Authentic SF

12/12/2017

Last week, Michael Porcelli recorded a live webinar discussing how to apply Authentic Relating where it matters most.

Consider setting aside some time before the holidays to have a listen to this presentation, followed by some good Q&A from the participants.

12/02/2017

Hi Authentic SF,

Happy 1st of December!

I wanted to share a few posts that make for good weekend reading.

Authentic Relating was recently featured in The Atlantic!! Shout out to Sara Ness and Bryan Bayer for being featured. :)

My brother Michael Porcelli wrote a blog post in response to the article. Here's a preview quote from his post:

"Authentic Relating Games are not primarily what Authentic Relating is about. The real pay-dirt from Authentic Relating comes once you’ve internalized the the principles, the skills, and ways of being to such a degree, it’s like riding a bike, impossible to forget. This means you’ll be capable of creating the kind of connection you want and having the kind of impact you want in your day-to-day connections wherever, whenever, and with whomever you want."

I hope you all have a fantastic weekend.

Love,

Matt Porcelli

by Michael Porcelli Recently, Authentic Relating was featured in The Atlantic, told from the point of view of someone fairly new to Authentic Relating Games. If you haven’t read the article, I recommend you check it out. I think it’s a great starting point for a conversation about what is possib...

06/21/2017

I'm leading a Game Night on change tomorrow night in Berkeley. Part of the inspiration for picking the topic of "change" was this The Oatmeal comic from Matt Inman.

In it he breaks down a fascinating psychological behavior called "the backfire effect" which explains why changing one's beliefs can be so difficult.

I hope you enjoy the article and if you're free, I'd love to see you at the game night tomorrow evening! Here's the link: https://www.facebook.com/events/1923057591300488/

Love,

Matt Porcelli

This is a comic about the backfire effect.

08/10/2016

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Women's Authentic Relating & Embodied Expression
A day-long retreat
with Kendra Cunov

Sunday August 28th, 11-5p
Cedar House Community

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**Early-Bird Ticket sales end THIS Saturday, August 13th**

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/womens-authentic-relating-embodiment-retreat-tickets-25910028593
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This will be an experiential day-long deep-dive & retreat into discovering our

True Desire.
Our Genuine Connection.
Our full Yes.
Our strong No.
Our Authentic Expression

Through yoga, dance, meditation, relational practices, solo exploration & group experiences.

We will spend the day deeply connecting to ourselves, each other & nature - in service of deep relaxation & soul nourishment, genuine sisterhood, real self-love, and standing strong in the our fullness as women!

All woman-identified humans are welcome

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An Authentic Relating Retreat for Women: Discover your Authentic Desire Explore your Authentic Pleasure Claim your Authentic Power ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- “We have been raised to fear the yes within ourselves, our deepest cravings.” -Audr...

08/03/2016

I happened upon this little gem from about 8 years ago:
(I remember because I was newly pregnant with Trent!)

Decker & Kendra Cunov being interviewed by Stuart Evan Davis, for S*x, God, Rock 'n Roll

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DDlxhb3xCks

(from Kendra)
There are ways that this is an odd clip to reference, since Decker & I are no longer married, nor do I consider myself to be polyamorous.

But I 100% stand behind this:

"What I truly believe is this - that the most unconventional thing {in relationship} is for each person to look inside & say, "this is what I want." "
-Kendra Cunov
(sometimes present me is really proud of past me)

This is what I teach to this day - with absolute conviction & fierceness.

Know yourself.
Love yourself.

Do better than to accept yourself.
Honor yourself & ALL that you desire!

That doesn't mean you should never compromise.

But do so as a choice, from love, with full knowledge & honoring.

There is nothing more radical.

Love,
Kendra

www.kendracunov.com

In the extended cut of Episode 1: Wisdom of the Body (exclusive to God & Rock n Roll Members), Stuart talks with guests Decker and Kendra Cunov about their e...

06/29/2016

REFLECTION * CONNECTION * CURIOSITY

These are cornerstones of any Authentic Relationship.
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Come practice & learn how to take these practices into the relationships in your life - With a Master Facilitator of Authentic Relating & Co-Founder of Authentic World, Kendra Cunov - In this half-day mini-intensive:

Sunday July 10
11-3:30p

More information & Registration here:
http://tinyurl.com/ztrh9yu

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REFLECTION:
*How do we impact others in ways we aren't even aware of?
*Learn how to offer reflection to others in a way that creates more connection

CONNECTION:
*Explore & expand your capacity to enjoy the genuine connectin that is available in any interaction.
*Practice creating the kind of connection(s) you genuiniely want in your life.

