Psychí Counseling

06/08/2023

We’ve all heard the phrases “good vibes only, everything happens for a reason.” We all know the value of an encouraging word when we’re feeling down. But being in a rush to will away the negative emotions can actually cause more harm than good. It’s known as toxic positivity. Toxic positivity has become the new numbing tool to escape reality and repress emotions. Toxic positivity is the pressure to only display positive emotions, suppressing any negative emotions, feelings, reactions, or experiences. It invalidates human experience and can lead to trauma, isolation, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Of course, positivity on its own isn’t toxic. It’s healthy to find the silver lining and lessons in difficult situations. But there’s an entire range of emotions and experiences that we experience, and the positive lessons don’t come from suppressing them. We all want to feel positive and optimistic, but it’s just not realistic to expect ourselves (or others) to feel this way all the time. Making space for ourselves and our feelings (all of them, not just the nice ones) helps us build our emotional regulation skills. And that helps us become more resilient, and better able to find ways through our challenges. Nothing’s lost by facing the truth of a difficult situation. And when you do finally get to the other side, no one will need to tell you how to feel.

04/16/2023

It takes a village to raise a child. So reach out to your community of moms and build your village. Happy Sunday!

04/11/2023

MAMA
Do you feel overwhelmed by motherhood? I hear you! As a mom of two, I know how challenging being a mom can be. That’s why I am passionate about helping mothers navigate all the changes and difficulties that come with motherhood. I invite you to join a community of moms who understand exactly what you are going through and can offer the support that you need. Sign up today! Call me, text me, DM me, or email me for more information.

05/13/2022

Sure, we all get draggy from time to time. A sleepless night here and there, a stressful day at the office, or one too many doughnuts can take their toll. But when you're constantly feeling drained, it might be time to look at what's bringing you down. Check out these energy zappers and see how many apply to you. Take care of yourself and recharge.

05/12/2022

Keep your promises to yourself. Show up for yourself. Build your wins!

05/12/2022

Educate people on how to treat you:
1. Verbalize expectations. Let’s say for example that you have an argument with a partner: clearly state that you would like to communicate in a calm and respectful manner.
2. Set limits: “I understand you are upset, however, I do not appreciate being yelled at.”
3. Establish boundaries: “I think it’s better if we talk about this later when we are both calm.”
4. Don’t engage. Don’t raise your voice, insult, blame, or retaliate in any way. Lead by example.
5. Walk away. If your partner continues to raise their voice at you: “Im going to walk away now until we are both calm.” This way you are acting on your words. Don’t just talk the talk; walk the walk. The act of walking away sends the message “The only way I will hear you is if you are being respectful.”

05/08/2022

Sending love to all ♥️

05/08/2022

🌸 Happy Mother’s Day!

05/06/2022

The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself.
Here’s why:
1.You can not read minds, so stop acting like you can
We assume we know what people are saying and because of things like your negativity bias you usually assume negative things. Most likely, you are
making the wrong assumptions.

2. Your own thoughts are the only thing you can control
When you are preoccupied with what other people think, you are not in control of your own thoughts.
You can’t control what people are thinking or why they are thinking it.
The only person you really know and whose thoughts you can control, is yourself.

3. A focused mind is one of the most powerful things on earth
If you are worrying about what other people think, you can’t focus on what you want in life. Happiness isn’t achieving someone else’s ideals for you, but achieving what is important to you.
If you spend your limited cognition worrying about other people you won’t have anything left to focus on what really makes you happy.

