11/17/2025
Here’s something I’ve learned after 30+ years of studying resilience: You don’t have to be grateful for everything. Some moments simply hurt.
But even in the hard, there is usually something small you can notice — something steadying, grounding, or quietly beautiful.
🌅 Over the years, I’ve learned to do what I call a “Beauty Check.”
It’s an act of defiant positivity — not denying the pain, but refusing to miss the light that still shows up inside it.
It’s simple: I pause. I take a breath. And I look for one small, beautiful thing worth savoring — even when life feels heavy.
A streak of light on the floor. Steam rising from coffee. A peaceful view outside a window.
Sometimes, that tiny moment becomes the strength needed to keep going.
➡ If you want to try this today, here’s the practice: Stop. Drop. And Savor.
When life feels rushed, overwhelming, or heavy, stop and ask yourself:
What here is still good? Still beautiful? Still worth noticing?
Just 10 seconds. Notice what’s good. Let your body feel it.
This isn’t about pretending everything is fine.It’s about noticing the light that still breaks through — the light that helps us take the next step. 🍂
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👋 Hi, I’m Dr. Tom — resilience researcher, keynote speaker, and therapist for 30+ years. I share tools & inspiration to unlock resilience and deepen connection through my weekly blog and newsletter, podcast, in-person and virtual events, and more. Follow my page for more!
