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11/04/2025

Empathy is a beautiful gift until it starts to drain you.

In this week’s Close the Chapter Podcast, therapist Leah Marone, LCSW, joined me for a powerful conversation about emotional intelligence, empathy, and the fine line between caring deeply and carrying too much.

Many people who are sensitive, intuitive, and emotionally aware naturally take on the feelings of others.

They anticipate needs, soothe tension, and hold space with incredible care.

😞 But when there are no boundaries, that same empathy can turn into overwhelm, resentment, or burnout.

Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re protection for our peace and energy.
They keep empathy from becoming self-erasure.

When we learn to set limits with love, we’re not losing compassion rather we’re making it sustainable.

💗Empathy with boundaries says, “I care about you, and I also care about me.”

Download my Free Guided Journal to begin exploring what healthy empathy and boundaries look like for you.

Tap the link in bio or at www.kristendboice.com/freeresources.

11/03/2025

Do you catch yourself jumping in to solve, soothe, or make things better before the other person even finishes speaking?

Sometimes what we call compassion is really our ego in disguise.
That quiet need to feel helpful, needed, or good enough can slip in before we even notice.

We jump in to offer advice, relate too quickly, or try to tie things up neatly.

It comes from a caring place, but it can shift the focus away from the person who just needs to be heard.

💗 Try catching yourself in the moment. Pause, take a breath, and say, “I’m sorry, continue.”

Validation, eye contact, and presence do far more than quick solutions ever could.

🎧 Listen to Close the Chapter Ep 341: “Are You a Serial Fixer?” with me and guest, Leah Marone, LCSW, to learn how to shift from fixing to truly listening with awareness and empathy.

👉 kristendboice.com/podcastepisode341, Or search Close the Chapter Podcast wherever you listen.

11/02/2025

You can care deeply without carrying it all. 💭

In this Close the Chapter Podcast episode, guest Leah Marone, LCSW, shares a powerful reminder for anyone who identifies as a serial fixer: “Support. Don’t solve.”

So often, fixers come from a place of love.

We want to help, soothe, and hold everything together but in doing so, we can lose sight of ourselves. Leah invites us to pause and ask the deeper questions beneath the pattern:

👉 What are these fixer tendencies protecting me from?

👉 What am I afraid will happen if I stop over-functioning?

👉 What would it look like to let others handle their own growth while I focus on mine?

🎧 Tune in to the full episode to explore how to step out of the fixer role and back into authentic connection — available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and at https://kristendboice.com/podcastepisode341

11/01/2025

When we rush to make someone feel better, we might actually be getting in the way of their growth.☺️

Sometimes, the desire to help, especially when it comes from love, can do more harm than good.

It’s such a natural impulse. We see someone hurting and we want to fix it, ease their pain, or offer a solution.

But every time we jump in to rescue or fix them, we take away the small, powerful moments that help them build emotional resilience and confidence in their own ability to cope and self-soothe.

💕 True empathy doesn’t rush to erase discomfort, it stays with it.

When we hold space rather than solve, we create safety.

We model patience, presence, and trust.

And we help others discover something deeper, the strength that was already within them.

Think about a time when someone held space for you instead of trying to fix things.

How did that change the way you showed up for yourself afterward?

10/31/2025

Sometimes love shows up as fixing.

You see someone you care about struggling, and before you even think, you’re already helping, solving, doing.

It comes from such a good place, but over time, it can quietly turn into something else.

One person starts taking over while the other pulls away. What once felt connected starts to feel off-balance.

And that’s when connection begins to fade.

Most people don’t want to be fixed. They want to feel seen, supported, and trusted.

✨ I explore with my guest, Leah Marone, LCSW, why we feel the need to fix, how these patterns often begin in childhood, and how to shift from solving to truly supporting with more awareness and empathy.

Leah also shares practical insights from her upcoming book Serial Fixer to help you step out of over-functioning and create more balanced, authentic connections. 💛

If you’re someone who’s always “the helper,” this conversation will speak straight to your heart.

🎧 Listen now: kristendboice.com/podcastepisode341, or search Close the Chapter Podcast wherever you listen.

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10/30/2025

Ever catch yourself trying to fix someone’s problem before they even finish talking?

In this Close the Chapter Podcast episode, therapist Leah Marone, LCSW, explores the hidden side of being a “fixer.”

So many of us jump in to rescue, offer advice, or make things better believing we’re helping.

But when our urge to fix comes from our own anxiety, guilt, or need to be needed, it stops being about genuine connection and starts being about control or relief.

This insight matters because awareness is the first step toward change.

When we slow down and ask, “What’s driving my need to fix this?” Then we create space for ourselves and for the other person to breathe, reflect, and grow.

💖 Begin your inner work today.

Download my Free Guided Journal to start healing, reflecting, and writing your way toward clarity.

✨ Get your copy at www.kristendboice.com/freeresources.

