Theodorou Therapy LLC

07/20/2025

Our children learn so much more from what we do than what we say.

They watch how we handle stress, how we speak to ourselves, how we treat others, how we move through the world.

And over time, what they witness becomes what they expect - from others, from the world, and most powerfully, from themselves.

We are their first mirror. Their first model.
But not their only one.

Because as they grow, they’re also learning from the world around them - the culture they’re part of, the media they consume, the people they spend time with.

Every day, they’re taking it all in. And slowly, quietly, it begins to shape who they believe they are - and who they believe they can become.

That’s why it matters what they see.
At home. At school. In us. In others.

So when it comes to our children - if we don’t like what we’re seeing, maybe the first question to ask is: What are THEY seeing? ❤️

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07/18/2025

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Midlife is a time of transition, reflection, and, for many, a bit of confusion. It’s a phase where the dreams of youth can sometimes feel distant, and the future can seem uncertain. Whether you& #82…

07/17/2025

07/15/2025

Not limited to children… the people in our lives experience us through our outward tone & behavior, not our intentions.

Which is why it’s so important to pause and reflect on what we’re modeling & offering through our words and actions.

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07/08/2025

https://theodoroutherapy.com/2021/02/14/how-our-attachment-style-impacts-our-life-and-relationships/ How Our Attachment Style Impacts Our Life and Relationships – Erin Theodorou, M.Ed, LPC, NCC

Do you know what attachment style you have? I would venture a guess most people don’t. Yet if you ever spent hours on the internet “googling” why your relationships might be strug…

07/08/2025

In dysfunctional families, roles don’t end when you grow up.
They just go underground.

You may be 40, 50, 60 years old—
and still unconsciously playing the child.

Still seeking their approval.
Still shrinking to keep the peace.
Still waiting for them to finally treat you like an equal.

But remember:
They can’t hand you adult status while you’re still emotionally holding onto being the child.

Self-differentiation means giving up that role.
Not with anger.
Not with distance.
With clarity.

It means no longer needing to be understood to stand firm.
No longer asking for permission to define yourself.
No longer waiting to be seen to finally see yourself.

You stop trying to get them to step into their role—
and you start stepping fully into yours.

That’s when the system starts to shift.
Because you’re no longer playing the part that kept it going.

You don’t have to reject them.
You just stop being the child they trained you to be.

And become the adult you were always meant to be.

👉 Ready to break free from their grip?

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07/08/2025

Listen up, beautiful human! 🔥 Stop apologizing for choosing joy over being "right" all the damn time. Your happiness isn't selfish - it's revolutionary.

Sometimes the most badass thing you can do is let that s**t go and choose peace instead. You don't need anyone's permission to be happy.

So go ahead, pick happiness. Pick freedom. Pick YOU.

07/08/2025

There’s nothing like parenting to show us just how much growing up WE still have to do.

We expect emotional regulation from children — while we yell, shame, and slam doors.
We demand maturity — while we model reactivity.
We want cooperation — while we dish out commands with no room for connection.

Children aren’t the problem.
Their behaviour is a mirror — reflecting what they’ve been shown, not what they were born knowing.

And too often, they’re punished for being human
by adults who haven’t yet learned how to handle their own humanness.

We expect children to regulate emotions we haven’t even mastered ourselves.
We punish them for being impulsive, reactive, overwhelmed —
as if those aren’t feelings we still battle, too.

Not only is emotional dysregulation normal for kids —
it’s normal for HUMANS. All of them.

But instead of helping them through it,
we often respond with the very behaviour we’re trying to correct…

We scold them for yelling, then raise our voice.
Demand they stay calm, while losing our cool.
Call them disrespectful, while dismissing their need for dignity.

The truth is: they’re not “misbehaving.”
They’re developing.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness.

Because if we want to raise emotionally intelligent children, we have to become emotionally intelligent adults.

We have to pause more often.
Reflect more honestly.
And repair more bravely.

THIS is the work.
And it starts with us. ❤️

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06/18/2025

https://theodoroutherapy.com/2018/09/13/why-we-hate-the-idea-of-being-average/ Why We Hate The Idea of Being Average – Erin Theodorou, M.Ed, LPC, NCC

I want you to take a moment to ask yourself how you would feel if someone referred to you as average? Most likely you would feel quite insulted. None of us like to view ourselves as being average. …

06/18/2025

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/your-child-is-not-your-friend/ Your Child Is Not Your Friend | Empowering Parents

It’s natural for your relationship with your child to be marked by love, affection, and esteem. But remember, your child is not your friend or confidant.

05/19/2025

It’s not what we say—
It’s what we do that leaves the biggest impression.

👀 Kids notice the little things:
• How you handle hard moments
• How you speak to yourself
• If you put down your phone when they say “look!”

They’re learning how to be human by watching you. 💛

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05/11/2025

https://theodoroutherapy.com/2024/10/10/we-dont-solve-our-problems-we-outgrow-them/

I recently read a great quote from psychologist Carl Jung, he said, “We don’t solve our problems, we outgrow them.” As I reflected upon this, I realize how often our attention is spent on trying to…