05/05/2022

Yes, you read that right. The cheesiest the better. When I tell this to my couples they look at me like I lost my mind. But think about it? What did you do the first month you dated that made you fall in love with each other? The “good morning honey, baby, sweetie, gorgeous” message. The midday call or message to know how your day is going. Kissing aaaalllll the time. Oh, long, passionate kisses💭. 24/7 gestures of affection, telling each other I love you all the time. “No, I love you more,” “no, I love you more.”😝 You talked hours on end whether on the phone or in person. The good night text or call, “no, you hang up first,” “no, you.” 😆 And once the relationship turned physical, lots and lots of s*xting and lots and lots of s*x. 🙊
And how about now?
You find out the other one left for work when you hear the door. You don’t hear from each other all day. You get home, one turns on the tv while the other one attends to the kids or completes house chores. The conversations at the dinner table consist of something like “we have to call the plumber for that leak, there’s a parent teacher conference at Johnny’s school tomorrow.” You put the kids to bed and you watch tv together without speaking a word to each other or you’re on your phones scrolling through Instagram until one of you pases out. And s*x? “Not tonight honey; I need to finish Netflix.” 🤣 Sound familiar? If you would’ve done this the first month you dated, would you be together right now? No! So if you want to revive your romance and connection. Get CHEESY!! Do the things you used to do at the beginning which made you fall head over heels for each other.
What are some cheesy things you did when you started dating your partner?

05/04/2022

1 in 5 Americans lives with a mental health condition, making
it more common than diabetes, asthma, arthritis, and the flu. Yet,
we feel more comfortable talking about those subjects. Why?

May is Mental Health Awareness Month.
Let's work together to Break The Stigma.

05/03/2022

How are you? It’s a question that is so often asked and answered in passing, sometimes without much thought. So, I’ll ask it again. Really, how are you? When asked with empathy and intention, this question can make an important difference in someone’s life. This May, as we observe Mental Health Awareness Month, I challenge you to take the time to truly think about your mental health and talk openly and honestly about it with those you love. By having regular conversations with family and friends, not only this month, but also all year long, we can support each other while also working toward destigmatizing an important topic.

04/30/2022

Loneliness is heavy. If you’re struggling, you may feel disconnected and isolated. When you feel alone, it can feel like the world around you is empty and meaningless.

But there is hope for connection and meaningful relationships.

04/29/2022

Be kind to others. You don’t know what they’re going through.

04/28/2022

In a self-love journey, setting healthy boundaries with others is one of the top priorities to do.

04/27/2022

04/27/2022

Sometimes we feel guilty for doing the things we want because we believe that we are being selfish but the truth is self care allows us to recharge our batteries so we can continue being our best self in any Flip the narrative. Instead of saying “I want this,” tell yourself “I NEED ___ (stated what you need) in order to be a better ____ (role: eg mom, wife, employee).”
role.
So, for example, if you need a break away from your kids and family, instead of telling yourself “I want a break.” Tell yourself “I need a break in order to be a better mother, wife.”

So, what do you need today?
Fill in the blank: I need ____ in order to be a better ______ (role).

04/27/2022

Stress can make you miserable, but it’s usually manageable.
But when it’s not, it can build up and become more than you can handle.

If you’re at a point where stress is wreaking this much havoc in your life, it’s time for some major changes.
Here are 5 ways to reboot your life and seriously reduce your stress.

1.Find a New Job
This is a big change, but the workplace is the biggest source of stress for Americans. If your job is causing you mental and physical harm, you should take the leap and find a new one if the problems at work simply can't be fixed.

2.Start a New Exercise Routine
It makes your body produce endorphins (“feel-good hormones”), boosts your mood, and makes you concentrate on physical movement instead of on daily worries.

3.Sleep
Adults need an average of 7 to 9 hours of sleep a night. If you’re stressed out, you’re most likely getting way less, and it’s probably pretty low-quality sleep. This will cause you to be even more stressed.

4.Cut Out Toxic People
The people you deal with every day have a huge effect on your mood and stress level. If interacting with any given person is creating drama or ongoing stress, you need to figure out how to erase it.

5.Get a Therapist
Many of us feel like we have to handle stress on our own. But there’s no shame in getting professional help when stress starts to take a toll on your mental and physical health.
Beyond being a friendly and knowledgeable person to talk to, a therapist can assist you in making the major life changes on this list.