CURIOSITY:
*Tap in to your Authentic Curiosity
*Discover how to bring your Genuine Curiosity in any situation, in service of creating deeper connection

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More information & Registration here:
http://tinyurl.com/ztrh9yu

05/18/2016

Authentic Relating:
Creating Real & Deep Connections
-anywhere, anytime, with anyone

Thursday May 26th, 7-9:30p
Berkeley CA

Space is limited & pre-registration is requested:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/authenticsf-authentic-relating-creating-real-deep-connections-tickets-25311611712

05/10/2016

WOMEN
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*last chance to register for the all-women Authentic Relating evening this Thursday - registration closes tomorrow (Wednesday) night*
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This will be an experiential evening of discovering our true Desire.
Our full Yes.
Our strong No.
Our authentic Pleasure.

Not for a man, or to get something from another.
Not to look good, or 'be s*xy'.

For our own sake.
For the sake of LIFE itself.

All woman-identified humans are welcome.

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Authentic Desire & Pleasure
an All-Women Authentic Relating Games Night
Thursday May 12th, 7-9p
Sebastopol CA

Pre-registration required:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/womens-authentic-relating-authentic-pleasure-tickets-24884480150

04/25/2016

Whoa!!!

We really did not expect The Art of Fearless Intimacy, that John Wineland & Kendra Cunov are teaching in May to sell out over 3 weeks before the event!!!

We will definitely be looking at adding another day-long up here - probably in the fall.

Please let Kendra know if you want to be notified when we do set that date :)

*beautiful photo capture by Christina Berkley

03/16/2016

Authentic Generosity
*THIS* Saturday!
March 19th, 4:30-7p

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/authentic-relating-sebastopol-generous-authenticity-tickets-21398457362

03/08/2016

The next Authentic Relating evening will be *this* Saturday
March 19th, 4:30-7p
Sebastopol CA
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The theme is: Generous Authenticity
All the exercises will be designed to bring you into deeper intimacy with Who You Truly Are, and offer opportunities to share yourself Generously with the people around you.
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Pre-register to reserve your spot:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/authentic-relating-sebastopol-generous-authenticity-tickets-21398457362

(Although walk-in's are welcome, these events typically sell out via pre-registration...)
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What is "Authentic Relating"?

It could be said there are three types of relating:

1) Informational. Questions such as: "What do you do?" and "Where are you from?" Often important to exchange this info, but lacking real depth.

2) Personal. Questions like: "What are you passionate about?" These can be valuable questions, but may still miss the level of connection we crave.

3) Relational. Where we share our actual experience, in the moment & notice what's it actually like being with each other, in real time.

At AuthenticSF events, we focus on this third, deeper kind of relating.
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All are welcome. Bring a friend, bring your partner, or come solo! Even if you've known someone for years, these events are an excellent opportunity to connect in a new way.

These events are a safe place to take risks and play a little more outside the box in a way that allows us to discover more of ourselves than we often do in our everyday lives - all in service of creating more of what we want in ALL of our relationships - while also having a great time on an otherwise innocent Saturday afternoon.
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Kendra Cunov is a co-founder of Authentic World & has been teaching, facilitating, and (most importantly) practicing Circling & Authentic Relating for over a decade. She brings a genuine care for people, as well as an extraordinary depth of insight, in service of people becoming more whole & living deeply fulfilling lives. Kendra's training in coaching & group change work creates a dynamic & engaging style of leadership, blending uniquely with her years of practice (and upbringing) in a Buddhist monastery to inspire a profoundly clear & open approach to working with her clients.

www.KendraCunov.com

03/01/2016

GENEROUS AUTHENTICITY

Now is the time for us to be the Permission Givers.
Now is the time to share our heart first.
Now is the time to be True to ourselves & Generous with our Love.

