02/12/2025
š¹ š Womenās sexual desire is not a light switchāitās way more complex involving emotions, connection, hormonal shifts and a whole lot of context.
Ever wondered why you donāt just āfeel in the moodā out of nowhere like they do in movies?
Thatās because spontaneous desire (aka āIām turned on just becauseā) is only one type of desireāand for most women, itās NOT the norm.
š” Meet Responsive Desire!
Instead of desire striking before arousal, responsive desire kicks in after sexual stimuliālike affectionate touch, emotional connection, or even just allowing yourself the space to relax and tune into pleasure. Itās normal to need a little something to get you in the mood!
⨠Think of it like this:
š Spontaneous desire = an instant-on light switch.
š„ Responsive desire = a simmering potāit heats up with the right ingredients.
And guess what? Neither is ābetterā than the other! But society often makes us think spontaneous desire is the ārightā way to experience libido, which can lead to stress, shame, or the feeling that something is āwrongā with you (spoiler: itās not!).
š Want to learn more? These must-read books break it all down beautifully:
š āCome As You Areā by Emily Nagoski ā The ultimate guide to female sexuality & how to work with your desire, not against it.
š āYou Are Not Brokenā by Kelly Casperson, MD ā A science-backed, no-BS take on libido, pleasure, and ditching the shame.
š Struggling with low libido or feeling disconnected from your desire? Youāre not alone, and you donāt have to just ādeal with it.ā At bePowerfuel, we help women navigate hormone changes, sexual health, and everything in between.
š Letās talk ā book a consult at www.bepowerfuel.com or DM us! Because your pleasure & well-being matter. š