Sexual Health and Counseling Services

08/16/2025

Mind, Body & Intimacy

Did you know that healing intimacy often requires both the body and the mind working together?

Pelvic floor physical therapy can help release tension, improve muscle coordination, and ease pain during intimacy. At the same time, s*xual health therapy supports the emotional side—reducing shame, addressing trauma, and helping couples build safety, trust, and connection.

When these two approaches come together, the results can be powerful: less pain, more pleasure, and deeper intimacy.

I’m so excited to share this video conversation by Dr. Luba Khakham on how pelvic floor physical therapy and s*xual health therapy work hand in hand:

Check it out here!

08/11/2025

Guess What? Foreplay Starts with the Brain!
Sure, wandering hands are nice… but let’s be honest — the best foreplay doesn’t start with your body. It starts with your mind.

Think about it…
That teasing text that makes you grin at work.
The brush of a hand that lingers just a little too long.
The inside joke whispered in your ear that makes your cheeks warm.
The look that says, “I know exactly what you’re thinking.”

When your brain is engaged, turned on, and feeling wanted, your whole body gets the message. Desire builds. Anticipation grows. You start to crave the connection before you’ve even touched.

Foreplay isn’t just a warm-up — it’s the mental game of desire. A little playfulness here, a dash of curiosity there, and by the time things get physical, you’re already halfway to bliss.

So go ahead… send that text. Give that lingering look. Start the conversation that will end hours later with messy hair and satisfied smiles.

Because when you turn on the brain, the body can’t help but follow.

What’s one playful way you like to start foreplay early?

07/29/2025

Lately, I’ve been thinking about how often fear of rejection gets in the way of intimacy.
Not just the big, obvious kind. But the quiet stuff — like holding back from saying what you really want, not initiating touch, or pretending something doesn’t matter when it really does. Does this sound familiar?

So many of us crave closeness, but we’re scared of being too much, not enough, or just… not received.
I see this all the time in the work I do. And I’ve felt it myself, too.
That moment of “Should I say something… or just let it go?”
The truth is, intimacy asks us to take emotional risks. To show up honestly, even when it’s uncomfortable. And that’s hard. Especially if you’ve been hurt before.

But I want you to know: if this hits home, you’re not alone.
You're not "broken" or "needy", you're only human, like the rest of us here on this earth.

Real intimacy often begins with the brave (and sometimes messy) choice to be seen. This is never perfect. Try to practice this using humor! Humor can go a long way!
So here's to the people trying. The ones learning to speak up, reach out, and stay soft—even when it’s scary. That’s real courage.

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07/26/2025

Happy Saturday!!
Saturday Intimacy Talk

Why Is It So Hard to Say What I Really Want?
Naming what we want — especially in intimate or s*xual spaces — can be one of the most challenging parts of being in a relationship with ourselves and others.

Sometimes it's fear of rejection.
Sometimes it's guilt or shame.
Sometimes it's not knowing how to put the need into words.
For many, this is just how it has always been......

And for many, it's the belief that asking for more will somehow make us too much, too needy, or ungrateful.

This week, I’m spending time with this question:
Why is it so hard to say what I really want?
And more importantly: What helps us begin to say it?

I would love to hear your thoughts and questions.
What’s been hard for you to name in your own intimate life?
What have you wanted to ask for but stayed quiet about?
I’ll be posting a short video at the end of the week to continue this conversation.

No pressure to share — but if this resonates with you, know you’re not alone.
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07/21/2025

These Are Real Questions. Trust me, you’re not the only one Thinking Them.
As a therapist who works with men around s*x, relationships, and identity, I want to say this clearly:
These are real questions I’ve heard.
They’re normal. You’re not broken for asking them.
• Why doesn’t my partner want s*x as much as I do? Is something wrong with me?
• Is something wrong with them? Are we just mismatched?
• I feel guilty initiating all the time — I just want to feel wanted, not needy.
• Sometimes I go numb during s*x or feel disconnected afterward. What does that mean?
• I want to talk about my fantasies, but I’m scared I’ll come off like a pig.
• What if I don’t even know what I really want — I’ve just been guessing based on p**n or what I think I should like?
• Can I be dominant in bed and still be emotionally present?
• Why does rejection hit me so hard?
• How do I stop performing and actually feel something real?
These questions come from people who want connection, not just physically, but emotionally and relationally too.
If you’ve asked any of these, you’re not alone.
You’re human.
Let’s hear your questions and thoughts.
Please don’t be shy. This is a space for honest, real conversation, without shame.
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07/17/2025

When Chronic Pain Lives in the Room with You and Your Partner

Let’s talk about something rarely spoken out loud: what it’s like when chronic pain becomes the third partner in a relationship.

When one partner lives with chronic pain—whether from an injury, illness, or a condition that defies a clear diagnosis—it doesn’t just impact their body. It shapes the rhythm of your days, the energy available for connection, and the way you both give and receive love.