Friday March 11th
7-10pm
Bay Area Location

**Please Note: Every AuthenticSF Authentic Relating evening has SOLD OUT ahead of time!

You can pre-register here:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/authenticsf-authentic-relating-generous-authenticity-tickets-21398193573

(image by Dharma Comics)

02/26/2016

GENEROUS AUTHENTICITY
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Years ago I heard a teacher offer guidance to a student, who responded by saying something to the effect of, "But that's just not ME..."

The teacher looked down & paused, and what he said next has stayed with me, all these years later.

He said, "If you knew it would open the hearts of the people around you, would you do it anyway?"

There is a dynamic tension between Authenticity (or, who we know ourselves to be) & Generosity (or, offering our hearts in ways that may not always feel comfortable).

This dynamic tension is the space I have been exploring a LOT lately.

And what I am finding is there are many Me's.
In any given moment, there are a multitude of Truths, feelings & experiences that I could share or express.

AND, I have a tendency to choose the same flavors over & over again.

I am more comfortable with the calm & quiet flavors.
I am less comfortable with the angry & passionate ones.

I am more comfortable holding space for others.
I am less comfortable revealing my vulnerable heart.

I am being coaxed out, in various relationships to be more GENEROUS in offering myself - and not just the parts I typically feel comfortable sharing.

Right now, take a moment.
Notice what you are feeling.
What else?
And, what else?

Which of those feelings are you expressing externally & which are you likely to keep internal?

What wouldit look like if you let THOSE ones be expressed?
Even just a little more?
Even just in the privacy of your own room?
Or with one person you trust?

Can you be just a little more Generous with your love, by revealing MORE of yourself?

Love,
Kendra
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If you'd like to practice playing in this realm, join me (Kendra Cunov) for
Authentic Relating: Generous Authenticity
Friday, March 11th
7-10p
Berkeley or Oakland Location - TBA

Register here:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/authenticsf-authentic-relating-generous-authenticity-tickets-21398193573

01/12/2016

PUTTING THE F**K BACK IN AUTHENTIC RELATING

I love Authentic Relating.
Clearly.
It's kind of my thing ;)

However, I do find that one of the 'pitfalls' of Authentic Relating *can* be a lack of polarity, or s*xual charge.

Emphasis on *can*.

It doesn't have to be this way.

It is 100% possible to Authentically share your Desire{s}.
Or ask a total stranger out in a way that's totally hot, and also honors everyone's humanity.

You can absolutely create an electric connection, or build a relationship that stays on fire over the years, while staying deeply connected to what's actually true for you {and for your lover} - in fact that's part of the secret {ssshhhhhhh......}.

On January 26th, John Wineland & Kendra Cunov will be offering the next session in our Art of Authentic Intimacy series: The Law{s} of Attraction

This will be an evening of Deep Practice & a rare opportunity to really dive into the topics of s*x & desire in a co-ed setting.

This event is for women & men, couples & singles.
The only prerequisite is that you be ready to step outside your comfort zone, in service of real Authentic Intimacy.

Space is limited & pre-registration is required:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-art-of-authentic-intimacy-the-laws-of-attraction-tickets-20138920052

PS - every event John & Kendra have lead over the last year has SOLD OUT - register now to confirm your spot!

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John & Kendra are both passionately committed to men & women having deep, satisfying relationships with each other, and have over 20 years combined experience, both teaching & practicing the Art of Authentic Intimacy.
Their workshops are both playful & sacred, s*xy & practical, fun & powerfully transformational.

12/29/2015

The Art of Authentic Intimacy: The Law{s} of Attraction
With Kendra Cunov & John Wineland
January 26th, 7-10p
Santa Monica, CA

This will be an evening of Deep Practice, exploring the questions:

What is Authentic Attraction?
What doe it mean to *create* Attraction from an Authentic place?
How connected can I be to my own Desire, while staying connected to another?

For Women & Men, Couples & Singles.

Space is limited & pre-registration is required:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-art-of-authentic-intimacy-the-laws-of-attraction-tickets-20138920052

11/24/2015

The Art of Authentic Intimacy:
Taking Your Lover Deeper Than They Can Go Themselves
with John Wineland & Kendra Cunov
is **SOLD OUT**

Please let us know if you would like to be added to the waiting list and/or added to our mailing list, to be notified when we teach this again (likely late January).

Love,
John & Kendra

https://www.facebook.com/events/1660159287589285/