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Victoria Easa, LICSW - Therapist & Relational Coach

02/12/2026

If you feel worse after scrolling, it’s not a personal failing.
It’s often a boundary issue.

Social media constantly invites comparison, approval-seeking, and subtle worth checks. Without clear internal and external boundaries, it’s easy to absorb messages that quietly erode self-esteem.

Boundaries aren’t about cutting yourself off.
They’re about staying connected to yourself while engaging with the world.

When you know what’s yours to take in and what isn’t, your nervous system settles.

And that “crappy” feeling doesn’t have to be the cost of staying connected.

Learn more at the unmessyourmind.com blog

02/10/2026

Strengths are meant to be enjoyed and appreciated. 💪
They’re not meant to carry the weight of your worth.

Within the EASA lens, this is Assets-based self-esteem: when qualities like competence, resilience, intelligence, or “being the strong one” quietly become the place your value lives.

There’s a balance point.

You can recognize your strengths, take pride in them, and let them support your life
without needing them to prove your worth.

True self-esteem comes from inherent value.
Strengths are something you have, not who you are.

If this resonates, there’s a gentler way to relate to yourself.

Learn more at unmessyourmind.com

02/09/2026

Healthy self-esteem isn’t about avoiding achievement, appreciation, or enjoying what you have.

It’s about where your worth comes from.

The EASA lens looks at four common places we’re tempted to locate self-esteem:
Society, Achievements, and Assets — and then asks whether those experiences are adding connection, pride, or enjoyment… or quietly becoming the source of our worth.

There’s a balance point.

Feeling appreciated by a partner can be connection — not worth.
Taking pride in your work can feel satisfying — without defining your value.
Enjoying what you own can be fun — without measuring yourself by it.

When worth stays inherent, the rest can be enjoyed without tipping the scale.

Curious which side of the scale you tend to land on?
Learn more at the link in bio.

02/07/2026

If your relationship feels stuck, it’s rarely because one person is “doing everything wrong.”

More often, it’s familiar patterns playing out on repeat. Patterns shaped by past experiences, unspoken expectations, and nervous systems doing their best to stay protected.

Relational Life Therapy helps identify those cycles and shift them with clarity, accountability, and compassion.

Change doesn’t start with blame.
It starts with understanding what’s actually happening between you.

DMs are open, or visit my link in bio to learn more.

02/06/2026

Healthy workplaces don’t happen by accident.
They’re built through clear communication, emotional intelligence, and cultures where people feel valued, heard, and respected.

When teams understand boundaries, self-worth, and relational dynamics, collaboration improves and morale follows.

My speaking engagements focus on practical insights that help organizations foster empowerment, inclusivity, and sustainable connection at work.

Learn more about bringing this conversation to your organization.
👉 Link: unmessyourmind.com/speaking

02/04/2026

Making a request can feel risky.
It asks us to name what we want… and to tolerate the possibility of a “no.”

A true request isn’t a demand in disguise.
It’s an honest expression of need, paired with respect for the other person’s autonomy.

When we learn the difference between invitations, requests, and demands, our relationships get clearer, calmer, and more grounded in choice rather than pressure.

If asking for what you need feels scary, there’s usually a good reason. And it’s something you can learn to do differently.

Link to blog: https://unmessyourmind.com/the-three-modes-of-negotiation/

02/02/2026

We all carry stories about who we are, what we deserve, and what’s possible for us.
Some of them were shaped long before we had a choice.

Not every story is true.
Not every story still fits.

Awareness is where change begins. And with support, practice, and compassion, those old narratives can be rewritten.

What’s one story you’re ready to loosen your grip on?

01/11/2026

When love felt conditional growing up, self-worth often does too 💔

You may learn to earn approval, avoid mistakes, or stay small to feel safe. Over time, that can quietly shape how you see yourself and what you believe you deserve.

None of this means something is wrong with you.
It means something happened.

Self-worth work isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding where these beliefs came from and learning a different way to relate to yourself 🌱

If this resonates, there’s more to explore.
DM me, let's talk.

01/10/2026

It’s easy to let self-worth drift into other people’s opinions 💭
Approval. Feedback. Reactions.

But worth isn’t something that gets assigned from the outside.
It’s something you relate to internally.

Learning to see yourself with clarity, fairness, and compassion is foundational work.
And it changes everything. ✨

01/09/2026

Some of the stories we live by were never consciously chosen 📖
They were inherited, absorbed, or shaped by circumstances we didn’t control.

Healing doesn’t erase the past.
It gives you the ability to respond differently to it.

You are allowed to rewrite what no longer fits.
And you don’t have to do that work alone ✨
DM me to chat!

01/08/2026

Discernment is a boundary skill 🧠🌿

It’s the ability to pause and ask:
Is this true?
Is this about me?

If the answer to either is no, it doesn’t get to live in your body, your heart, or your mind.

So much guilt comes from carrying things that were never ours to carry. Other people’s choices. Other people’s pain. Other people’s unfinished business.

As discernment strengthens, defensiveness softens.
You stop absorbing what isn’t yours.
And peace becomes more accessible.

This is learnable.
And it’s deeply freeing.
link → https://unmessyourmind.com/what-is-discernment/

01/07/2026

Real relationship change doesn’t start with winning an argument 💬
It starts with curiosity.

When defensiveness softens, something new becomes possible.
Understanding. Accountability. Repair.

Shifting from “I need to protect myself” to “I’m willing to understand” takes self-esteem, boundaries, and practice. It’s not about blame. It’s about learning a different way to relate.

If you’re ready to approach your relationship with more curiosity and less fear, there’s support available ✨
Visit unmessyourmind.com to book a FREE call with me!

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