Unmess Your Mind

Unmess Your Mind Victoria Easa, LICSW - Therapist & Relational Coach

Self-esteem isn’t about hype.It’s about trust.It’s the quiet knowing:✔ I show up for myself.✔ I follow through.✔ I speak...
08/07/2025

Self-esteem isn’t about hype.
It’s about trust.

It’s the quiet knowing:
✔ I show up for myself.
✔ I follow through.
✔ I speak kindly to me—even when I mess up.

The reputation you build with yourself matters more than the one you build online.

Let’s work on making it solid.

💬 DM me or visit unmessyourmind.com if you’re ready to get started.

Ever found yourself saying something harsh in a moment you didn’t really mean?That wasn’t your worst self—it was your wo...
08/06/2025

Ever found yourself saying something harsh in a moment you didn’t really mean?
That wasn’t your worst self—it was your wounded self.

When we drop into a “Less Than” state (shame, insecurity, not-enough-ness), it’s easy to react with blame or criticism.
Why?
Because it feels safer to push someone away than to feel exposed.

In this blog, I break down how Relational Life Therapy helps you notice these moments before they turn into disconnection—and how to show up from a more grounded place instead.

🧠 Read: “How Can I Hurt Someone Else When I’m in Less Than?”
📍unmessyourmind.com/how-can-i-hurt-someone-else-when-im-in-less-than/

08/06/2025

How to hold yourself in warm regard.

It’s easy to forget—especially in a scroll-and-like world—that your worth is not based on metrics.Not on likes.Not on sh...
08/05/2025

It’s easy to forget—especially in a scroll-and-like world—that your worth is not based on metrics.
Not on likes.
Not on shares.
Not on who views your story.

But when your nervous system is wired to seek approval, those numbers can feel like proof.
Proof of whether you matter.
Of whether you’re enough.
Of whether you’re seen.

In my latest blog, I unpack why social media can feel so personal—and how to reclaim your self-esteem from the algorithm.

🧠 Read: “Your Worth is NOT Your Facebook”
📍unmessyourmind.com/your-worth-is-not-your-facebook/

Sometimes the stories we tell ourselves aren’t really ours.They’re inherited.Absorbed.Repeated until they feel like trut...
08/04/2025

Sometimes the stories we tell ourselves aren’t really ours.
They’re inherited.
Absorbed.
Repeated until they feel like truth.

“You’re too much.”
“You’re not enough.”
“You have to earn love.”
“Conflict is dangerous.”
“You don’t get to take up space.”

Healing begins when we pause and ask,
👉 “Where did this story come from—and do I still believe it?”

That’s how you start to unlearn.
That’s how you begin to break the cycle.

Low morale? High turnover?Burnout you can feel through the screen?Sometimes it’s not about skills or strategy.It’s about...
08/03/2025

Low morale? High turnover?
Burnout you can feel through the screen?

Sometimes it’s not about skills or strategy.
It’s about self-worth.

When teams don’t feel valued, they stay stuck in self-protection mode—afraid to take risks, speak up, or lead.
But when people feel safe, seen, and worthy? That’s when growth happens.

My keynote teaches leaders how to create that kind of culture—from the inside out.

✨ Let’s unmess your team’s mindset.
📍Learn more or book me to speak: unmessyourmind.com/speaking

08/03/2025

What do you say when someone says they're sorry?

If love was modeled as something you had to earn—through being good, quiet, helpful, or high-achieving—then the idea of ...
08/02/2025

If love was modeled as something you had to earn—
through being good, quiet, helpful, or high-achieving—
then the idea of being worthy just because you exist might feel… foreign.

But it’s not out of reach.
It’s just unpracticed.

In today’s blog, I walk through how childhood perceptions of love shape our adult self-worth—and what it takes to start rewriting that story.

🧠 Read: “Unconditional Love”
📍unmessyourmind.com/unconditional-love-and-inherent-self-worth/

If you’ve ever stalled on a decision because you couldn’t find the “perfect” answer—you’re not indecisive.You’re likely ...
08/01/2025

If you’ve ever stalled on a decision because you couldn’t find the “perfect” answer—
you’re not indecisive.
You’re likely navigating perfectionism.

That need to get it exactly right can feel paralyzing—especially when your self-worth is on the line.

In this blog, I unpack how perfectionism masks fear and shame, how it blocks decision-making, and what you can do to get unstuck (without spiraling).

🧠 Read: “Why Are You Afraid to Make Decisions? Perfectionism.”
📍unmessyourmind.com/why-are-you-afraid-to-make-decisions-perfectionism/

Your relationship isn’t broken—you might just be carrying unhealed stuff into it.That doesn’t make you bad.It makes you ...
07/31/2025

Your relationship isn’t broken—you might just be carrying unhealed stuff into it.

That doesn’t make you bad.
It makes you human.

Relational Life Therapy helps you identify what’s yours, what’s theirs, and how to show up with more clarity, courage, and connection.

Whether you’re partnered or single, doing this work for yourself will shift every relationship you have.

💬 Ready to dig in? Visit the link in bio or DM me.

Your past shaped you.But it doesn’t have to write your future.When your childhood experiences involved chaos, fear, or e...
07/31/2025

Your past shaped you.
But it doesn’t have to write your future.

When your childhood experiences involved chaos, fear, or emotional neglect, it’s easy to carry that into adulthood—especially in how you relate to others (and yourself).

But healing is possible.
And you don’t have to figure it out alone.

If you're ready to explore your patterns and start rewriting your story, I’d love to help.

📍DM me or visit [unmessyourmind.com] to see if we’re a good fit.

07/30/2025

Do you have fear of abandonment? Or fear of exile?

Comment and let me know! (Or DM me and see if we're a good fit to work on these fears!)

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