Kristen D Boice, LMFT

Kristen D Boice, LMFT Psychotherapist, Coach, Speaker, Close the Chapter Podcast Host + Facilitator helping you to close th

For many people, needing others does not feel safe.And relying only on yourself can start to feel lonely. There can be a...
04/13/2026

For many people, needing others does not feel safe.

And relying only on yourself can start to feel lonely.

There can be a quiet tension between wanting closeness and feeling more comfortable handling everything alone.

In this conversation with Dr. Judy Ho , there is a deeper look at how some people lean into independence to protect themselves, while others struggle to feel secure without constant reassurance.

Over time, this can shape how support is given, received, or even avoided.

This is an invitation to understand and create a safe space to build a way of relating that allows both connection and self-trust to exist together.

If this brought up something about how you show up in relationships, tune in to the full conversation here kristendboice.com/podcastepisode364.

04/12/2026

When you start to understand yourself, your patterns, your attachment, something shifts.
You begin to understand others more too.

And you take things less personally.
When someone pulls away or doesn’t respond the way you hoped, it doesn’t automatically mean something is wrong with you. Often, it’s attachment. It’s an old wound being activated.

And that’s where the work begins.

Dr. Judy Ho and I talk more about this in this week’s encore episode.

If you’ve ever found yourself reacting and thinking, “Where did that come from?” or “Why does this feel so big?” this conversation will help you understand what’s underneath it.

And maybe even help you respond differently the next time it comes up.

Listen here: kristendboice.com/podcastepisode364 🤍
If you want to go deeper, Dr. Judy Ho’s book The New Rules of Attachment: How to Heal Your Relationships, Reparent Your Inner Child, and Secure Your Life Vision is linked in the show notes.

Some reactions feel bigger than the moment and there is usually a deeper reason why.Often, it is not just the present si...
04/11/2026

Some reactions feel bigger than the moment and there is usually a deeper reason why.

Often, it is not just the present situation, but something unresolved being activated underneath.

In this encore episode with Dr. Judy Ho, the conversation explores how early patterns shape emotional responses.

Understanding these patterns creates space to respond differently instead of repeating them.
➡️Swipe through, then listen to the full episode for deeper insight.

What if the change you’re waiting for isn’t outside of you?I see so many people waiting for something outside of them to...
04/10/2026

What if the change you’re waiting for isn’t outside of you?

I see so many people waiting for something outside of them to finally feel different.

The right relationship.
The right response.
The right timing.

But what often shifts things is not what changes around you, but how you begin to relate to yourself when things feel uncertain, triggering, or uncomfortable.

It shows up in how you speak to yourself when something doesn’t go as planned.

In whether you stay with yourself or abandon yourself in those moments.

That internal shift changes how you experience everything.

If certain patterns in your relationships keep repeating, there may be something deeper asking for your attention.

And if you’re ready to go deeper, my free guided journal is here to support you.

You can download it through the link in my profile. Grab it through the link in my bio or at https://kristendboice.com/freeresources/

04/10/2026

Have you ever wondered why some relationship patterns can feel intense but also strangely familiar?

Anxious and avoidant dynamics often create a push and pull.

One person reaches for closeness, the other creates distance and both end up feeling misunderstood.

Underneath, it is often two people protecting themselves in ways they learned a long time ago.

This week’s encore episode with Dr. Judy Ho explores this dynamic with depth and clarity and will help you understand what is driving the pattern so something different becomes possible.

Listen to the full episode at https://kristendboice.com/podcastepisode364. You don’t want to miss this one!

The way someone relates to others did not start in adulthood, it started much earlier. 🍃In early relationships, a child ...
04/09/2026

The way someone relates to others did not start in adulthood, it started much earlier. 🍃

In early relationships, a child begins to learn what connection feels like.

Whether people are safe.

Whether needs will be met.

Whether they are worthy of care.

Dr. Judy Ho warmly shares how these early experiences quietly shape patterns that can carry into adult relationships.

This is why certain reactions can feel automatic.

The pull toward closeness, the fear of being left or the instinct to shut down.

The focus isn’t on blaming the past but in opening the door to responding with more awareness and care.

If you are ready to explore this more deeply, I created a free guided journal to help you reflect and begin this work.

Download it through the link in my profile or visit https://kristendboice.com/freeresources/

“Just love yourself” sounds simple,but in the moments where you’re struggling,that’s usually not what your mind does.It ...
04/07/2026

“Just love yourself” sounds simple,
but in the moments where you’re struggling,
that’s usually not what your mind does.
It gets critical.

