Oakbrook Counseling + Wellness

09/15/2025

Meet Jeffery, LPC, NCC⭐️
His clients receive a solution focused approach along with the evidence based interventions. He has several years of experience working with couples, individuals on the spectrum, substance use disorders, anxiety& depression. He also has special training for obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and a protocol that uses exposure response prevention (ERP). He is active in the LGBTQ+ 🏳️‍🌈 community and has experience with foster care/adoption.

Insurance is accepted (Atena, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, & sliding scale). Anyone in Illinois is eligible to meet with Mr. Siddall virtually. He is available using Telehealth. He has day, evening, & weekend availability. Call 224.241.2197 to schedule a free consultation.

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08/18/2025

Setting Limits for People with ADHD 🔹

For individuals with ADHD, setting limits is not about control—it’s about creating structure that supports success, reduces stress, and strengthens relationships.

Why Limits Are Important
• Provide clear expectations that reduce misunderstandings.
• Help manage impulsivity and prevent overwhelm.
• Encourage follow-through with tasks and responsibilities.
• Strengthen trust and communication in relationships.

How to Set Effective Limits
1. Be Clear and Specific
– State expectations directly. Instead of “pay attention,” try “let’s work on this for 15 minutes.”
2. Use External Supports
– Visual schedules, timers, or reminders can help reinforce boundaries.
3. Stay Consistent
– Predictability makes limits easier to follow and builds stability.
4. Balance Firmness with Compassion
– Limits work best when paired with encouragement and understanding, not criticism.
5. Allow Flexibility
– Adjust limits when needed to support growth and changing circumstances.

Key Takeaway:
Limits are most effective when they feel supportive rather than punitive. They provide structure that empowers individuals with ADHD to thrive in their daily lives.

08/10/2025

Mental health is all health. You are never alone. ♥️

Skilled and substance use support is available 24/7. Contact the for personal, judgment-free support.

07/23/2025

I wanted to share some information on: The Four Horsemen of Relationship Conflict
(Dr. John Gottman, )

These four communication patterns have been shown to predict long-term relationship distress. If they become consistent in your dynamic, they can lead to disconnection or even separation.

1️⃣ Criticism
This involves attacking your partner’s personality or character, rather than focusing on a specific behavior. Over time, it erodes trust and creates a negative cycle where your partner feels devalued or judged.

2️⃣ Contempt
Characterized by disrespect, sarcasm, mockery, or eye-rolling — contempt communicates disgust and superiority. It’s considered the most toxic of the four and is strongly linked to emotional harm and relationship breakdown.

3️⃣ Defensiveness
A way of self-protection in the form of denial, excuses, or counterattacks. It often stems from feeling accused or attacked, but it blocks accountability and escalates conflict instead of resolving it.

4️⃣ Stonewalling
This happens when someone emotionally shuts down, withdraws from the conversation, or becomes unresponsive. It’s usually a response to overwhelm but leaves the other person feeling ignored and emotionally abandoned.

-Recognizing these behaviors in ourselves or our relationships is the first step toward change. With intention and support, conflict can become an opportunity for deeper connection and understanding.

07/21/2025

Let’s talk about fawning — a lesser-known trauma response that can quietly shape how we show up in relationships.

Unlike fight, flight, or freeze, fawning is a defense mechanism that causes one to please, appease, and avoid conflict, even at the cost of your own needs, identity, or boundaries.

You might be fawning if you:
🔹 Always say “yes” even when you mean “no”
🔹 Struggle to express your needs or opinions
🔹 Feel guilty for setting boundaries
🔹 Constantly seek validation or approval
🔹 Fear conflict, even in safe relationships

Fawning often begins in childhood when emotional safety was unpredictable — and pleasing others became a survival strategy. But in adult relationships, this can lead to self-abandonment, resentment, and feeling unseen.

Healing starts with awareness, setting boundaries, and building a sense of safety within yourself. You are allowed to take up space, have needs, and be loved for who you are — not just for how well you accommodate others.

07/21/2025

Hi! My name is Lou Miller, and I’m a graduate intern with OBCW. I’m passionate about supporting individuals on their journey toward recovery and am planning to pursue my licensure in addictions counseling to further my work in this important field.

As I continue to grow in my clinical experience, I’d like to share a helpful framework we often use when understanding substance use disorders—The Four C’s of Addiction:

🔹 Craving – an intense urge or desire to use the substance
🔹 Control (Loss of) – difficulty limiting use or stopping once started
🔹 Compulsion – continued use driven by emotional or psychological need
🔹 Consequences – ongoing use despite negative outcomes

Understanding these core elements is key to both identifying addiction and building a foundation for meaningful, compassionate treatment. I’m committed to helping clients navigate these challenges with support, structure, and a therapeutic alliance that empowers change.

07/20/2025

Self-care isn’t always about bubble baths or big breaks. Sometimes it’s as simple as pausing to breathe, checking in with yourself, or saying no without guilt.
Even when it feels impossible, those small pauses matter. They reset your nervous system, protect your energy, and remind you that you’re human—not a machine.
✨ You don’t have to earn your rest. Start small this weekend.

07/18/2025

What is in Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy? For me, It is integrating what I already know and do more frequently with presence, honor, and joy. It's all the creativity that is messy and meaningful. It's adding beauty to failure and making failure your friend. It's knowing that love is healing and fear can be transformed. For more information on Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, call 630.710.5729 or visit oakbrookwellness.com 🫶

07/14/2025

We are excited to offer mental health services from Adler University graduate intern, Lou Miller III. Lou is seeing adults and teens for emotional regulation, anxiety and stress management, depression, life transitions, identity exploration, grief and loss, as well as behavioral health concerns.

Lou also has a special interest in working with athletes, focusing on the mental side of performance, mindset, and life balance both on and off the field.

To learn more about Lou or how to connect virtually or in person, click the link in our bio or call 224.241.2197. Please share with anyone who might benefit. Thank you!

06/05/2025

Every day is PRIDE and Awareness of Mental Health!
Mental health is self-Forgiveness, healthy relationships, resilience, kindness, and self-love are key. Practice the golden rule and view yourself with unconditional love.
* Remember Your Brilliance: Before external expectations, you knew your own worth.
* Healing Mantra: “I’m sorry, I love you, please forgive me, and thank you.”
* Mental health is vital to overall well-being. As we celebrate PRIDE month, embrace and share love abundantly.

04/05/2025

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04/02/2025

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