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03/28/2023

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10/13/2019

Take sixty seconds for yourself and ask yourself what you need. If you need support today, ask for it.

07/09/2019

MY WIFE DOES NOT KNOW THAT I KNOW.
I have been married for 14years 'we' have 3kids(all boys) but none of them belongs to me. I know this for a fact but my wife does not know that I know. Let me explain.
5years before I met my wife, I was involved in a car accident together with two of my friends. We were traveling from Lagos to Abuja and our car skidded off the road. I was the only survivor of that accident, my friends died.
I spent about 11months at the hospital and that left me with a condition that says I can't have children.
I gave my life to Jesus Christ and became a committed Christian after the incident.
In summary I became a pastor in a local church in my community 5years later and met my wife in the process. I did not tell her about my condition because I was hopeful that God will heal me. 6years into our marriage my wife got pregnant and had 'our' first child.
To be sure, I secretly went for a DNA n it was clear I wasn't the father. I repeated the test for all 3 children and they are all not mine. I have been living with this situation for the past 8 years and I am beginning to get irritated by both the children and my wife.
My wife pretends to be a good wife. She goes round preaching to young women in the church about the need to remain faithful to their partners but she has had 3 children by another man or men I don't know. I want to confront her, but I am confused as to how to go about d situation
I am just angry and irritated by everyone in my house lately. I feel like a total stranger in my own home.
What should I do!?
By Anonymous

06/28/2019

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“Exactly what my 17-year-old son needed... Life changing in the most positive way.” – Kimberly, Parent

06/23/2019

Wisdom From
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BLACK KINGS: “So many of us lose ourselves while in relationship. We become chameleons in order to try to get someone to choose us and love us. We tap into our overly empathetic part and find ways to justify, reason, and rationalize the behavior of family members so that we don’t have to be confronted by ending a toxic and abusive relationship. Many of us sacrifice ourselves often. We give pieces away because we are attached to a hopeful outcome: that we are indeed worthy and lovable.
But here’s the thing, when we abandon our safety and security, when we abandon boundaries and emotional needs, when we say yes when we mean no and no when we mean yes, and when we try to pretend like we’re not affected or impacted when we actually are (the acting game is real), we do a major number on ourselves. Even if the outcome is that the relationship is still present, it doesn’t mean that you are okay. Just because you’ve found a way to “keep someone” doesn’t mean that you’re empowered, grounded, peaceful, and aligned. When you lose yourself in order to keep another there’s a double whammy happening: the loss of you AND the deep understanding that the person still wasn’t choosing or loving the real you (your system knows even if you try to convince it otherwise.) Don’t lose yourself.
No healthy relationship will ever ask you to do that. Growing and transforming yourself is empowered change. Shrinking and shape shifting yourself is disempowered change. Don’t leave yourself behind. Not ever.” ~Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy

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06/23/2019

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No one is too tough for therapy
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06/23/2019

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Hear Me, If You don’t Deal With Your Trauma, It Will Find A Way To Deal With You...
..It Will Show Up In Your Relationship As FEAR...
..In A Simple Meeting As Overwhelming ANXIETY...
..In The Morning As SADNESS..
... In Your Life As ADDICTION..
..And In Your Children As An Unspoken Pain....

Listen,You Can Get Through This! ..

It Wasn’t Your Fault It Happened.. But It Is Your Responsibility To HEAL.

Believe In You🖤
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06/23/2019

Growing up, Terry Crews did everything he could to protect his mother from his abusive father. He delivers a tearful speech on how to overcome trauma, love yourself and own your story.

06/21/2019

Mental illness in the black community is a public health issue that is all too often grossly underestimated and misunderstood.

According to the Department of Health and Human Services, black people living below the poverty line experience a disproportionate amount of serious psychological distress compared to their white counterparts,despite the fact that black people were 20% more likely to report symptoms associated with with psychological distress.

It’s Imperative WE Assist In Ensuring People Have Access To Culturally Competent Therapists.

We Are Doing Our Part, Join Us By Adding Yourselves(Mental Health processionals) To Our Directory ,And By sending individuals who would like to receive A list of BLACK MENTAL health Professionals In Their Area.

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Mental illness in the black community is a public health issue that is all too often grossly underestimated and misunderstood. According to the Department of Health and Human Services, black people living below the poverty line experience a disproportionate amount of serious psychological distress c...

06/21/2019

There is A Reason Why Black Mental Health Matters- A Reason Why Being Connected To Individuals Who Are Willing To Care Enough About You To Avoid MisDiagnosing You Conveniently .The reason why is So dope!! -We See You -Because- WE ARE YOU-🖤 with
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06/21/2019

In the black community, there is a negative stigma surrounding mental health. Instead of seeking professional help for conditions such as depression and anxiety, many in the community resort to self-medication (drugs, opioids, alcohol, etc.) or isolation in an attempt to solve their problems on their own. This issue of masking pain is especially prevalent amongst adult black men and women.
Speaking from experience, I know how black women grow up in culture that tells strong black women to "endure" and "Stay strong"“ Ive also heard "men are not supposed to cry,” that they “should deal with problems on their own.” This only reenforces the idea that it’s not okay for us to say we are hurting inside. I’ve spoken to countless friends who, out of fear of being labeled as weak or less than capable, don’t want to acknowledge or vocalize any of their pains. This is true for me at times as well, there have been moments in my life when I was afraid of sharing my true emotional well-being (or lack thereof) to close family and friends.. But Right Now, In This Moment-We Are Declaring An End To This Internal War. We have solutions, that have proven to work, and WE are utilizing them!

06/20/2019

Perspective.

When I first met Chris, he was quiet—I could tell he was trying to figure out who I was, and who I could be in

06/16/2019

"The data showed that women who agreed with statements such as “Black women have to be strong to survive” were also more likely to agree that “In a close relationship, my responsibility is to make the other person happy” and “I rarely express my anger at those close to me.” These mindsets were associated with greater depressive symptoms."... I feel that this could be applied to Latino community as well.Some people view showing certain emotions like crying, sadness, etc. as a sign of weakness. It's not. We are human. We're supposed to experience a range of emotions.

As Black women, we take pride in our strength. For many of us, we have no choice but to be strong. And while strength is admirable, data suggests that the “strong Black woman” mentality could poten…