Jerry N Duncan PHD

09/05/2023

How you decide to think about your bad choices will have significant consequences. Knowing and thinking the truth has always been difficult for mankind.

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7.

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08/29/2023

Take a moment, if you would, and consider how a good parent or grandparent treats a child or grandchild when he/she makes a bad choice. Usually, that bad choice has been preceded with some kind of instruction or warning. The instruction or warning is given out of love and concern. It is based on a wish to protect, or a desire to teach some behavior that will have long-term positive consequences for that child.

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08/21/2023

If I focus too much on the “God is so disappointed in me,” I can easily end up believing that I can never be a “usable vessel” to God. I may still believe that I will go to Heaven when I die, but I will enter by “the skin of my teeth,” and never hear those words--“Well done my good and faithful servant.” I will wander through the rest of my life never attentive to the ongoing opportunities in front of me every day. I will just wait for death, and anticipate crawling through the pearly gates with my head down, anticipating my inevitable “tongue lashing."
I also have the option of ignoring or minimizing my bad choices and thinking, “It’s not that big of a deal.” Our bad choices do matter. It is called a “bad choice” because it hurts someone. It may hurt me. It may hurt someone else. And it might even hurt the way someone looks at God. If we have professed to be a follower of Jesus, others may look at our behavior and wonder whether or not being a Jesus-follower really makes a difference in a person’s life. .
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08/14/2023

Making bad choices in life is a given. It is not about whether I will. It is about when I will, and what I will do when I become aware of it.
How I think about my bad choices will determine my feelings and my behavior that follows.

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07/28/2023

Repetitive hurts can be stopped if both parties understand why they occur, and jointly agree on a plan to prevent them. The more repetitive hurt issues that get resolved, the safer the relationship feels.

Remember, safety comes before love.

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07/21/2023

When your partner is talking make sure you are actively listening to what they are sharing!

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07/14/2023

Avoid the Trigger words, they tend to trigger a defensive shield that flies up in front of your partner and he/she stops listening. In fact, he/she might start throwing “stones” back at you.

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07/07/2023

In marriage, we can find ourselves hurting our partner, and being hurt by our partner on a regular basis. Even though we might be diligent in confessing and apologizing for wrongs to each other, continuing the same hurt over and over can make our partner wonder how committed to change we are, and how safe he/she feels with us. Remember, safety comes before love.

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