04/15/2026
Were you taught to be a good patient?
Be polite. Be prepared. Don't take up too much time. Don't question the doctor. Be grateful for the appointment.
A lot of women were. And those lessons, while well-intentioned, can quietly work against us.
Research on self-silencing shows that when women consistently suppress their voice to maintain harmony, the health consequences are real. A 2022 University of Pittsburgh study found that women who self-silenced were 70% more likely to show signs of cardiovascular disease. Other studies have connected women's self-silencing to IBS, chronic fatigue, and cancer.
And the 2024 KFF Women's Health Survey found that 1 in 5 women said their provider ignored a direct request or question they asked.
We were taught to be good patients. But sometimes, being a "good patient" means leaving without the answers we came for.
Health literacy isn't just knowing your options. It's believing you have the right to ask about them.
Sometimes improving health literacy means redefining what it means to be a good patient.
What's one thing you wish you had felt more confident saying to a provider?
Sources: University of Pittsburgh (2022) | KFF Women's Health Survey (2024)