spaces will continue to grow and blossom like a breath of fresh air! There's a lot of finishing touches still going on--we have your comfort in mind as we create a delightfully peaceful setting for your therapeutic experience--but we plan to begin seeing clients in our new facility at 110 N Fort Street in Nixa 11/3/2025 (That's next Monday! Eeeeeeeek!) Stay tuned for pictures and updates as we settle into our new haven! ...and don't forget to schedule your appointment with Kristin and Dewey, because we can't wait to see you there!

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10/23/2025

“True regulation isn’t about getting calm. It’s about helping your nervous system feel safe enough to move through emotions without being flooded by them.”
-Frank Anderson

Doing good trauma work is always about helping your nervous system feel safe.

Sometimes people with severely traumatized nervous systems cope by being hardcore “do-ers.” They are stuck in the hyperarousal of fight. Everything is a fight for them. This is how they have learned to survive.

When people who have learned to cope and survive by being in fight mode come to me desiring to address unresolved trauma, they expect to go out fighting to find their healing and hog tie it and drag it home.

It doesn’t work that way.

Healing just comes when the right ingredients are accessible. One of the most important ingredients for healing to come is for your nervous system to feel safe.

Let’s start with learning how to show your nervous system that it’s safe. 🩵

09/27/2025

If you are an adult child of emotionally immature parents, I see you, and I care!

Imagine hurting your child so deeply that the only way they could heal was by walking away. And instead of facing that truth; you tell yourself and everyone else, that you were the one left behind. There's nothing more painful than a parent who refuses to see the part they played in their own child's silence.

This behavior is a classic example of narcissistic parental behavior, where the parent's need for validation and control takes precedence over the child's needs and well-being. By denying responsibility and shifting the narrative, the parent avoids accountability and maintains a self-image of being the victim.

This can be particularly damaging for the child, who may feel forced to carry the emotional burden of their parent's actions. The child's decision to distance themselves may be a necessary step towards healing, but it can also be a painful reminder of the parent's failure to provide love, support, and validation.

The parent's refusal to acknowledge their role in the child's pain can prevent genuine healing and reconciliation. Instead, it can create a deeper divide, leaving the child feeling unheard, unseen, and un validated. By refusing to take responsibility, the parent perpetuates a cycle of hurt and blame, rather than working towards growth, understanding, and healing.

09/26/2025

LETTER TO THE EDITOR: The American Foundation for Su***de Prevention’s Out of the Darkness Greene County Walk is Sept. 27. April Cox, of Springfield, invites the community to join her and help bring hope to those affected by su***de.

Read it: https://sgfcitizen.org/voices-opinion/letters/letter-out-of-the-darkness-walk-brings-hope-to-people-affected-by-su***de/

09/07/2025

Knowing what to look for can help save a life. Changes in sleep, behavior, or withdrawal from loved ones can all be warning signs. Let’s talk about it. Learn more at nami.org/su***deprevention

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08/11/2025

For my “sensitive” clients- so that you hear it from someone besides just me! You are seen!

07/18/2025

Some people provide us with a good training ground to practice choosing who we want to be despite who they are being.

Someone else’s choices aren’t your fault. But in order to make it through the process of repairing trust, you need to be able to confront well, be wise in seeing and spotting deception, move beyond bitterness, and grow beyond the past.

06/22/2025

Safe Spaces Post Series - 3

We all need to feel “seen.” If we all improved our practice of truly seeing one another, the world would be a different -and safer- place for us all. You don’t even have to agree with someone to see them. Here are some examples-

- “I hear you expressing that you feel (insert applicable feeling descriptors) about (insert situation).”

This is a basic example of reflective listening.

- “Even if we don’t agree on everything, you are making some good points.”

This is especially helpful during a moment of potential conflict. Things are rarely all or nothing. Even if you mostly disagree, there are often some valid opposing points.

- “Your feelings make sense” or “I can totally understand why you’d feel that way.”

You might not feel the same way, but it is typically deeply affirming when you consider another person’s perspective.

Would you tell me more about your thoughts on (insert topic) so that I can better understand where you are coming from?”

Any time you ask someone to “tell me more,” it conveys that you desire to hear and understand them.

It can change everything when you listen to understand rather than listen to respond/assert your own point/agenda. Offering others what you long for yourself is a way of putting others “first.” If we all put each other first, none of us would feel like we are “last.”

06/19/2025

Some of the most resilient people I meet in trauma therapy don’t look like they’re struggling at all.

They’re highly capable. Driven. Empathetic. They hold it together in public, take care of everyone else, and have mastered the art of “pushing through.”

But here’s the thing:
Functioning isn’t the same as healing.
Adapting to pain isn’t the same as moving beyond it.

Our minds and bodies are incredibly smart when it comes to survival. We learn to cope in ways that help us keep our pain at bay - like staying overly independent, avoiding conflict, overachieving, or putting everyone else’s needs first.

These patterns often start as protection. And they work - until they start getting in the way of what we actually need.

While you might look fine on the outside, your body might still be bracing. Your relationships might still feel distant. Your joy might still feel like something you have to earn.

Healing is what happens when we stop just performing wellness and start tending to the parts of us that never got the chance to feel safe, held, or whole.

It’s slower. It’s messier. It’s deeper.

And it doesn’t mean erasing the ways you adapted. It means understanding them, honoring them - and slowly giving your system permission to live beyond them.

Not perfectly. Not all at once. But in ways that let you feel more present, more connected, and more at home in your own life.

06/13/2025

Excellent explanation of EMDR. It’s my favorite tool to support the natural healing process of the mind and nervous system.

06/10/2025

YES- PTSD can be resolved! I typically do pre- and post- assessments for PTSD symptoms at the start of my work with clients and then again when we are finishing our work. That moment at the end of our work together when the post assessment reveals no sign of PTSD despite the pre assessment registering SEVERE PTSD…those are some of my favorite moments that move me to tears every time! I love watching my clients experience freedom from the things that have held them down and held them back.
Have I mentioned how much I love my work? ❤️