10/29/2025

When we rush to fix, we often lose the connection we were trying to create.

In this week’s Close the Chapter Podcast, I am joined by psychotherapist, clinical instructor, and author Leah Marone, LCSW to dive into what happens when our “fixer” instinct takes over the part of us that means well but unintentionally steals the space others need to process and grow.

Guest Leah Marone, LCSW, shares how quickly conversations can shift when we jump ahead with advice or try to relate too soon.

🎧 Listen to the full episode on the Close the Chapter Podcast here https://kristendboice.com/podcastepisode341.

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10/28/2025

The way we listen can either build walls or create safety.

Most people don’t feel fully seen or heard. We’re used to the quick “How are you?” followed by an automatic, “I’m fine.”

But when you slow down, make eye contact, and genuinely ask, “How are you feeling?” something begins to shift.

The person in front of you feels it.

They sense that it’s safe to be real.

That they can take a deep breath and actually share what’s going on inside.

💗That kind of presence communicates love in a way words never could.

It’s not about fixing, rescuing, or rushing to respond. It’s about being curious, open, and willing to listen.

That’s what creates emotional safety and trust.

So today, try it. Ask someone you love, “How are you really feeling?” Then give them your full attention. No distractions. No phone. Just your presence.

10/27/2025

Emotional check-ins aren’t just for when things get hard. They are a daily practice for connection.

Imagine if couples and families started with more vulnerable questions and deeper conversations instead of surface-level small talk.

When someone is willing to explore their emotions and reflect on growth, relationships thrive. When they aren’t, that’s important to notice.

💗Emotional check-ins help everyone feel seen, heard, and valued — the foundation of healthy and meaningful relationships.

🎧 Learn how to start meaningful emotional check-ins and create deeper connections in Close the Chapter Podcast Episode 340: The Power of Emotional Check-Ins: Why Asking “How are you really?” Matters

Catch the full episode: kristendboice.com/podcastepisode340

Stream it wherever you listen to podcasts.

Download your Free Close the Chapter Journal at kristendboice.com/resources to start reflecting, growing, and connecting on a deeper level.

10/26/2025

Real connection begins when we put the phone down and tune back in. 💕

In this Close the Chapter Podcast episode, Kristen reminds us that when we’re constantly scrolling through our phones, rushing, or numbing out, we lose our capacity for connection.

She shares how simple moments of slowing down, breathing, and asking, “How am I really feeling?” can transform the way we relate not just to others, but to ourselves.

When we make space for what’s happening inside, life starts to feel fuller, more meaningful, and more connected.

🎧 If you want to go deeper into how to do emotional check-ins and strengthen your relationships, tune in to the Close the Chapter Podcast — available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and at https://kristendboice.com/podcastepisode340

10/25/2025

You can’t pour from an empty cup. 😌

We often try to show up for everyone else while quietly running on empty.

When you skip your own emotional check-ins, it becomes harder to hold space for others without resentment, exhaustion, or burnout.

But when you take time to reflect on what you’re feeling, what you need, and what’s weighing on your heart, you become more grounded, more patient, and more emotionally available.

You can only give what you have created inside yourself — peace, compassion, regulation, and self-connection.

💞 That is what allows you to offer presence to the people you love.

Ready to begin checking in with yourself?

Download Kristen’s free guided journal to help you slow down, reflect, and reconnect with what you’re really feeling.

✨ Get your copy at www.kristendboice.com/freeresources.

10/24/2025

Ever start a conversation already tense and wonder why it falls apart?

💗 If you walk into a conversation feeling tense, angry, or dysregulated, it’s really hard to connect.

When your nervous system is activated, you’re reacting instead of relating, and that can shut down real connection fast.

Take a moment to pause and breathe. Give yourself a chance to get centered before you speak.

Emotional check-in’s work best when you’re calm and grounded. That’s when understanding, empathy, and vulnerability can actually happen.

🎧 Want to learn how to bring this practice into your daily life? Kristen shares how to use emotional check-ins to strengthen your relationships.

Listen here 👉 kristendboice.com/podcastepisode340

Also available on all major podcast platforms. 🎙️

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Welcome!

My name is Kristen Boice,

a psychotherapist (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist -- LMFT), motivational speaker, workshop presenter and trainer, and Close the Chapter podcast host who specializes in getting people unstuck—and that’s exactly what I help people like you do every day.

Through my speaking, Close the Chapter podcast, group coaching work, retreats, and free resources, I help people move forward to close the chapter on things that no longer serve them (like toxic relationships, negative behaviors and patterns, and old beliefs), and step into a different way of being.

Translation? If you’re in a period of transition, or have felt trapped where you are for too long, we’ll peel back the layers of your doubts and fears, and uncover the essence of truth already within you—so you can open the door to an incredible new phase of your life, no longer bogged down from the negativity holding you back.