It starts pointing things out,
like what you should have done differently.
And that can feel really convincing.
Over time, that response just becomes familiar.
Self-compassion is learning how to stay with yourself there,
without immediately turning against yourself.
It’s a small shift,
but it changes the way you move through those moments.

If you’ve been noticing that voice and aren’t sure how to work with it,
this conversation goes deeper into what’s actually happening and where to begin

🎧 Healing Through Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
Listen here: https://kristendboice.com/podcastepisode363

Do you know the reason why self-compassion feels so hard? You were taught to earn everything. In this episode, Dr. Krist...
04/06/2026

Do you know the reason why self-compassion feels so hard? You were taught to earn everything.

In this episode, Dr. Kristin Neff shares a powerful reminder about self-compassion and why so many struggle to offer it to themselves.
Learning to offer compassion without requiring perfection can feel unfamiliar at first.
For many, that pattern was never modeled.
Still, a different way is possible.
One where care is given freely, especially in the moments it feels hardest to offer.
A softer approach begins when compassion is allowed without conditions.
😌Especially in the moments that feel the hardest.
Where have you been holding compassion back from yourself?
Listen to the full episode on all podcast platforms and download my free guided journal to begin practicing self-compassion in a more grounded, supportive way.
Download my free guided journal to start meeting yourself with more compassion, one page at a time.

Grab your copy through the link in my bio or at https://kristendboice.com/freeresources/

Healing doesn’t mean your reactions disappear.Moments of anger, shame, or reactivity can still show up even with deep se...
04/05/2026

Healing doesn’t mean your reactions disappear.

Moments of anger, shame, or reactivity can still show up even with deep self-awareness.

Swipe through to understand what’s really happening in those moments and how compassion helps you come back to yourself.

These moments don’t define who you are even when they feel loud.

Tune in if you’d like to go deeper into this:
🎧 Healing Through Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff https://kristendboice.com/podcastepisode363

Trying to feel better all the time can quietly become exhausting.There can be so much pressure to shift out of discomfor...
04/04/2026

Trying to feel better all the time can quietly become exhausting.

There can be so much pressure to shift out of discomfort quickly, to change the feeling, to make the moment easier.

And when that does not work, it can start to feel like something is wrong.

A different kind of healing begins when there is space to stay with what is actually there.

Not rushing past the feeling.
Not trying to fix it, but allowing it to be met with care.

That is where something softens.

Not because the emotion disappears, but because there is no longer a need to fight it.

💕This is where a sense of safety starts to build.
And from that place, change can unfold more naturally, and close chapters in your life that no longer serves you.

Start building a kinder relationship with yourself by downloading my free guided journal. Tap the link in bio or visit https://kristendboice.com/freeresources/

Self-compassion doesn’t always feel true at first.🌱In this episode, Dr. Kristin Neff shares why opening up to yourself c...
04/03/2026

Self-compassion doesn’t always feel true at first.🌱

In this episode, Dr. Kristin Neff shares why opening up to yourself can sometimes bring up more discomfort, and why that can actually be part of the process.

Swipe through to better understand what is happening and how to meet yourself with more care.

Nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way.

This is often how healing begins.

A person can do everything “right” and still feel stuck if their inner voice is working against them.In this episode, Dr...
04/02/2026

A person can do everything “right” and still feel stuck if their inner voice is working against them.

In this episode, Dr. Kristin Neff gently brings attention to the inner voice many people carry.

That voice is often far more critical and unforgiving than anything offered to someone they love.

That kind of inner dialogue can feel familiar, even protective.

Over time, that tone creates shame, distance, and emotional exhaustion.

Growth becomes harder when someone does not feel safe within themselves.

Self-compassion offers another way.

A person can acknowledge what is not working while still responding with understanding and care.

Tune into the full episode for a deeper conversation on changing the inner voice and creating safety within. Listen here https://kristendboice.com/podcastepisode363.

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Welcome!

My name is Kristen Boice,

a psychotherapist (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist -- LMFT), motivational speaker, workshop presenter and trainer, and Close the Chapter podcast host who specializes in getting people unstuck—and that’s exactly what I help people like you do every day.

Through my speaking, Close the Chapter podcast, group coaching work, retreats, and free resources, I help people move forward to close the chapter on things that no longer serve them (like toxic relationships, negative behaviors and patterns, and old beliefs), and step into a different way of being.

Translation? If you’re in a period of transition, or have felt trapped where you are for too long, we’ll peel back the layers of your doubts and fears, and uncover the essence of truth already within you—so you can open the door to an incredible new phase of your life, no longer bogged down from the negativity holding you back.