Jessica Fae Birthing Services

06/15/2021

What are you paying for when you hire a doula?

Here's a pretty good graphic that helps to explain that. 💁🏽‍♀️ Give the gift 🎄 of a doula. Best baby shower gift EVER!

03/23/2021

03/09/2021

Find out your feeding options beforehand so you are armed and ready.

03/04/2021

"There will be a quiz after this" 😉

03/04/2021

I need to do this with my own Candy Cravings too!! 🍧🍡🍪🍩

"Should I give in when my toddler asks for candy? I don't want her to have a complex about it" asked a mom in my DMs.⁠⁠
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Remember, you're the parent. You decide if it's time for candy. If it is, cool. If it's not, that's cool too. ⁠⁠
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Yes, your child will be upset....but let's be honest, they might also be upset if they eat the lollipop and it's gone, if you hand it to them wrong, or if the lollipop looks round because it is round.⁠⁠
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So, let them be upset, but keep your role as the person who sets up meal and snack times. ⁠⁠
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Obviouslyyyyy, there are exceptions. Just keep them as exceptions. ⁠⁠
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Any "looks round because it is round" tantrums at your house today?⁠⁠
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If you're struggling with knowing what your job is and what boundaries to set, my free child feeding guide in my bio may be super helpful!⁠⁠
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02/26/2021

This is so sweet.. the best part, by far, is...
DAD - "You're my best friend"
DAUGHTER- "ha, I guess so"
At the very end.

02/06/2021

Knowing that weight loss is normal BEFORE delivery ensures less stress on new parents.

02/04/2021

Methods for brightening our days

02/01/2021

A women's work during labor is Letting Go. The body's work during labor Letting Baby Out.

Birth and non-dualism...

We talk a whole lot about the work of birthing a baby... how active it is. How much our body does.

But did you know that in the same moment that birth is a whole lot of activity, it is also a passive letting go; an active surrender.

Here is a lovely little tidbit about the uterus during the birthing process:

The upper uterine segment (which is most of the uterus) contracts and pulls upwards, getting thicker at the top (the fundus).

While at at SAME TIME....

The lower uterine segment (which contains the babies head) must relax in order to be coaxed open.

A delicate and masterful balance, eh? The effort exerted by the upper uterus WOULD NOT BE EFFECTIVE if the lower uterus wasn't willing to give in and let go.

What other parts of your labor can you identify as holding the paradox of contraction and softening? I personally preferred to focus on the surrendering my mind and holding faith that the action of my body would support the birth of my babies. It always did

12/22/2020

Children are a lot of work but if we can slow down our own thoughts and feelings we can help them regulate their own.

This framework from Dr. Bruce Perry (created by ) breaks down the best way to intervene with a child in an elevated emotion state- As adults, we naturally jump to the 'reasoning' step, but neuroscience tells us that before a child can use their pre-frontal cortex for reasoning and learning we need to calm and regulate their amygdala (where emotions live). This is the WHY behind the theory of CONNECTING before CORRECTING. It's not coddling. It's science. Period.