Sometimes, pain interrupts plans. It cancels date nights, makes touch feel complicated, or makes intimacy feel like something that belongs to a life you used to have. It can be frustrating—for both of you. Maybe you're grieving the loss of spontaneity or trying to navigate guilt, resentment, or confusion. That’s real.

But here’s what else is real: love can stretch. Intimacy can adapt.

You can learn new ways to connect that center comfort and care. Conversations about pain and pleasure don’t have to be awkward or clinical—they can become opportunities to build trust, to say “I see you” in the most tender, loving ways.

Intimacy doesn’t disappear in the face of chronic pain. It evolves.
Maybe it looks like:

Holding each other without pressure for more
Finding moments of emotional closeness even when physical closeness is limited
Creating rituals that center connection—gentle touch, shared laughter, quiet presence
Talking openly about what does feel good, without shame
If you’re a couple navigating chronic pain, know this: you are not broken. You’re learning how to love through challenge. And that is a deep, powerful kind of intimacy.

💬 Do you or someone you love experience this challenge? Please share—your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

For more support and resources on intimacy, connection, and healing, visit

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07/13/2025

We’re excited to share that Stephanie Rogers, LMSW, has joined our team at S*xual Health & Counseling Services.
Stephanie brings a thoughtful, compassionate presence to her work, and we’re grateful to have her on board. We recorded a short video today to introduce her—feel free to take a look and get to know her a bit.
You may also notice a surprise visit from Moon, our resident therapy dog, who decided to walk through mid-filming 🐾
To learn more about Stephanie, visit her Psychology Today profile:
👉 https://www.psychologytoday.com/.../stephanie.../1018826
And for more about our practice, visit:
🌐 www.s*xualhealthandcounseling.com
We look forward to continuing to grow with clinicians who care deeply about the people we serve.

07/12/2025

“Why do I feel disconnected from my partner even though we love each other?”

This comes up all the time—and if you’ve felt this way, you’re not alone.

You can love someone deeply and still feel distant.
That doesn’t mean your relationship is failing.
It usually means something needs your attention.

Here are a few reasons disconnection happens—and what might help:

1. Love and intimacy aren’t the same.
You can feel love but still miss that deeper closeness.
Try this: Ask each other a real question each day.
→ “What’s something you’ve needed lately but haven’t said out loud?”

2. Unspoken stress builds up.
Old arguments, everyday tension, or things left unsaid can create space between you.
Try this: Set aside 10 minutes a week just to listen to each other—no fixing, no interrupting.

3. Physical touch feels off (or is missing).
You might feel disconnected physically, too.
Try this: Bring back small, pressure-free touch—holding hands, sitting close, a hug without expectation.

4. You’ve both changed, but haven’t shared that.
People grow. And if we don’t talk about it, we lose track of each other.
Try this: Ask, “What’s something new you’ve learned about yourself lately?”

Disconnection isn’t the end.
It’s a signal.
Small, intentional moments can bring you back together.

What questions do you have about intimacy or connection?
Is there something you’ve always wondered about, but never said out loud?

07/09/2025

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07/09/2025

07/08/2025

Now Accepting New Clients: Meet Stephanie Rogers
S*xual Health and Counseling Services, LLC is thrilled to welcome Stephanie Rogers. Stephanie is now accepting new clients for both virtual and in-person sessions in Farmington Hills.
Stephanie specializes in working with:
Trauma and PTSD, with a compassionate, trauma-informed approach
Relationship challenges, including communication, conflict, and rebuilding trust
S*x therapy, including concerns around desire, intimacy, and s*xual functioning
She is a University of Michigan S*xual Health Certificate Graduate and brings deep clinical expertise with warmth, curiosity, and care. Whether you’re navigating the impact of past trauma, struggling with connection, or seeking support in your s*xual health and wellness, Stephanie offers a safe and affirming space to explore and heal.
Available for virtual & in-person appointments
Ready to connect? Learn more and reach out here:

Stephanie Rogers, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, Farmington Hills, MI, 48334, (248) 422-0499, I’m so glad you’re here! I’m Stephanie. Can I be real with you? Seeking therapy, especially s*x therapy, can feel intimidating. It’s a brave, bold move—and I love working with brave, bold people....

07/05/2025

🇺🇸 Happy 4th of July from me to you. 🎆

Today we celebrate freedom, and while the fireworks and BBQs are fun, I’m also thinking about the more personal kinds of freedom:

💬 The freedom to speak your truth.
💞 The freedom to feel safe in your body and relationships.
🧠 The freedom to unlearn shame and choose connection.

At www.s*xualhealthandcounseling.com, we support individuals and couples of all identities — people navigating intimacy, desire, disconnection, anxiety, healing, and everything in between.

Whether you're:
– Feeling stuck in your relationship
– Struggling with s*xual shame or past trauma
– Exploring identity or desire
– Or just wanting deeper connection with yourself or your partner —

You deserve care that meets you exactly where you are. Our practice offers a warm, affirming space for that journey.

If that kind of freedom sounds like something you’ve been needing, we’re here.

Here’s to all kinds of liberation — in love, in healing, and in being fully you. ❤️🤍💙

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