Jose L Aleman, MFT

Jose L Aleman, MFT I provide empathic, effective and thought-provoking individual and couples therapy to adolescents and adults.

01/03/2026

Confidence isn’t something you decide.
It’s something you build through practice.

Start with the pinned reels. Welcome! ✨

01/02/2026

This work isn’t about pushing or shrinking.
It’s about building range and choice.

The 3rd pinned reel explains how

01/02/2026

This isn’t about confidence.
It’s about patterns that made sense once.

Start with the pinned reels for context.

12/28/2025

This year has been revelatory. I got more used to making videos and putting myself out there. I’m learning a lot about myself in this process such as being able to make fun of myself and have humor in the whole thing.

SO, please enjoy these bloopers of me being a content creator in 2025! More to come in the new year but, for now, it’s time to relax, laugh, and let be 💛

Merry Christmas everyone, and happy holidays. This season has been about quiet moments, being playful together, and havi...
12/26/2025

Merry Christmas everyone, and happy holidays.

This season has been about quiet moments, being playful together, and having both blood family and chosen family around me.

I know this time of year can bring up a lot for many folks, so I’m sending love and warm energy wherever it’s needed.

May your holidays be filled with kindness and rest 💛

12/20/2025

This week wasn’t about fixing yourself or ending the year strong.
It was about noticing.
Trying one small thing differently.
Staying with the mixed emotions that followed.

That takes energy.

Recognizing old patterns takes energy.
Challenging yourself to respond differently takes energy.
Feeling relief and fear at the same time takes energy.

Rest isn’t what you do instead of the work.
It’s part of how the work settles.

So today, I’m resting.
Letting my body catch up.
Letting things be what they are.

Nothing to resolve.
Nothing to prove.

12/19/2025

Sometimes the fear shows up after the change.
That doesn’t mean you did it wrong.

Doing something new can be hard.
And so can the fear that comes after it.

That fear doesn’t mean you messed up or went too far.
Quite honestly, if you’re feeling scared, it often means you did something different.
And likely, something intentional.

It’s okay if anxiety shows up after you try a new behavior.
You don’t need to judge it.
You don’t need to wish it away.
You don’t need to explain yourself into calm.

Just notice it.
Stay with yourself.
Let the experience be what it is.

This is part of the process.
You don’t have to rush through it.

12/18/2025

We are who we are because of our lineage and our experiences.
That didn’t happen by accident.

We can’t change our lineage.
But we can introduce new experiences.

Big change doesn’t usually come from big decisions or big moments.
It comes from small moments where we do something a little different,
and the body realizes,
“Oh. That can happen. I didn’t disappear.”

That’s how things begin to shift.
Small changes create new experiences,
and new experiences slowly change what we believe.

Often before the mind catches up and starts analyzing everything.

If your mind gets anxious after you try something new,
that doesn’t mean you did it wrong.
It usually means your body just learned something unfamiliar.

Let the body experience first.
You can make meaning of it later

12/18/2025

The year’s almost over and there’s still room to practice something new.

Not louder. Not sharper .
Just less hiding, while staying connected.

12/17/2025

This week is less about reflection and more about practice.

12/13/2025

People might push back when you choose yourself.

“You’re leaving already?”
“Stay longer.”
“Come on.”
Just love and wanting us around. AND…

Acceptance doesn’t mean staying past your limit.
It means listening when your body says, “That’s enough.”

You don’t owe anyone exhaustion ✨

12/13/2025

Sometimes acceptance sounds like:
“I’m overwhelmed.”

Not broken.
Not dramatic.
Just human.

Taking a bathroom break, stepping outside, sitting alone for a minute
isn’t avoidance.

It’s listening to your nervous system.
Accept what you need. Take the break.

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