Nancy Koff Marriage & Family Therapy Practice

10/21/2025

Expect these of your therapist. It's what we're trained to do.

10/16/2025

The difference between reacting vs choosing a response is life-changing. Take a beat. Take a breath. And choose wisely.

10/06/2025

Here's what we need to say.. "I'm so sorry I hurt you. I will do better".

09/15/2025

Are you surviving or thriving? As children, we develop survival strategies... defense mechanism... for safety and protection. As adults, we need to be able to heal and let go in order to really thrive.

04/23/2025

04/16/2025

Focus on what you can control. You will rid yourself of a lot of unnecessary stress.

04/07/2025

Happiness is a choice. Gratitude for what we DO have can totally shift our mood. We always have the option to choose what we're missing. This thinking leads to unhappiness. Shift your focus. Doesn't it feel better? If I have the choice to feel happier, I'm going to choose it.

03/24/2025

Breakups are so painful.
It is important to feel that pain, and then ground yourself in reality of the present moment
If someone was meant to stay, they would have
Letting go means accepting that not all love stories are meant to last forever, and that’s OK.
When you catch yourself dwelling on the past, shift your focus to something that fuels your present growth.

03/17/2025

Did you know that worrying actually increases anxiety because it feeds back? Anxiety is fear of losing control. Worrying gives the illusion of control.
The strategy for decreasing anxiety is to let go. What/who do you really have control over? The only control we have is over our thoughts/actions. Practicing thought stopping is very beneficial for improved mental health.

03/12/2025

Back after a long time, my apologies to followers...busy, busy, busy.
Take a moment to ask yourself this question, posed by the author Gretchen Rubin of The Happiness Project..
"Will this make me happier?" She proposes that "making choices that can make you happier in the long or short run can move you in the right direction toward a life filled with more joy".
She also proposes the "one minute rule"..if you can do something in one minute without delay, go ahead & do it...which is why I posted this. Great ideas.